https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 15:04:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851324 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 11:37:54 +0000 hitchhiker 2851324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks y'all! I had a feeling I was overreacting, but I am so sensitive to weight comments, especially because this Grandma is prone to make appearance based judgements, and DD2 (future Olivia) is just a much bigger kid than her older sister. I'll save my outrage for the inevitable fights ahead! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851284 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 10:17:20 +0000 BadgerMom 2851284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was a stupid thing to say to a kid who's obviously excited about their Halloween costume... BUT, I don't really think she meant anything by it. My guess is she's not very familiar with Olivia in particular so she was just glomming on to the pig aspect and trying to relate it to what she knows about pigs... they're fat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851280 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 10:13:03 +0000 Mrsbells 2851280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hitchhiker: To me it sounds like a harmless comment. Grandparents can say weird things sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851251 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 08:39:46 +0000 josina 2851251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This wouldn't bother me at all or even cross my mind to be upset about it.<br /> Pigs are fat. It might be different if she was comparing her to another person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851234 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 07:12:37 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2851234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I don’t really like the fat and skinny comparison. It would give me pause because young girls are exposed to body image things so young nowadays and I think that being the first thing she says even about a fictional character is annoying. </p> <p>I would let it slide but come Halloween, if there’s any further comments I would say something. Even if it’s like ‘oh look you’re a skinny piggy!’ Or something, you could redirect to ‘olivia is wearing her favourite outfit or Olivia is going on a fun adventure!’ Instead (sorry I don’t know the attributes of the character ha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851222 Sun, 14 Oct 2018 21:46:57 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2851222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that it was somewhat weird, but likely harmless. </p> <p>I did have weight comments made about me by one grandfather to my mother, in front of me, when I was a chubby adolescent and it was something I couldn’t forget. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851214 Sun, 14 Oct 2018 20:38:43 +0000 MrsSCB 2851214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the tone. I definitely don't want anyone assigning value to weight in front of my kids, so if it came across as fat=bad, or worse than skinny, I wouldn't be happy either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851212 Sun, 14 Oct 2018 20:33:46 +0000 wrkbrk 2851212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with pp. On weight of the pig character comment - questionable. Weight of your DD comment - you say something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851207 Sun, 14 Oct 2018 20:01:19 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2851207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t think it’s that big of a deal actually. Sounds like she was referring more to the pig’s size. And maybe being a little silly. But, I know how hard MIL relationships can be and mine has stepped on my toes on more than one occasion. I think I’d let it slide this time. If she ever actually comments on weight regarding your daughter or talks about someone being too fat, speak up then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/grandma-weight-comment-am-i-overreacting#post-2851206 Sun, 14 Oct 2018 19:53:11 +0000 hitchhiker 2851206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today my kids were taking about their Halloween costumes while video chatting with my MIL. My 2.5 year old excitedly told her that she was going to be Olivia the pig. MIL's only response was to ask if she was going to get fat. And then she said something about Olivia being a skinny pig. </p> <p>I am livid. But, I also know that I have a whole lot of stuff wrapped up in this relationship so I am not sure I am judging fairly. What do you think? Would you say anything? </p>