https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 21:49:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288380 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 11:24:00 +0000 JennyD 288380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I know, right?!? When I picked up the baby from his mom friday, she said she couldn't believe I agreed to this! I should have known she would be on my side and said no to him! My MiL is the BEST!</p> <p>@Blackbird: His parents live in the same city as us, we see them ALL the time. I appreciate they need "guy time", but seriously, be a little more sensitive to those around you.</p> <p>@ArtBee: Next time I'll say he can go if he takes his little darling with him! That'll teach them both! (Him and his dad). And I won't feel badly.</p> <p>Thanks everyone. I feel a tiny bit better this morning. I really feel the weight of a lot of responsibility on me. I will take a day off, or rather, a few evenings off, next week, for some yoga. That always de-stresses me. I'm also headed out of town for a week very soon, for work. He'll have his hands full then. But we will be discussing it when he gets home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288163 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 07:39:03 +0000 heffalump 288163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awwww next time tell him no! Even if he's upset about it it's just not worth it for you :( Believe me I know, My baby had reflux so she would cry all day and would not nap because her tummy hurt her, I was miserable! If my husband left me alone with her I would have killed him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288161 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 07:35:48 +0000 blackbird 288161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's a big deal if he doesn't see his dad very often. BUT I do think that you are now entitled to take a day or two off in the future :) Thankfully his mother is coming to your house! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288156 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 07:26:44 +0000 pastemoo 288156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: Ditto!<br /> Talk to him about it.... after you get your day off.</p> <p>I would be mad, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288130 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 06:50:42 +0000 MamaMoose 288130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I would get so mad!! I hate when my husband does stuff like this especially when his family is involved. It basically leaves yOu no good option because you're either miserable at home alone for another day, or you look like a bitch for demanding he skip the fishing and come home. HE should have said to his father that he wants to get home to his wife and baby and can't stay another day now that the work is done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288093 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 05:52:41 +0000 MamaCate 288093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like you have every right to be mad! You agreed to one reason that he needed to not be home, that was more about obligation. Then the terms of the agreement changed and now he is having fun while you are dealing with a fussy baby! You need to talk to him when he gets home about how you are feeling, and i also thinking having a day to yourself while he is home with LO is a good idea. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288083 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 04:45:43 +0000 tequiero21 288083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>=( sorry to hear and i totally hear ya. sometimes, guys (no offense men!) have no clue!</p> <p>i say you do that to him for just ONE day and see how he likes it! lol. go take a spa day or something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gone-fishin-just-need-to-rant-a-bit#post-288012 Sun, 09 Sep 2012 00:10:21 +0000 JennyD 288012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, a few months ago my husband was planning this 4 day fishing trip with his dad. He wanted to go "fall fishing" because apparently it's the best. His thinking was that he would then be on parental leave and sort of not working, so he wouldn't have to use vacation days or anything. I put a stop to his plans because his trip would co-incide with my first or second week back at work, and I wasn't sure how the transition would go. I also thought it was incredibly inconsiderate to expect me to get up an hour earlier than usual to take the baby to his mom for the day so I could get to work on time (ie, getting up around 4:45) on two work days, AND be the 100% parent for the weekend. So, we have this discussion and he agrees, that's asking a lot and not fair. Cool. Life goes on.</p> <p>For the record, he went fishing for 4 or 5 days when the baby was just a few months old, so it's not like he NEVER gets to go.</p> <p>THEN! His dad sells his cabin (12 hours away from home) and needs help to clean it out. He enlists my husband. The story is "my dad's getting old, he needs help bringing the boat back, we gotta get rid of all this stuff up there, etc". And I don't want to be the miserable wife that says no all the time, so I'm like, fine. A 3 day trip then turns into a 4 day trip, and my lovely mother-in-law is going to drive here monday morning, before 7am (bless her heart!) so I can be at work on time. I'm not thrilled, but life goes on.</p> <p>The baby is being totally insane these days and WILL NOT NAP and has been crying more today than her ENTIRE life combined, and at noon he sends me a text saying that they finished cleaning the cabin and they're going fishing for the rest of the day. And tomorrow. </p> <p>I'm furious. I hate being home alone and he knows it. I also just started back at work this week, and that's been a big adjustment for me. I think it was really selfish of him to go. And I'm mad. </p>