https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 08:28:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2557087 Thu, 26 May 2016 12:34:32 +0000 FaithFertility 2557087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far I think we are even! He definitely will back up me and I do him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2557071 Thu, 26 May 2016 12:23:17 +0000 Maysprout 2557071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and I are on the same page but I'm more of the enforcer, which does get frustrating at times, but he is around them less so I understand. </p> <p>When my mom visits though ugh. I really become the bad cop bc of the language she uses - 'your moms going to get mad at me if you don't do . . .' 'Oh let them just finish up....' 'id let you, but I don't think your mom wants you doing that' and on and on and on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556960 Thu, 26 May 2016 11:11:14 +0000 Canoli 2556960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We try to stay on the same page but I am more strict than my husband and try not to budge as much and stay consistent. As a result the kids don't seem to behave as well for my husband and I try to tell him it's because they know they can get away with more with him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556934 Thu, 26 May 2016 10:44:45 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2556934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am bad cop...DH is good cop. Same situation as you. I discipline while DH lets him get away with quite a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556928 Thu, 26 May 2016 10:42:30 +0000 catomd00 2556928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we have always stressed the importance of being partners and backing each other up. If one of us strays from what the other says, we will explain why and try to have both of us present to tell her. She's only 2 so might not always understand, but we want to make certain things habit from the get go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556829 Thu, 26 May 2016 08:55:38 +0000 lovehoneybee 2556829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it's incredibly effective on E. But neither of us are set as good/bad. We switch off pretty seamlessly based on the situation (or our tempers). The only shitty part is that I solo-parent most evenings, and when it's called for I have to be both. If my patience is really strained it's hard to swallow and be good cop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556796 Thu, 26 May 2016 08:26:40 +0000 lamariniere 2556796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not so much good cop/bad cop, but I'm definitely more strict than my husband and I don't give in, whereas he does. We try to be united in how we respond and I think we are pretty consistent in doling out consequences, but I'm the harder parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556782 Thu, 26 May 2016 08:16:26 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2556782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we figured early on that we need a united front. It makes life so much easier, especially with a stubborn LO that knows exactly what she wants and seemingly complains about everything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556778 Thu, 26 May 2016 08:11:03 +0000 snowjewelz 2556778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sure I'm the good cop and DH is the bad cop! We try to even it out too but it's definitely hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/good-cop-bad-cop#post-2556762 Thu, 26 May 2016 08:02:57 +0000 LuLu Mom 2556762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you and your husband have a good cop/bad cop relationship? We try our best to be partners, but yes i'm the bad cop. Our oldest has already figured it out, and i hate that's how it has worked out. I told DH i don't want to always be the one punishing but it just ends up that way, he's a pushover. Do you have a good cop/bad cop in your household? </p>