https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 30 May 2026 09:18:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-711459 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 12:27:03 +0000 Revel 711459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh wow, I could write this post, although the roots of my troubles are different. I am 33 weeks and while I still feel physically pretty ok, I'm just really battling negativity this week. I have some personal stuff going on and I've had terrible insomnia. I've had an easy pregnancy too, but I just can't shake this funk this week. It's very unlike me.</p> <p>It has helped to at least acknowledge the feelings with those around me. I'm very much an upbeat person who doesn't like to share when things are going poorly, but expressing how I'm feeling has been helpful. I'm sorry your mom and friends aren't there to listen though.</p> <p>I also feel you on the weight. I'm up over 30 pounds and just feeling so large. My shower still isn't for a few weeks and I'm totally depressed about how big I'm going to be when I have to see all my friends and family. Sadly, all the assurances that it's normal are cold comfort right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-711441 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 12:19:27 +0000 Bookish 711441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Thanks :) Yeah, I really thought I would enjoy pregnancy more than I am. It sucks! I haven't tried a chiropractor yet, but I do go to Physical Therapy every couple of weeks for my tension headaches, so that helps a bit. If it gets much worse I'm going to have to look into a chiro or more PT. </p> <p>@tororojo: Haha I do feel like I deserve new shoes! I'm just afraid to buy any because I'm worried they won't fit after pregnancy :p I need to just suck it up and buy something that cheers me up.</p> <p>I appreciate the commiseration, ladies. I don't think I would be so upset if I just had someone IRL I could talk to. My good friend changes the subject when I talk about my prengnacy, my mom and I do not have a good relationship so I can't talk to her, and my sisters are only 20 and have their own crap to deal with. It just sucks not having anyone to vent to! I need mommy friends lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710901 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:48:58 +0000 tororojo 710901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( Pregnancy is so hard; sorry you're having a tough time! You totally deserve new shoes to get you through the next 3 months. And if it makes you feel at all better, I gained 45 lbs during pregnancy and lost 35 the first month pp without doing anything. Don't feel bad about weight gain! Not that you should go on a strictly big mac diet, but you're supposed to gain weight and not everyone will stay in the 25-35 range. But it is hard on the joints, ugh. And someday you'll quit being hungry 24/7, which is so relaxing...it's tiring to be hungry all the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710748 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:18:01 +0000 Foodnerd81 710748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are feeling lousy. I've had many weeks where I was just really surprised by how little I was enjoying pregnancy-- I thought I'd be one of those people who just loved every moment, then morning sickness and fatigue hit. Thankfully that's lifted now but I'm getting to the point where my back and joints are constantly sore. I think all you can do is really take it easy on yourself-- so you don't exercise like you thought you would, or you gain a little more weight than expected-- you are being healthy and growing a healthy baby and that's important part, not the number of reps at the gym or minutes on the elliptical. </p> <p>For the back, have you ever been to a chiropractor? My midwife suggested it yesterday-- really, said said chiro, massage, yoga, and acupuncture could all help with the soreness, but she often recommends the chiro first since it's usually covered by insurance. I'm dying for a massage but the prenatal ones are so expensive I feel like I should wait until I'm feeling even worse. </p> <p>Also, I know when my mom was pregnant with me, my dad made a comment at the end of the 2nd trimester about how that was the end of the "good" trimester and she just burst into tears because she felt awful all through it. She actually felt way better in the 3rd than she had the entire time, so maybe that will happen to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710744 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:17:04 +0000 Bookish 710744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: Thank you :)<br /> @MamaCate: Yeah, I've been saving a gift card I have to a spa for an emergency pedicure or hair cut, and I think I might go ahead and use it. lol.<br /> @swurlygurl: haha, yeah, my neighbor is due 2 weeks before me and she is the cutest pregnant woman ever. Plus she's chasing after a 10 month old and I can't even manage to put makeup on half the time. :p<br /> @cascademom: Yeah, I need to try and relax. I'll be done with my classes (taking online classes for master's) in a few weeks, and I think once that's done I'll feel a lot better. I've just got too much on my plate right now :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710555 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:30:38 +0000 cascademom 710555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take the third trimester as a time to calm down and relax. Just focus on relaxing on the couch or doing a hobby, something along that line. I remember that I couldn't make it to knit night because I dreaded walking from the El to the store. For me, that was my signal to relax about that. We didn't get the nursery done until days before LO arrived, but I think that brought on labor more than anything. Just relax and take good care of yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710547 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:28:12 +0000 swurlygurl 710547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry - I felt the same way! Didn't help that my SIL was the tiniest most energetic pregnant person you ever met... :/</p> <p>I don't really have any magical words :(</p> <p>Oh, get a pedicure :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710546 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:27:45 +0000 MamaCate 710546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuck! Poor you! Everyones body reacts to pregnacy differently so you never know how it will be for you until you are in it. Are there things you could do to take care of yourself (massage, pedicure, etc), or projects that would help you focu on when lo is here? We had no budget for massage but i spent a lot of evenings sewing birds for lo's mobile. It sometimes helped me to think about what mey body was working so hard to do--of course you are tired! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710457 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 07:57:23 +0000 sslm 710457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry :(. I was the same way at that point, and I don't know if this is encouraging, but it didn't really get worse until about 39 weeks! Haha. That's not that helpful. I just wanted to commiserate and to let you know that I've basically already forgotten about the uncomfortableness by now, at 40w3d. </p> <p>Hang in there!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-a-pep-talk-for-the-next-3-months-vent#post-710437 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 07:52:40 +0000 Bookish 710437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This Sunday I'll be 27 weeks (3rd trimester, yay!) but to be honest, I'm having a really hard time facing the fact that I will be pregnant for another 12+ weeks. </p> <p>Everything hurts. It hurts to stand, hurts to sit, hurts to roll over at night, and I'm not getting enough sleep because I'll wake up to pee or roll over and then be too uncomfortable to get back to sleep. Walking for more than 10 minutes has me gasping for air and needing to sit because my feet ache, and I only have 2 pairs of shoes that sort-of fit because my feet are so swollen. I've gained almost 30 lbs already despite efforts to keep myself moving and keep my food intake in check, and I feel like I look like a giant cow. Nothing fits. I'm pretty sure I have 3 chins. My depression (or preggo hormones) are kicking in, so I'm crying and grumpy all the time. </p> <p>In summary, I'm miserable. I just want LO to be here! DH is getting tired of me saying 'Ow' and crying all the time, and my friends really have very little interest in my pregnancy so I have no one IRL to vent to. </p> <p>I know I've been extremely lucky in that I have a healthy pregnancy so far, no GD, no high BP, but gosh, I guess I didn't realize I wouldn't be going a day without feeling sick, exhausted, starving, or just in pain! I know it will be worth it when she gets here, but I could really just use some encouragement. </p> <p>Sorry this was so whiny and long, big gold star if you read it :p </p>