https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 14:03:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2823241 Thu, 17 May 2018 14:20:39 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2823241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Awww :heart: congrats on getting LO in his room :) I'm still too scared to turn LO's crib into the toddler bed, so kudos :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2823063 Thu, 17 May 2018 07:39:47 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2823063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for the support! @mamabird: , @autumnmama79: , @irene: Last night (night 3) just before we said prayers LO made the connection he was going to sleep in his room. This morning he was awake when I went into his room and was just laying quietly waiting for me to come in and give me a big smile and big morning hug. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2823023 Wed, 16 May 2018 23:14:28 +0000 irene 2823023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Awww, he is so, so cute!</p> <p>I didn't go through this exact problem because DH was extremely strict about no sleeping in our bed. So that wasn't even an option and no one fights about it. Just a note of caution for the future though, at some point, when he is 3, 4, 5, 6, he'd have a nightmare or something and he'd want to snuggle up with you in the middle of the night. It is cute, sweet, and easy. Don't give into that, because that will grow back into the sleeping in your bed routine that you are now slowly but successfully getting away from :grin: </p> <p>Hugs!!!!! :heart: You are doing it!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2822908 Wed, 16 May 2018 16:23:33 +0000 Autumnmama79 2822908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Big progress indeed! While its hard to hear your child cry during sleep training, it becomes a distant memory when you get to sleep through the night, in your own bed, sans kid. :grin: </p> <p>Keep up the good work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2822859 Wed, 16 May 2018 11:52:15 +0000 Mama Bird 2822859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: aww, I think you're making progress! You can always tempt him to sleep in a bed when he's older with some cute sheets :happy: </p> <p>And yes, it's hard listening to them cry, but if it helps them sleep well later, it's worth it. I just read a post on another forum by someone who suffered from chronic insomnia since she was a child, and the pattern was so familiar. I totally thought that could be DD in a couple decades, if she kept up what she was doing before sleep training... so definitely no regrets now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2822774 Wed, 16 May 2018 03:32:16 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2822774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, so I stalled long enough until LO just was unbearable at bedtime Monday night. I hate that I put him in his room as punishment. There were toys all over his floor (not too bad, but still), forgot to leave him with his water bottle, and I didn’t have his humidifier in his room since it’s was on my nightstand. He protested and after about 12 minutes I saw that he was asleep. He woke up in the MOTN crying for me, but went back to sleep in a few minutes.</p> <p>The next day I set up his room for success- moved the humidifier, put all the toys away, plugged in the Marpac. After a long dinner we went upstairs. I immediately changed his clothes and we began to read books. I turned on the white noise and he was curious about where it was coming from. We took turns touching it and went back to reading. Said prayers and I said my goodbyes. He protested during my exit. When I got back to my room and on my phone to see what he was doing I saw he was up, but not at the door. He unplugged the white noise. :silly: This time he was asleep within a few minutes and again woke up MOTN for just a few. </p> <p>He doesn’t want to sleep in his bed, so he’s on the floor with blankets and a pillow. The ped said this was okay, but DH (who doesn’t sleep &amp; struggle at night with him when he’s home and obviously when he’s OOT) doesn’t like that he’s on the floor. His room is a lot brighter- nightlight, door monkey leaves about 1-2” open of his door open, and the street/ neighbor house lights filter through his blinds. I think I’ll get some curtains to help with the light and dampen any street noise. </p> <p>Like anything else with parenting it’s seems so hard and daunting until you try it. Not saying hearing my baby cry for me is easy because it’s not at all. Moving him into his room was the right thing to do and less challenging than I imagined. Hoping for a several day positive streak to cement this new habit. </p> [attach=3033/18/p8tbzt.600x337.F1BC5D7B-98B5-4C95-8A6B-9795A9B4AC3B.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818729 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 17:37:52 +0000 DesertDreams88 2818729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our bedtime routine is potty, teeth, change clothes onto pjs, 2 books, prayer, sound machine, lights, one song, done.</p> <p>We have door knob covers in his room bc one day he wandered around the house unsupervised for 20 min while I laid in bed thinking DH was home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818708 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 15:35:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2818708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The door protectors will arrive tomorrow just in time to try a new sleep routine this weekend. @Autumnmama79: I like your ideas. </p> <p>@josina: that is a genius product. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818692 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 14:49:31 +0000 josina 2818692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm mostly just following along with this thread b/c I have a 3-1/2 year old who comes to our bed around midnight every night, and we let him sleep with us because it's easier than kicking him out / letting him cry.