https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 13:13:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting/page/2#post-2512052 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 17:29:21 +0000 Silva 2512052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was 20/21 I dated a guy who was 28 or 29. For five months. And then he stopped talking to me. I was really upset and confused, mostly pissed though. Ashamed of the number of drunk dials he got from me. But I got over it pretty quickly. Turns out I never really liked him that much.<br /> He remains ridiculously immature to this day. We have a mutual friend, and I comfort myself by knowing that he considers me "the one that got away" (faulty logic there, bro).<br /> Pretty safe to say I dodged a bullet there. His mom still leaves leftovers in the fridge for him to pick up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting/page/2#post-2512014 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 16:36:13 +0000 MediaNaranja 2512014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this happen with a friend a few years ago...we kind of ghosted each other, ha.</p> <p>I was living abroad in a place with really shoddy communication...like, there was one public phone in the town, no internet, and I had a cellphone that sometimes worked but mostly didn't. A good friend (probably my best friend at the time) had a rough patch, was hospitalized, etc...I was just never able to get a hold of her...and the more time that passed the more awkward it felt...and then she deleted her facebook &amp; no longer responded to emails....and it's been nearly 8 years at this point and it still kind of bothers me. But I fully admit I ghosted first!!</p> <p>Her mom came into my workplace a few years ago and I really wanted to talk to her to see how my friend was, but it was SO busy with customers that she slipped out before I had a free moment. Booo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting/page/2#post-2511999 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 16:21:55 +0000 Raindrop 2511999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't think of a poll today... so shamelessly bumping this one for more votes! Haha. Hopefully more stories too. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting/page/2#post-2510999 Thu, 31 Mar 2016 00:41:06 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2510999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In these situations, I feel like it's harder with friendships than romantic relationships, honestly. I had a really close friend-a best friend- and we had a rough patch of fighting a lot and kind of stopped speaking. She has ghosted me a lot over the last 10 years on and off, and it's insane since we used to talk every day. Long story short, the ghosting sucks because she treated me like shit and I feel like I need to iron some stuff out with her for my own sanity. We've been in touch recently and there's a chance we'll see one another this summer (she lives on the other side of the world so it's kind of a big deal if it happens) and I'm sincerely hoping this will give me closure. Or she'll go back to ghosting me :wink: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting/page/2#post-2510996 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 23:59:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 2510996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did a lot of ghosting in college because I didn't know how to end things 🙈 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510984 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 23:01:45 +0000 HLK208 2510984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: I totally get that. One friend who "ghosted" me was going through her own stuff--and I get why she stopped talking to me (she lost both of her parents right after I had my oldest LO). I called her and sent e-mails but I never heard back. I had a newborn so I couldn't be there for her the way I wanted to be. I still miss her! But I think she needed people who could completely support her at the time. It didn't hurt me though because I knew she was hurting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510949 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 21:25:54 +0000 LovelyPlum 2510949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ScarletBegonia: whaaaat???</p> <p>I did ghost someone, once. She was a very close friend for a long time. She thought we were best friends for most of elementary and high school, and even past college. The truth was, though, that her idea of what a best friend is/was were very different from mine. I stuck up for her through a ton of teasing when we were young, but I never felt like I was as comfortable around her as she was around me. She was loud and crazy and liked to push boundaries, all of which made me nervous and anxious. She convinced me to lie to my mother over something stupid-it was the one and only time I've ever lied to her, and I hated it the instant things went south. Still, we were friends, even after I moved away after college. But at some point, I just couldn't anymore. We were both in the middle of some rough things, but I needed to be there for myself more than I needed to be there for her. And so we drifted. I got evasive about why I wasn't returning messages, and then one day I just stopped making excuses and didn't respond. It's terrible, I know. But I was sick of feeling like a lesser part of the friendship, and that my issues didn't matter because they weren't dramatic enough or whatever. And I know it hurt her, which sucks. I'm not proud of how I did it. But truth be told, I needed out of that relationship, so I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510900 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 20:15:09 +0000 skipra 2510900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have ghosted and been ghosted! And they were all early 20's not real relationships so now nbd.<br /> I can't say I blame the guy who did it to me. Right after graduating college, living at home for the summer to save money, on a break with my bf but not officially done, and plans to move across the country. I was totally honest with him and never planned for it to be more than a summer fling. He was not happy when the not quite ex visited for a couple days and called drunk in the middle of the night. I think we maybe talked once afterwards and then radio silence. I moved as planned and he randomly called months later. I don't think he actually expected me to move.