https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 05 Jun 2026 21:11:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1263344 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 16:42:18 +0000 Thenetexan 1263344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely changed the look and theme of my tree after having kids. Now that I have these new ornaments that are more kid friendly, I may never go back to my beautiful silvery tree look or at least not until my kids are no longer kids. I don't think it is a big deal to not use the ornaments and while you can tell her you may use them again one day, you may not once you have another collection that you will likely continue to build. If space is an issue, you could always see if she wants them back due to the fact that you can't use them for some years and you don't have sPace for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1263303 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 16:30:56 +0000 Cchoi4 1263303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all of your input, ladies!<br /> The ornaments and the tree were just hand me downs...something to give DH since he was a bachelor. But I don't want to hurt MIL's feelings as she is a wonderful woman who treats us so well. So i'm going to keep the ornaments and use them later when my LO's are old enough to not hurt themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260175 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 18:29:27 +0000 Cole 1260175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the basic sentiment of others, if it was an actual gift I would not give them back but if it was just hand me downs or cast offs I would offer to give them back to her. Maybe phrase it like you were super thankful she helped you get your own collection started and maybe now she wants them back so she can enjoy them again or to help someone else until they get a collection. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260161 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 18:18:27 +0000 penny 1260161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would your MIL notice if they weren't on the tree this year? You should be able to decorate in the style of how you (and family) prefer... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260130 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 17:40:49 +0000 Kimberlybee 1260130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How I am reading your post is that you "inherited" it as in she is just getting rid of it or had an extra set so wanted to pass it to you right? If she really likes that design and can use it, I don't think it would be rude to let her use it but I guess it would depend on how you say it?</p> <p>Or maybe exchange it at the store where she purchased it for something you like better. If no receipt available, get it a store credit perhaps? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260121 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 17:28:34 +0000 HabesBabe 1260121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it's very rude to give them back. Just hold onto them; you might use them in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260103 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 17:13:56 +0000 spaniellove 1260103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just keep them in storage if possible. It avoids hurt feelings and you never know if the day will come when the ornaments will have more sentimental meaning to your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260089 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 17:05:33 +0000 loveisstrange 1260089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think returning them is rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260083 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 17:03:19 +0000 ALV91711 1260083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell her you aren't using these ornaments because they aren't kid friendly. Then I'd ask if she would like them back and tell her if not then you are donating/giving them away. </p> <p>Then at least she has the option to take them back and you aren't stuck with them. I don't see the point in hanging onto them if you aren't going to use them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260045 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:39:52 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1260045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could say something like you can't use them because they are breakable, and offer if she wants to use them until you can again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260034 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:35:33 +0000 yoursilverlining 1260034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think returning gifts to the giver is always asking for trouble. I would keep them, and if she asks why specific ornaments are not out; just explain then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260020 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:30:38 +0000 dagret 1260020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you can always keep them and give them to your kids when they're older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1260011 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:27:09 +0000 LuLu Mom 1260011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ask if she wants them back expressing your thanks for them but you have others now if not just keep them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1259988 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:17:39 +0000 pui 1259988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I agree, just keep them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1259984 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:15:41 +0000 sunny 1259984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just not put them out. If she asks about them, offer to return them since they aren't kid friendly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1259978 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:13:57 +0000 Kimberlybee 1259978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No that's not rude if it's a hazard or easily breakable around the kids. She should understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1259977 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:13:47 +0000 autumnlove 1259977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea, I would just keep them and not stir the pot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/give-ornaments-back#post-1259968 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 16:11:41 +0000 Cchoi4 1259968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's mother is somewhat of a buy-aholic. She buys many things and then gives some of those things to DH. This happened when he was out of college living on his own...so he (and we) have a lot of things that my mother in law bought but that aren't necessarily what I'd like.</p> <p>Case in point, our christmas tree. We inherited our tree and ornaments from MIL (she had two trees and two sets of ornaments). Now that we have 2 kids, I don't feel comfortable putting up the egg-like ornaments bc they seem fragile. There are a ton of them and ideally, i'd like to give them back to MIL so she can put it on her tree or do with it what she likes. I should mention I don't particularly like the style of ornament either. </p> <p>But...Is that rude? </p>