</p> <p>But, though I'd suggest some sort of projector/noise machine like the one we use: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/B01M19POYO/ref=dp_olp_0?ie=UTF8&#038;condition=all&#038;qid=1524771979&#038;sr=8-21" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/B01M19POYO/ref=dp_olp_0?ie=UTF8&#038;condition=all&#038;qid=1524771979&#038;sr=8-21</a><br /> DS loves it, it comes back on if he cries/yells, he can pick out the song/noise and the design that it displays.<br /> We have little problems getting him to go to bed at night since we got this; Getting him to stay though... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818674 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 14:07:21 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2818674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: So, LO won't bed share with us, she thinks our room is for play, but I'll tell you what we've been doing to get through the 2 year sleep regression and maybe it'll help. She's been waking up in the middle of the night, wide awake, ready to play, not needing anything. Since she's been sick so much this year, my normal reaction is to go in and check on her (note - she's still in a crib, we haven't transitioned yet - she tried to get out of the pnp once and got scared, so she hasn't tried to climb out of her crib yet). </p> <p>Well, one night I tried to get her to go back to bed for 2 hours and every time I tried to put her back in her crib she'd start screaming. So I tried laying on the floor with her, same reaction, tried the couch, same thing...eventually I gave up and was just going to let her CIO again when DH went in and just repeated to her over and over "lay down and go to sleep" for a good 20-30 minutes. She finally went to sleep. I had to do that again the day of her birthday party, she didn't want to go to sleep, so I went in and used his method, and it worked. </p> <p>So, *knock on wood* hopefully we're passed it, but for now she's back to going to bed fine and sleeping through the night. Good luck!! :goodluck: sorry for the novel!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818670 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:59:46 +0000 gingerbebe 2818670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's a 2 year sleep regression that's pretty rough. DS2 is going through it right now - granted he's still sleeping in his crib - but he basically cries and has a fit every night when I leave his room. DS1 went through it too. No matter how long I stay with them or how drowsy they are when I leave, they have a fit. So now I just drop them in the crib, stick to the same routine, and leave. They fall asleep eventually.</p> <p>With DS1, its been tough since we moved him to a big boy bed. After much trial and error, we've had to completely convert his room into a sensory deprivation chamber - like we had to view his room as a giant crib. White noise machine mounted to the wall, a doorknob cover, blacked out windows, put a lock on his closet door so he can't get in there, and took any toys out of his room except for his stuffies and a small guitar he is allowed to pluck and sing songs with in his bed. He also has some books he can flip through when its light out in the morning. DH even removed the bulb from his overhead light because he was just flipping the lights on and off for hours - and he can't sleep well when its not dark either! So he wouldn't go to sleep until he was completely exhausted at like midnight or later, often passing out on the floor, and then as soon as we'd open the door to flip the light off, he'd run and turn it back on and stay awake for a while. He was getting minimal sleep and we were getting bad behavior reports from school. DH pulled the bulb out after we had a particularly rough night that went until like 4am and he literally carries a lamp into the room for bedtime stories and carries it out with him when he leaves. But since we've done that, he goes right to sleep by 8pm (bedtime is 730am) and he's slept through in his bed without issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818668 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:58:07 +0000 Autumnmama79 2818668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I think our LO's are very close in age. We recently transitioned from bed sharing to LO in his crib all night. There was crying and it was hard but I was determined to end the misery of no sleep. If you're ready to make a change I would share that information with LO. "Tonight we are starting a new bedtime routine, we're going to do x, y, z and then you're going to sleep in your own bed all night! In the morning we're going to eat breakfast/play on my phone/watch TV!" Maybe he'll understand some of what you're saying, maybe he won't but half of parenting is sales, so sell it.</p> <p>Can I suggest a bedtime routine?</p> <p>7:00 transition to quiet play (no screens), in the family room/playroom. Bedrooms should be for sleeping, not playing, esp so close to bedtime. </p> <p>7:30 change into pj's, give LO warm milk or plain water while you read a few stories. </p> <p>7:45-8:00 put LO into bed, give kisses and goodnights and go away and close the door. </p> <p>I let LO cry it out. Only lasted two nights. I went in every ten minutes, to lay him back down. Cried for an hour the first night, 40 minutes the second and then nothing the third. </p> <p>You can do it mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818664 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:52:08 +0000 Mrs D 2818664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: We have used a Marpac from day 1, and still do. I truthfully dont think DD1 (4.5 yo) needs it but we still use it. We also use it for DD2. DD1 didnt have a night light when she first moved into her toddler bed - but that didnt last long. She freaked a few nights so we got her one.</p> <p>Word to the wise, when you put a night light in make sure it isnt casting any weird shadows - we suffered from this issue. We have gone through periods of her having 2 night lights (I'll take two night lights if it gets her to turn off the overhead light)...but recently she gave her #2 nighty light to her baby sister.