<br /> The guy I ghosted showed up on our second date with a Mohawk because he thought it would piss off his parents. Um we were like 23, not 16 and I just didn't want to deal. He kept calling and texting and I should have just said something but instead let a guy coworker answer my phone at a bar one time. Never heard anything after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510848 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 19:08:10 +0000 erinpye 2510848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: I'm so sorry. That makes me sad and angry for you. I think it's actually pretty passive aggressive to do that-- that's why in my reply before I said it's cruel. Most people know ending a relationship abruptly and giving no explanation is painful, and they do it knowing that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510819 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 18:28:31 +0000 nana87 2510819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been ghosted by a friend--someone I thought was my best friend--and it was honestly the most painful relationship end I've ever been through, worse than romantic break ups (though to be fair, dh is the most serious relationship I've ever been in...). She completely disappeared on me right at a moment I really needed her too, as my grandmother had just passed away. It was during college, and the last thing she said to me was right before I left to go study abroad: we were both going to be in our hometown that coming summer, and she said "I can't wait to spend the summer with you!" I came back from abroad and she just disappeared on me. I'm pretty sure it had to do with her partner--we never got along and I told my friend I thought she could do better while they were broken up, but then they got back together...but seriously?? F'd up to end a 9 year best-friendship like that! (also it's been 11 years since that happened and it still pisses me off when I think about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510795 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 17:59:19 +0000 Raindrop 2510795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ScarletBegonia: Cra cra story! I'm sorry you went through that. So happy to hear that things worked out for the best. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510783 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 17:46:31 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2510783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was ghosted by a boyfriend and it was one of the most painful things I've ever been through - and to be honest it still causes trust issues for me. </p> <p>Story time?<br /> I met a guy online, but not on a dating site - this was 2003 and discussion forums were becoming huge - i was a massive Jack Johnson fan and spent ALL my time on the fan forums (dead end job where I had nothing to do but all-day computer access) - started talking to a guy who lived in another country, became super intimate online very quickly, progressed to phone and finally visited each other, twice each way, said I love you, started making plans for the future etc. Amidst all this my best friend was moving to Australia to study, and the plan had always been for me to travel there with her and backpack for a few months. He begged me not to go and I was so close to not going, but in the end I still went and we promised to stay together and do long distance while I was away (originally planned to be away 4 months). We made plans to talk 3X a week and he even looked into coming for a few weeks himself to join me. Well, 3 days after landing he COMPLETELY ghosted me - stopped answering my calls, emails, but was still SUPER active on the forum we both frequented. So it was like ghosting+ - I couldn't just pretend he had died or something, I knew he was there (and flirting with other members) but he absolutely refused to talk to me in any way. I was devastated. </p> <p>The happy ending is that I stayed in Australia for 11 more years and am now married to a hot accented aussie while he is stuck in his podunk town (yes, I've facebook stalked). </p> <p>It was the worst and ruined a good 3 weeks of my time backpacking, and I still pretty much hate him for it. It makes you feel insane and I think thats the worst part. </p> <p>Anyway, alls well that ends well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510774 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 17:30:25 +0000 Raindrop 2510774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotpink: Wow, unfriended you and moved out of town! I think that's ghosting to another level. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510758 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 17:06:39 +0000 hotpink 2510758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just learned the term ghosted too. </p> <p>I was ghosted by a friend after having my first baby. When I told her I was pregnant she said she was excited for me but she always pictured us being pregnant and raising our kids together. Which sounded sweet. But I was at a point in my life where I was married and ready for kids and she was really enjoying being single and dating and doing whatever she wanted. Anyways she totally ghosted me when baby was born. I sent her texts and pics of baby and I heard nothing back. We had been talking like normal just a week before. As I was busy adjusting to life with a newborn she Unfriended me on Facebook and moved out of town! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510738 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 16:34:49 +0000 HLK208 2510738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I did! I met DH through that HS boyfriend. DH and I remained friends after his best friend "ghosted" me (and eventually started dating). Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510730 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 16:23:49 +0000 Mama Bird 2510730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ghosted a friend once. It wasn't anything she did, but there was a lot of negativity in the relationship and I felt awful after every time we talked. There's just no nice way to say that you don't want to be friends, so I kept our interaction to a minimum for a long time. And then something happened that I just couldn't bring myself to share with her, and I spent so much time psyching myself up to call her that I just... didn't. In hindsight I should have been a stronger person and stayed in her life despite the negativity.