https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 16:31:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-716096 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:52:45 +0000 swurlygurl 716096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am dreading this... I really don't want DD to have sugar before 1, and very limited after that. DH's family is very into their sweets, and MIL loooves playing the 'that's what Grandma's are for' card. I have 3 more months until I have to deal with this... hopefully they'll listen to my wishes!!</p> <p>@Bao: That really sucks!! I see MIL to this to her other grandkids all the time. Mom says no, but she gives the kids what they want anyway. I'm hoping that since I'm not her own daughter she'll want to respect my wishes more? I can hope... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-716058 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:45:23 +0000 sorrycharlie 716058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I just snorted out loud imagining that! NOOOO!</p> <p>@Bao: ugh, I feel for you. you already know what I'd say. My dad so badly wanted to give her a taste of pound cake (which all things considered, isn't horrible) and respected me when I asked him not to yet. I can't imagine how hurt I'd feel if he went and did it anyway. I imagine I'd feel as though he thought I was a crappy parent and that he makes better decisions for her than I. Which is not right! I want to poke your mom in the forehead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-716043 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:42:42 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 716043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: screw that! I'd be so pissed. I would tell her she got to raise you like she wanted and now its your turn to raise your child as you wish &amp; that you would appreciate her cooperation. There are no extra snacks allowed with out your permission, period! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715967 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:23:31 +0000 Cherrybee 715967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm dreading this!! </p> <p>There's a photo of me as a baby that my mum LOVES from my first Christmas, lying across my godmother's lap being fed Cadbury's Roses (a box of chocolates, basically). There is chocolate all round my mouth. I was 7 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715937 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:13:46 +0000 Bao 715937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The thing is I JUST told her no. My niece and nephews are here and they were eating the poptarts for breakfast (what was sent for them, not my choice) so those werent even in my house. Yes, we eat treats but when I say no don't go behind my back 5 seconds later!!!! The funny thing is, 2 minutes prior she opened the fridge and was like wow that's a lot of fruit! Ok...so give her that! Gaaaah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715920 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:08:37 +0000 mediagirl 715920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, my Mom likes to make jokes about giving lo sweets. "That's what Grandma's are for!!" Maybe when she's 7, it's what Grandma's are for but not when she's under 1... She also found it hilarious that M "wanted" to eat my Dad's carrots and celery when she was sitting on his lap, not thinking she could gnaw off a hunk and choke on it. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715919 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:07:36 +0000 T.H.O.U. 715919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: Ahh that is frustrating. The best thing I found to help is to have a bunch of options that are "approved" to give to your LO. My MIL was babysitting one day and asked if LO could have a piece of her McD's hasbrown... um NO! I just said, no, we don't want her having that but she has a shelf in the pantry and in the fridge of plenty of food if you would like to pick something out to give her. Giving her (my MIL) the ability to pick things helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715902 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 08:02:59 +0000 Sammyfab 715902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: ugh!! I'm so angry for you! Stuff like chocolate pop tarts is ok for me after 2-ish...but 7 months?!?! No freaking way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715892 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 07:56:29 +0000 Bao 715892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh!!! My mom just gave her a chocolate poptart, when I JUST told her no. I'm so frustrated, and then she makes me feel like crap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715081 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 20:42:12 +0000 FancyGem 715081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just tell them no, or not yet. Maybe you can say that the Dr. doesn't think t is time to introduce those foods yet and you are following his/her advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715073 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 20:41:08 +0000 prettylizy 715073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've really stuck to our guns about keeping her off crappy food and luckily they have all listened. We made a lot of changes to what we eat so that we set a good example. I can hardly down a bowl of ice cream and say that DD isn't allowed any. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715071 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 20:40:20 +0000 mrbee 715071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's why dirty looks were invented!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-715063 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 20:36:29 +0000 heffalump 715063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom always gets on me for that. I don't like her to have certain things and my mom likes to tell everyone around us, "artbee doesn't let her eat that." And it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong and depriving her. But I still don't give her the food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714870 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 19:11:20 +0000 wheres_c 714870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: ooh I'm wondering how to handle that. I'm vegetarian but SO isn't, and the compromise has always been that DS will occasionally eat organic grass fed meat once he starts solids, but no chicken nugget processed junk. I *know* the in laws will try to feed him their 99 cents a pound sketchy meat that they feed SO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714865 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 19:08:31 +0000 FarmWifeGina 714865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Thankfully all the older relatives in my life are pretty health conscious and appreciate that I try to limit junk food to my kids, but I've had a lot of other people make remarks. Pisses me off to no end. It's like I have to feed my kid the way they eat so they can feel better about their choices. And sometimes I crumble and say, fine, give them a cookie. They eat candy and stuff so rarely at home, having crap once I awhile won't kill them, but it still makes me mad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714842 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 18:56:00 +0000 rachiecakes 714842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah my great-aunt fed DS Fritos on Easter and he puked. I'd say 'ooohh LO has a really sensitive tummy, I don't want him/her to throw up'</p> <p>We're both vegetarians and I know someone someday is going to try to give him a chicken nugget or hotdog.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714835 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 18:53:11 +0000 Andrea 714835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the grandparents always say this. Drives me nuts! I just say that those foods have no nutritional value and I don't want my kids eating that stuff. They still think we are so uptight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714803 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 18:43:29 +0000 Ginger333 714803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just flat out tell people we don't want our baby eating that crap ... it also goes for our older kids too. They're used to us delaying solids (for babies) and not allowing the kids to eat fast food (or other crap). It took a while, and they questioned me a lot, but it's easier now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714780 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 18:38:55 +0000 Sammyfab 714780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's definitely an older generation/grandma thing and it drives me nuts!!! </p> <p>I'm not super strict about what my LO eats but I don't want him to eat a bunch of crap either. My MIL pointed out that she had some Teddy Grahams that I could give him and I said "no thanks." She asked why and I just told her that he has other snacks to eat. Just make sure you have plenty of food that you do want your LO to eat on-hand so that the elder generation won't think you're depriving your baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714765 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 18:35:49 +0000 Arden 714765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ug, that would drive me crazy. I know we're going to be dealing with it soon. My grandma will be trying to feed her sugar free ice cream and telling me it's "healthy". Dear god, just thinking about it is about to give me a heart attack!</p> <p>I have no advice really, I'll probably just scream "Nooo!" and everyone will be too scared to try again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-her-a-cookie#post-714759 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 18:34:03 +0000 Bao 714759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 7 months old and is now eating what we eat. Family members of mine, who are of an older generation are always saying things like "Can she have a brownie", "will she be eating pizza (take out/greasy) with us?", "oh just give her a cookie, I always gave you cookies at that age." I get frustrated because DH and I don't want her to have that crap. Sure, we eat it sometimes but our 7 month old doesn't need it. We are actually working on our eating habits to set a good example for her. Anyway, I need advice on how to get our point across nicely that she won't be eating junk food! Has anyone dealt with this? </p>