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818663 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:48:05 +0000 gotkimchi 2818663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: we use a noise machine but we always have and I have a night light in my 4yo old room but not in my 2yo. I only added a nightlight when my older asked for it so she was probably a little older </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818661 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:38:29 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2818661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: @Mrs D: Yep, I’m looking into the Door Monkey right now.</p> <p>So when LO is in my room all the lights are turned off because I like the room to be dark. Do you all use a night light in your LO’s rooms? That would be another change for him if we were to use it. The pediatrician also suggested a noise machine. We never had to use the Marpac with him, but I still have it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818657 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:33:12 +0000 Mrs D 2818657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: We have never had full on chaos over sleep - but like all parents we have had our ups and downs. Two points I will add that may offer help:</p> <p>1) DD2 has had worse sleep than her sister - we have also (like others) found consistency to be the key. She is 2 yrs 2 mos, the most recent issue was her crying every 1.5-2 hours at night...for "mamamamamamamama". It became an issue quickly because she was waking up DD1 who was distraught that she thought something was wrong with her precious baby sister. Our biggest issue was the difference in how DH and I approached the matter. He just wanted the sound to stop - so he'd appease her. I was more rigid. We had a big of a come to jesus between us and agreed no getting her out of the bed, and after 2 visits to her room - we would not come back. Visit 1 was always check for poop, check for fever, is everything "ok". Visit 2 was "mommy and daddy need sleep just like you, its night night time - you need to go night night." After a few nights of this structure she stopped. I am sure its not the end of it - but for now we're in a good sleep place.</p> <p>2) The door monkey. One of these fine ladies on the Bee told me about it and it was a life saver for DD1. It keeps the door from closing or opening. Its about $12 on Amazon. It just keeps the door at a nice crack. DD1 has to pass some dangerous stairs on her way to the bathroom - so we first used it out of stair safety (not room restraint). DD had mad respect for it. Check it out - maybe it'll help keep him in the room. (For those concerned - its definitely not a "locked" door situation. DD1 can - and sadly has - ripped the door open in a full on tantrum....but she did it once and never did it again) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818655 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:28:13 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2818655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: :grin: the last time I went OOT for work DH said he would get LO back in his room since he’d done it twice. Well, that was before he started walking well and talking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818640 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:42:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2818640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: @2PeasinaPod: We try to make our way upstairs between 7:15-7:30 pm. We play in his room, blocks or puzzles, or he will start taking books off the shelf for me to read. After about 15 minutes I change him into his PJs (diaper, lotion, PJs) then brush teeth. Then we read some more. At this point we normally transition to my room, fill up the humidifier, and just recently, now in bed, we cut out LO looking at pictures of himself on my phone for another 10 minutes (pediatrician). We say prayers and that’s it on my end. LO will play with whatever is in bed (measuring tape, Flash figurine) for a little while longer and then turns over and goes to sleep. The way he brings me books to read is gets up each time to select one off the shelf. I was thinking of having him fill a basket that maybe can hold 5 or 6 and once those are read that’s it. He still just gets bathed once a week on Saturday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818636 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:30:31 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2818636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure what your LO's current bedtime routine is, but we take our LOs up for a bath at 7:30, all lights in their rooms are very dim, LO2 has a giraffe that is like a glow worm that plays music for 20 minutes. After we read 3 books, we put him in his crib, put on the giraffe, and leave.</p> <p>What time is your LO's bedtime? Are you going to sleep at the same time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818635 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:28:37 +0000 Mama Bird 2818635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we got DD a big girl bed and she's very proud of it, and surprisingly stays there at bedtime. She goes crazy with bedtime though, and keeps asking for one more story, so eventually I have to threaten to walk out if she doesn't lie down quietly. But that's just bedtime... she doesn't stay in her bed at night. Gets out of bed, opens our bedroom door with a bang that wakes everyone, and wants to pee/drink/cuddle/get another toy. I'm dreaming of moving out of the house for a week and just sleeping in my office or on a park bench, but I can't do that to DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818633 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:27:24 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2818633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he