https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 09:41:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1452221 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 19:09:59 +0000 Freckles 1452221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: No cackling!! Fashion is such a personal thing, and i would be hurt if something i felt was lovely was mocked by someone like my mom. I am pretty sure if the pattern had LV on it, she would have had a different response! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1452163 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 18:44:55 +0000 Mrs. M 1452163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Really inappropriate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1452128 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 18:26:46 +0000 blackbird 1452128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your mom must not have good taste lol. She's hating because you have something nice, which is tacky and rude.</p> <p>You can always interject and say "mom that's none of aunts bussines" but it get that you were take aback. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1452118 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 18:21:49 +0000 MsLipGloss 1452118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: I would never cackle - I take my bags very seriously! And it's lovely. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1452061 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:58:45 +0000 sunny 1452061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: Awww I'm sorry your mom hurt your feelings! When I read your post and before you had even posted the brand, I was wondering if it was Goyard. It's not well known and I feel like the older generation only recognizes something expensive if its got LV or Gucci plastered on it. It's a beautiful bag and I hope you are enjoying it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451989 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:36:40 +0000 HabesBabe 1451989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: we'll just know what NOT to do when it comes to our relationships with our own daughters! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451982 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:34:40 +0000 MrsSCB 1451982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably wouldn't say anything but I do think that's pretty annoying. I think it's a bit rude to talk about the prices of other people's things in general. One time I was out with one of my friends and one of her friends. I was carrying a new bag that I got as a gift that is the most expensive bag I own. My friend's friend, who I'd literally met like one time before blurted out, "Oh, the _____ bag! It cost ____, right?" I was just so taken aback, I couldn't imagine talking about the price of someone else's purse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451977 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:33:15 +0000 snowjewelz 1451977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: I guess I can see why they would've thought it cost $30 but it's b/c they don't know! I would've known and would be admiring/drooling over it! Don't let it get to you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451976 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:33:05 +0000 Greentea 1451976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Negative people are rude. Do your best not to let them get you down. I am no expert, but you might not be able to change her.</p> <p>If you are going to be around her come up with a way to deal with her in the moment that you feel good about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451957 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:28:40 +0000 pinkcupcake 1451957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: oooh pretty bag! Totally does not look like it's $30 :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451949 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:22:30 +0000 autumnlove 1451949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: I would be irritated but I would ignore it.</p> <p>Nice bag! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451945 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:19:07 +0000 Cchoi4 1451945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: thanks. yeah, i always wonder what other mom/daughter relationships are like. Glad you have a good relationship with yours :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451943 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:17:09 +0000 Cchoi4 1451943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: i think we have the same mom!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451932 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:11:40 +0000 meganmp 1451932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A) I would have lost it on my mom. Not graceful. I'm not a good person to ask, as I would have retorted about something that looked cheap in her house.<br /> B) Pretty bag! I like it, and it TOTALLY DOES NOT look like a $30 bag! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451898 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:01:31 +0000 Cchoi4 1451898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: @Freckles: @Arden: as long as you gals don't cackle! its the Goyard St. Louis tote. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451897 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 17:01:18 +0000 HabesBabe 1451897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: ugh, YES! then once I told her I know how much we make, but we don't want to share that information, she gets all butthurt... "I'm not just anyone, I'm family." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451888 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:58:48 +0000 Cchoi4 1451888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: totally! I am a SAHM but DH was having a good year at work so things were going well. In the past, my mom has pressed me about how much DH makes and I've always said "enough" or "he's doing well, don't worry" but then she would turn it into "You don't even know how much he makes? You should know your finances!" ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451886 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:57:53 +0000 pinkcupcake 1451886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another Korean here &amp; I would be gobsmacked if my mom ever said anything like that... she would never say anything to me like that b/c we have a really good relationship. I'm sorry that she hurt your feelings like this :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451871 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:52:53 +0000 HabesBabe 1451871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's an "older-Asian-female" thing (although the jabs I'm used to are usually weight-related... but money is a close second). I would have bee annoyed/pissed/hurt, but wouldn't have said anything either. I'm already in the habit of lying to my mom about the price of things because we have a similar strained relationship.</p> <p>She got offended because I didn't want to tell her how much the hubs and I make, only because she was "happy for us" and didn't think that she was being nosy. We don't like for anyone to know how much we make except us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451868 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:52:09 +0000 Freckles 1451868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: Yes, i'm curious too! </p> <p>But honestly, i have some friends who scoff at some mid-century furniture i like/own..."it cost how much?? for THAT?" I would just not tell her what things cost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451851 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:46:56 +0000 Arden 1451851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: Yes say! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451835 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:44:13 +0000 Cchoi4 1451835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: haha, should I even say? I don't want more people laughing at me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451694 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 16:00:25 +0000 HellOnHeels 1451694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: Just as much blame goes to your aunt, than. I agree with others, probably best to just keep those types of things to yourself. Totally not worth the idiotic comments. But I definitely do not fault you for being offended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451690 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:59:29 +0000 MsLipGloss 1451690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: What kind of bag? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451689 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:59:17 +0000 Smurfette 1451689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is super rude. It is none of her business how much your bag costs, let alone to tell others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451675 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:55:17 +0000 yerpie110 1451675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom (I'm Chinese) totalllyyy would have done the same thing, and I would have been so offended. I would have responded just as you did (with no response essentially), but it would have made me seethe. I've learned to keep the information I tell her to a minimum because she has a history of making comments like that. I don't think she does it intentionally to hurt me or make me upset, just our generation gap I guess, but I now limit what I share, sadly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451660 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:51:19 +0000 Jenn23 1451660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think the problem is about her comment with the purse, but your relationship in general. The purse comment could be easily replaced in the future with another comment. And your aunt sounds like a real peach, too. Basically they were purposely laughing at you in front of you. Not OK. If I were you, I'd keep personal details quiet in the future and really just tell her you don't like the way she speaks sometimes. If you don't want to say anything, then just keep your distance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451658 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:50:41 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1451658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude!! I would have been offended, but probably would have reacted as you did.</p> <p>I agree not to discuss that kind of thing with your mom in the future, if you can help it. Ugh I'm sorry you have to deal with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451653 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:49:09 +0000 mrsjyw 1451653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cchoi4: yea i get the no filter thing, but it just seems like she was making a jab on purpose. regardless, i think you were right to be annoyed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/handling-this-situation-gracefully#post-1451650 Wed, 26 Feb 2014 15:48:18 +0000 Cchoi4 1451650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: aww thanks. I don't know, I always thought most korean moms had no filter and they just said whatever. Most of my friends just have that response to each other "you know how korean moms are..." But still doesn't stop me from being annoyed. </p>