https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 10:47:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089195 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 07:24:45 +0000 Dandelion 1089195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: yeah, these rainbow babies must be something amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089191 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 07:23:35 +0000 imbali 1089191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: i :heart: this. I often think that if we hadn't lost M, we wouldnt be getting our little baby now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089180 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 07:11:26 +0000 Dandelion 1089180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: @bunnymommy: That's exactly what I say, too. This isn't S, this is someone else.</p> <p>I also think that this person inside of me must be pretty special for me to have to lose S in order to have it! If S was alive, this baby wouldn't exist. For some reason, this keeps me very positive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089167 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 07:05:32 +0000 imbali 1089167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: hugs to you too - I'm sure only great things for all of us :heart: </p> <p>@Jennimac: me too - worst thing ever to pack that bag after the appt. That's a good mantra, I think that's the best (maybe only) thing you can do - this is not that baby or that pregnancy and it can only go better. Fx for you that your delivery experience is wonderful </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089154 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:54:41 +0000 singingbee 1089154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: that's exactly how I've felt! I've started packing our hospital bag: 1- so my DH doesn't have to do it and 2- because last time we left our appointment, came home and had to pack. That was awful. It took me until about 26 weeks to realize that this pregnancy is completely different. That's what I just keep reminding myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089148 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:52:21 +0000 Dandelion 1089148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: @bunnymommy: hugs to both of you! I'm very excited that you both are past the horrible points in your first pregnancies. Only great things, now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089147 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:50:20 +0000 imbali 1089147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: So glad for you about that. It can only help!</p> <p>@Jennimac: Good for you - wish I had done the same. It's so hard to feel like you're repeating the process in the exact same order, waiting for the inevitable other shoe to drop. That's actually an interesting idea in relation to labour as well - I wonder if it'd help to start thinking now about ways to make the experience different even if it's just relatively small things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089138 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:43:34 +0000 singingbee 1089138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: we were supposed to go to the hospital for our 20 week anatomy scan and I refused. I told him I could go later,but I wasn't walking into the same place at the same time as last time. He went along with it and that's why we went in at 22 weeks. DH was able to be with me too so that was great. It ended up being the same tech as last time, so I was really happy to be with DH and not by myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089132 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:33:25 +0000 Dandelion 1089132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: yeah, there has only been one OB out of the loop so far, but everything is in my records, so he quickly became informed and on board. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089121 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:25:54 +0000 imbali 1089121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: that sounds SO nice. I'm jealous! We didn't really get anything different, we just came in every 4weeks as usual and in fact our 16 wk appt (where we were 'diagnosed' last time), the receptionist had made a mistake and when we got there the office was closed! Ahhhhhhh! I'm so happy for you that they've been so attentive and have been looking after you specially for this baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089120 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:23:02 +0000 imbali 1089120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: That's been true for us also (up to a point) - our problem was picked up between 12 and 16 weeks last time so when I was freaking out at 13 weeks cos I thought my membranes had ruptured my OB was just like, come in. So nice. On the opposite side of it, we went to a foetal specialist (supposedly the best in our area) who hadn't read my history or the referral letter from my OB and proceeded to ask if our termination was voluntary and then say, oh you terminated for oligohydramnios? You should've come to see me, I'm sure I could've fixed it. WTH?! I'm so glad you've got what sounds like a great OB office. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089119 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:22:52 +0000 singingbee 1089119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: my ob saw me every two weeks until I was past 22 weeks, then he saw me monthly until 30 weeks. My bp would waver from being high to low, so he has seen me weekly since 30 weeks. It's been a little different because he knows I freak out. It has been nice having the same dr because he was right there with us and is doing everything he can to get this baby here safely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089108 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 06:02:09 +0000 Dandelion 1089108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: I don't get extra checks until my third trimester, since that's where the problems started last time. I'm so grateful not only for this OB office, but that they were there for my loss labor and know exactly what went on, so I didn't have to go in, retelling my story for them to know I am going to need a little extra attention this time. I came in for my first appointment, knew who I was and wrote out a game plan for the third trimester and delivery. It was great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089102 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 05:56:28 +0000 imbali 1089102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Oh that's so interesting - I'm glad that it's been a 'good new experience' so far. Fx that it continues like that. Our experience has been *exactly* the same, but with more referrals to maternal foetal specialists for extra checks. In a way, comforting to have the OB I trust and know, and in a way, stressful cos it feels a bit groundhog day-ish. Hope we all get the experiences we need at the end. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089099 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 05:46:53 +0000 Dandelion 1089099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: I'm excited to hear about your experience, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089097 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 05:45:22 +0000 Dandelion 1089097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnymommy: I have a totally different prenatal experience, cause I was going to a midwife at a birth center for all my prenatal appointments, and transferred to the hospital during labor. This time around, I'm starting out with the OBs that go to that hospital, so, so far, the whole experience has been pretty different, but I feel more secure this time around, so its been a good new experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1089067 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 03:16:37 +0000 imbali 1089067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: I think even with a C-sec, I'm curious about what the going into the (same) hospital, with the same doctor, to the same ward etc will be like, kwim? I'll update you with my experience in Nov!</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: @sslm: thanks so much!</p> <p>@californiadreams: thank you for that :heart: </p> <p>@Jennimac: thank you so much for the response! I'm also kind of hoping for a c-sec (I could have an elective one I suppose actually) for a wholly different experience but also wonder if just the hospital-birth experience will be a little traumatic given the last time we were there. So glad that your mom managed to have a good experience after losing your sibling - how awful. Would love to hear how yours goes - I hope it is what you want and need as well. Thanks again for the reply! xox </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1088392 Sun, 15 Sep 2013 16:32:55 +0000 singingbee 1088392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: thanks for thinking of me!! :) @sslm: you are so right, my friend!! :) </p> <p>@bunnymommy: we lost our first baby at 20 weeks when we went in for our anatomy scan and didn't have a heartbeat. We had to induce that night and have cervadil. They placed it on my cervix to ripen it. I only had Demerol as my pain med. They could have given me an epidural, but I originally started with half a dose of Demerol and when I could get more meds, I got a full dose and that was enough. I was in the hospital for 24 hours, but my induction to delivery took just under 11 hours. My water broke on its own and I pushed two or three times.</p> <p>Right now we are 35 weeks with another little girl and she is breech and has been this way for a while. She flipped head down once but flipped head up about two days later. She has been this way for about 3 weeks and dr doesn't really think she will turn. I'm most likely looking at a c section, which quite honestly, I would welcome because I do have some negative memories still associated with my first birth experience. I will tell you that my mom lost one of my siblings at full term--delivered him and he didn't survive surgery that he had to have. She went on to deliver one of my sisters with no problems. She didn't have any bad memories and everything was perfect. One thing my mom told me is that she thinks my labor could be faster with this one because my body responded so well last time. </p> <p>I hope your experience is what you want it to me. I'll update more when I know if I'm a regular birth or a csection. Feel free to wall me anytime!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1088198 Sun, 15 Sep 2013 12:34:30 +0000 californiadreams 1088198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i am not experienced with this, but after reading your story, my heart goes out to you, i can't even imagine what that was like. Best of luck to you and i wish you a pleasant birth experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1088197 Sun, 15 Sep 2013 12:31:53 +0000 sslm 1088197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: She's due in October! </p> <p>I was going to suggest talking to jennimac too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1088185 Sun, 15 Sep 2013 12:17:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1088185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Jennimac is pregnant after a 20 week loss. She'd be a good person to talk to in general, though I don't know what your guys timing is with respect to hers... so you may be ahead of her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1088163 Sun, 15 Sep 2013 11:33:17 +0000 Dandelion 1088163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm curious about this, too! Even though, due to the nature of my loss at 39 weeks, I'll probably be having a scheduled c-section this time. But, this is an interesting question and I'm curious to know, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-birth-after-miscarriage-what-was-it-like#post-1088156 Sun, 15 Sep 2013 11:20:09 +0000 imbali 1088156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, this is a bit of a novel, sorry! </p> <p>DH and I lost our last baby at 20 weeks - we had oligohydramnios and were told that the baby wasn't viable so we had to choose to try to carry to term (with a 90% chance of him dying in utero) or terminate the pregnancy. We chose to terminate (hardest decision of my life!) and I had to give birth to our son at 20 weeks. </p> <p>I was induced and sent home, and we went back in to the hospital the next day. I'm not sure how much I dilated (or had to dilate?) but they gave me an epidural after about 24 hours of contractions on and off. I had to push a few times and then he was out. They gave me pethidine quite early on and also I think I was trying not to concentrate on what we were doing so a lot of the day is a bit hazy and I don't remember tooo much about how it felt (physically).</p> <p>Anyway! We are pregnant again (due in Nov) and after all that, I wanted to ask, had anyone given birth after having had to give birth to a baby that wasn't going to survive? I suppose I'm a *bit* nervous about what this experience will be like... </p>