https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 19:37:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1188608 Thu, 31 Oct 2013 14:55:02 +0000 mediagirl 1188608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds pretty ridiculous to me. What's more important, that you have quality bonding time with the person you are committed to for life and the children you are raising or the people who may or may not be there in 5 years. And why men and not women? Because women don't have this "need" to get away from their families to spend time with their friends? </p> <p>This article is brought to you by a beer company. I'm not surprised... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170672 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:56:16 +0000 luckypenny 1170672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe pre-baby but not now! He has one night a week he goes out and sees friends and he lets me go whenever I make plans (maybe once a month). </p> <p>Twice a week would NOT work for us now. I'd like us to have some date nights before that started happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170645 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:50:37 +0000 Foodnerd81 1170645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh didn't have a "boys night" twice a week even before baby! But, he would often get home later bc of going to the gym or something, which is certainly harder now. </p> <p>We are working on that balance now. Our biggest issue is golf, which ties into boys night I guess. It's a huge part of his life and he does play with friends, so it's really hard to balance my need for him to be home with us and his desire to play and have a glosses of his prebaby self. Meanwhile I went out for three hours this week and c refused the bottle and had a total meltdown, then calmed down, nursed, and fell straight to sleep when I got home. Grr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170619 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:44:09 +0000 cmomma17 1170619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 nights a week is crazy. We have trouble finding time to grocery shop some weeks, or workout. </p> <p>We don't have two solids evenings of family time for the three of us each week, and we definitely don't get date nights anywhere near that often. So, um, no.</p> <p>And he's perfectly healthy and happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170604 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:37:31 +0000 runsyellowlites 1170604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't imagine this kind of schedule would be good for a family &amp; marriage long term (especially since most couples struggle even with regular date nights) &amp; last I remember married men live longer &amp; are overall healthier than single men so this seems like quite the oxymoron. lol</p> <p>I do agree that male camaraderie is important, but definitely not twice a week. I think the "perfect" outing "schedule" would be date nights twice a month &amp; guys/girl nights once a month, maybe twice if the rest of the months responsibilities allow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170460 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 07:46:30 +0000 Cole 1170460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, for me at least, it sort of depends on how you are defining it. Right now (prekids) my husband plays in a raquetball league once a week and bowls in a league once a week. During the raquetball league I work out and then we get dinner together either out or at home. While he bowls I get together with friends. Once we have kids he will probably still do raquetball but not spend the full 2.5 hours there so he can be home in time for bedtime (he leaves work "early" so this would put him home only a little later then usual), the bowling night will stay but it doesn't start until after 8pm anyway so either he will come home in between or the friend I hang out with most has a little one on the way and we will all eat together and the kids can hang out. </p> <p>Things like poker nights and hanging out at the bar with friends happen pretty rarely, maybe a few times a year? I think it makes it easier to swallow that one of the nights is mostly exercise. He is also good at making it a priority for us to spend time together so I don't feel like I get the short end of the stick. Plus, he would be fully supportive if I wanted that time too, I just happen to not be a super social person and I would rather sit by myself in the library or have time alone at home which I know will also happen. </p> <p>I am sure we will have an adjustment period after we have a lo and probably even more so after a second one but I suspect that he will probably always have at least one "guys night" a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170392 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 07:04:33 +0000 ValentineMommy 1170392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Twice a week??? WE don't get out (even together) twice a MONTH, let alone week. </p> <p>My parents have been together for 43 years and I don't think my dad has had a "guys night" more than 10 times in that entire time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170374 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 06:50:25 +0000 looch 1170374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is probably correct, in my prebaby days I would have regular nights or afternoons out with friends.</p> <p>I think a fair amount if people need social interaction to feel happy and well adjusted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170367 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 06:42:33 +0000 pui 1170367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first response to these types of things is there simply is not a one size fits all solution for mental and even to an extent physical health.</p> <p>My second response is women would also probably feel better if they had a chance to go out with friends twice a week. When is your DH going to let you go out twice a week while he stays home with baby?</p> <p>My DH could probably swing a night with friends twice a week, but once a week seems adequate for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170346 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 06:09:35 +0000 Bookish 1170346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol yeah....not happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170287 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 03:20:29 +0000 Penny Lane 1170287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>there wasn't a single woman involved in that study was there? haha ;)</p> <p>i guess i agree that boys nights are good for them. but twice a week? holy cow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170284 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 03:15:15 +0000 MrsStar 1170284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds excessive to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170274 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:50:45 +0000 Sapphiresun 1170274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I love that your response to this was EXACTLY the same as mine.</p> <p>My husband works afternoons 2 nights a week, plays hockey once a week and goes to the gym three days a week. If he threw in two guy nights a week we'd NEVER see him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170270 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:45:08 +0000 loveisstrange 1170270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Twice a week is ridiculous. Maybe once every two or three weeks, at most. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170267 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:27:12 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1170267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that twice a week sounds excessive!! We have gone on two dates since LO was born in July. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170264 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:17:48 +0000 Boheme 1170264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait, what?! We don't even go on dates that often. I would be more open to this once I have my basic needs covered, like, you know, sleeping and showering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170255 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:06:18 +0000 Boogs 1170255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH normally has one every few months. If we don't have date nights twice a week, I find it kind of excessive to have man dates that frequently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/guys-need-boys-night#post-1170251 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 01:50:35 +0000 Sapphiresun 1170251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This study has been making the news here today. Essentially it's saying that men need to have two nights a week to hang out with their friends to maintain their health.</p> <p>Curious what you ladies think. I don't think it's particularly ground breaking to say that EVERYBODY needs some social contact to feel better, but I don't know if twice a week every week is very realistic a lot of the time. Do your guys' husbands have many guys nights?</p> <p><a href="http://life.nationalpost.com/2013/10/22/men-need-to-meet-up-with-friends-for-a-brew-or-a-brawl-to-stay-healthy-u-k-study/" rel="nofollow">http://life.nationalpost.com/2013/10/22/men-need-to-meet-up-with-friends-for-a-brew-or-a-brawl-to-stay-healthy-u-k-study/</a></p> <p>DH has been semi-facetiously touting this study as evidence that I should "let" him go out more. My position is that we have an 11 week old baby, so once I manage to have time to handle my actual basic needs like showering, sleeping and feeding myself we can focus on these kinds of nice to have boys nights for him. Everybody's making sacrifices at the moment. </p>