https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 05:10:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498478 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 14:47:04 +0000 heffalump 498478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Thank you for giving me some perspective... and hopefully for me if it's anything like my first pregnancy it won't even be 9 months. My 3rd trimester was pretty much migraine free!</p> <p>@MrsCB: Unfortunately my migraines are here to stay. I've had them all of my life and gone to many doctors and been on all of the meds. I even had surgery for them. I'm on preventatives that do help and I have meds that I take when I get them (that don't always help), but when you're pregnant you have to get off of all of those and take things like tylenol and codine which are useless. </p> <p>I see a pain management doctor next week who thinks that he can help with my nerve stimulator, which is what I had the surgery for, but I don't have high hopes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498447 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 14:29:44 +0000 ShootingStar 498447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there anything you can do to try to get your migraines more under control? I used to have pretty debilitating ones, and for me at least it was like the more I had, the more often I would get them and the more severe they would be. Once I got them more under control, they became easier to deal with and less frequent.</p> <p>For me, seeing a neurologist and getting put on a preventive drug helped. I also tried a bunch of things like Imitrex, which worked but I turned out to be allergic to. Strangely enough the thing that works best for me is Excedrin. Once I found something that helped while I had the migraine, if it I took it as soon as I noticed it coming on, it helped it go away and not turn into the kind where I'd have to spend all day in bed in the dark with perfect silence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498328 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:50:03 +0000 Honeybee 498328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have very difficult pregnancies due to hyperemesis gravidarum. I knew I would be limited in my time with DD if I was pregnant because I would be so sick, and I also started a grad program about a month after I found out I was pregnant again. It was hard (very hard) at times because I was working,going to school, and miserably sick. I felt a lot of guilt that I wasn't able to spend as much time with DD. But having another child was very important to me, and it was only 9 months of suffering for a lifetime of joy and love from another baby. And seeing DD and DS together makes me forget about those difficult 9 months. Reducing some of your individual time together is a sacrafice you have to come to terms with if you have more than one child, but I think most people thinks its a sacrafice worth making. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498239 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:29:14 +0000 heffalump 498239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Oceanis723: I have thought about adoption, but I do want to try for one more of my own. I think that if we do want more then two kids then adoption might have to be the way to go. I can't imagine raising two kids and being pregnant. Because it's really my mom and DH raising the kids and taking care of me while I'm pregnant, and it's just not fair to them, plus I just hate missing out on my baby's lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498229 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:25:47 +0000 Mrs. Train 498229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The last month of my pregnancy with my twins my son was watched by my dad and sister. They brought him to me for naps so I got to lay with him for a bit. It was a bummer but it was just what had to happen. I felt guilty and sad but I did adjust and enjoyed the time I got more.</p> <p>If pregnancy is so difficult on you is adoption an option for growing your family or would you rather have biological children? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498222 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:22:50 +0000 heffalump 498222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: But I don't want to spend LESS time with her. My mom already does end up watching her about once a week because my head hurts. But when I'm pregnant it hurts all day every day. Like I can't get off the couch for an entire month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498210 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:20:01 +0000 Rubies 498210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you able to put LO in a daycare or have your mom watch her maybe 1 day a week just to get into a new groove? And then maybe twice a week when you think you might start TTC? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/giving-up-time-with-one-baby-in-order-to-have-another#post-498193 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:16:43 +0000 heffalump 498193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get very bad migraines, and they are especially bad during pregnancy. I'm PMSing right now so I'm experiencing a week long bad migraine and I'm getting a preview of what it's going to be like if I get pregnant. And it's kind of freaking me out :( </p> <p>I can't do anything. My mom or DH always has to watch LO, which really isn't a problem because my mom is retired and now a nanny for my niece so she's available. The problem is more for me, I miss LO. I'm a SAHM and I'm used to spending all of my time with her, and I hate being away from her. I can't imagine what it's going to be like to have to do this for my first 2 trimesters. But if I don't, then I'll never get to have another baby. </p> <p>Anyone else have to go through something like this? Any advice? </p>