can’t hurt himself in his room, do your routine kiss him goodnight, close/lock door, watch him on the monitor to make sure he isn’t doing anything wild. Good sleep habits are important in my opinion and worth a couple rough nights to make it happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818632 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:27:21 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2818632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: same. </p> <p>DD isn’t in a crib, and she can’t escape her room because she can’t be trusted. I go through her routine, give her a kiss, and then leave. If she cries I tune it out. She usually doesn’t three days. She will sing to herself some nights or play with her stuffed animals a bit before falling asleep </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818629 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:25:56 +0000 Autumnmama79 2818629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: What is LO's current bedtime routine? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818626 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:16:47 +0000 gotkimchi 2818626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with consistency and a containment plan. So we do our (short) routine cuz ain’t nobody got time for that and then leave. If my kids want to talk to themselves and roll around that’s cool. So if you can’t do a crib I would turn the room into a “crib” by removing anything dangerous and putting on a handle cover or a door monkey and then let them be. I will say to mine over the monitor C, go to sleep! And that’s it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818620 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 12:03:38 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2818620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kayla0416: we converted his crib into a toddler bed after he demonstrated he could get out of his crib. We would rather he exit safely than fall and hurt himself. He can open doors. </p> <p>@2PeasinaPod: oh my gosh, what you described is why I gave up putting him in his crib. He was taking way too long to fall asleep and I just wanted to lay down in my own bed. </p> <p>The pediatrician said I need to come up with a solid and sleep-inducing bedtime routine. Last night I thought I was on the start of one and literally 14 books in LO was wide awake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818617 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 11:53:10 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2818617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennibenni: Agree with everything you said.</p> <p>LO2 used to fall asleep so easily on us up to a certain point. We would just let him fall asleep in 5 minutes and put him in his crib asleep. </p> <p>After a period of time, he started taking longer and longer to fall asleep. Then he wouldn't at all. We got tired of rocking him for hours that one day, I just had him give me a hug, gave him a kiss and put him in his crib. He cried, but I firmly told him it was time for na-night, and walked out. He would cry for a little while, but it got shorter and shorter. Now he tries to stall us with questions as we leave :silly: But we can leave and firmly tell him that it's time to go to sleep.</p> <p>Be consistent, and be tolerant of cries. You'll get there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818614 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 11:47:41 +0000 codeitall 2818614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any specific advice, but with our second, we bedshared until 9 months and when she started getting wiggly, I just decided I'd had it. In the middle of the night with my husband snoring and her crawling over me the 5th time, I just picked her up, took her to her room and plopped her in the crib. And let her cry while I went back to my room and kicked DH over to stop the snoring. I cannot even express the level of frustration I had that night that my family was conspiring against me ever sleeping. EVER.</p> <p>Obviously a rough patch for me. After that, we just had to be consistent. I still go in and comfort her in the middle of the night, but we're down to one wakeup and I'm singing hallelujah! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818612 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 11:47:20 +0000 kayla0416 2818612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a similar experience, so feel free to ignore my comment, but is there a reason why you wouldn't go back to a crib? I feel like that would be an easy way to keep him contained if you're going to try any sort of cry-it-out method (which I would!). My daughter will be 2 next week and I have no plans to move her to a bed anytime soon - maybe 6-12+ months from now? My daughter is totally the type that would chase us to the door screaming for us not to leave if she knew she could get out of bed, but in a crib she fusses for 5-10 seconds then lays down and goes to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818600 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 11:09:31 +0000 RKitty 2818600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wait... you're saying 2 year olds can sleep in there own beds?!?! :wink: </p> <p>I can't help much with getting him out of your bed as we've failed the times we've tried with ours.... so I can just commiserate with you.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-me-strength-1#post-2818592 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 10:43:19 +0000 Jennibenni 2818592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a lot of trouble getting our son to sleep on his own after we moved. We basically had to just give up and let him cry because we were spending literally hours in his room every night. He cried for like an hour the first night and he still cries when we leave the room but only until the door is closed. </p> <p>I’ve found it to be like anything else, you have to be consistent and not give in if the result is important to you. </p>