</p> <p>And another friend ghosted me recently. I'm sad but having done it, I know where she's coming from and I respect that she sees us as too different now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510713 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 16:08:35 +0000 Raindrop 2510713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: Oh okay I'm back to asking my original question. WHAT?!?! He was the best man at your wedding? Did you marry his best friend? :shocked: Sorry being nosy!! But I think other people want to know too!! Hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510709 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 16:05:30 +0000 HLK208 2510709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: bahaha, sorry! But I'll add in that he was the best man in our wedding and his wife (the previous girlfriend who he "cheated" on while he dated me) did not attend. We also weren't invited to their wedding :silly: </p> <p>Maybe he thought they were broken up. Maybe he ghosted her? Haha. Regardless, I felt bad for her at the time too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510703 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:59:41 +0000 Raindrop 2510703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: Opps you adjusted your comment. Nevermind! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510699 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:54:31 +0000 HLK208 2510699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never romantically but with friends, yes. To me, it's just drifting apart which is a normal part of life.</p> <p>Eta: I did have one HS boyfriend who stopped talking to me. I found out later on that he never broke up with his previous girlfriend. I was pretty bummed but moved on quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510693 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:41:04 +0000 Corduroy 2510693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was ghosted by my HS BFF. I called her one day just to chat thinking things were normal. She said she would call me right back. She never picked up my calls again. No email response. Won't friend me on facebook when she joined (maybe that isn't ghosting since I can see that she now has a facebook). Now I see that I wasn't there for her when she really needed me and I feel really badly but I was clueless at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510676 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:17:11 +0000 Raindrop 2510676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: Haha oh I was actually agreeing with you when you called it "immature" by pointing out it that a lot of stories were when we were all younger aka more immature probably. Sorry I wasn't more clear. :)</p> <p>Though I will admit I did sort of ghost a long term friend (I didn't completely stop talking to him but I stop making any effort) because I was really hurt by what happened. Here is my thread about it. Haha. <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/friendship-question</a> I still haven't talked to him about it!! Yikes! :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510672 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:14:26 +0000 sunny 2510672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: yes it is totally cruel! </p> <p>I was ghosted by a guy I was sort of dating. We had been friends for years and he just decided to stop talking to me. I was heart broken! I think if he had explained himself I would have taken it better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510671 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:09:05 +0000 erinpye 2510671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I wasn't calling any prev posters out! I don't think anyone admitted to ghosting a long term friend :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510669 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:07:43 +0000 Modern Daisy 2510669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: @Raindrop: I know! Well maybe there were other issues going on and this was just part of it? Nothing I was aware of though. I think she is also kind of a troubled person - she came from an abusive broken home and was kind of squatting with relatives when I knew her. Not that it explains everything but could have played a factor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510668 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:07:34 +0000 Raindrop 2510668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: Haha I think a lot of these stories are during a lot of people's younger years. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510641 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 14:40:22 +0000 erinpye 2510641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've drifted apart from people but never ghosted someone. I've had it done to me twice by friends. I think it's immature, and very hurtful when done by someone you've known and had a relationship with for a while. Leaving someone intentionally without closure or explanation can even be downright cruel. I think sometimes people just lack proper communication skills. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510629 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 14:29:07 +0000 Raindrop 2510629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: Wow that's terrible! Over a pair of pants! Yeah I agree with @Caly: ... a real friend wouldn't do that to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510593 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 14:12:51 +0000 Caly 2510593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: whoa, ghosting a real relationship, especially a couple year relationship is awful! Pull up the big girl panties and break it off with the person!</p> <p>@moderndaisy: over a pair of jeans? Ummm...isn't that what a real friend should do, tell the honest truth? :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ghosting#post-2510592 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 14:12:45 +0000 artsyfartsy 2510592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A blind date I went on was too handsy. I never spoke to him again </p>