https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 07:50:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media/page/2#post-2394687 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 16:18:01 +0000 DesertDreams88 2394687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't really question the lovey-dovey messages I see on FB. The few people I know who post things like that, really are that happy. </p> <p>What REALLY weirds me out are the couples you thought were great together, and then they end up divorcing. I've known 4 couples like this in the past 4 years.<br /> One was due to infidelity (which I would NEVER have imagined).<br /> One was due to general dissatisfaction with life's direction (very surprised but looking back I understand now).<br /> Two were completely out of the blue, the wife left the husband abruptly and severed all ties. It freaks me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media/page/2#post-2394684 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 16:01:56 +0000 Purpledaisy 2394684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with what some others mentioned about that usually the couples that are the least happy are the ones who post the mushiest stuff. Totally true on my fb... I tag DH in pictures of DD but I usually don't talk about him on there. </p> <p>I also have quite a few people that constantly air all of their dirty laundry only to post how much they love their S.O. the next day... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media/page/2#post-2394648 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 14:48:06 +0000 erinpye 2394648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I mean just in the sense of fulfilling some socializing and sharing in a similar way. It was an aside, not related to the main topic, more to your comment about hating social media in general. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394646 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 14:46:38 +0000 Greentea 2394646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: that's fine. For me, it is NOT though, I am anonymous, for one thing, and have shared... some really difficult things, certainly not projecting perfection, that's not my thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394638 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 14:36:25 +0000 erinpye 2394638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I kind of view HB as social media-ish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394637 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 14:35:49 +0000 erinpye 2394637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my cousins and his wife post super sappy things to each other all the time. He also posted a poem about his upcoming vasectomy. All those things seem weird to me, and I definitely think their relationship is no where near how lovey-dovey they portray it. Social media is definitely everyone's PR campaign though- most people don't highlight the bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394633 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 14:31:20 +0000 Greentea 2394633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loathe social media and am not on it in any form. It is all a contrived projection. To me it is kind of evil- people project a perfect life and it does a little damage- because others think they need that standard and it just isn't reality. Yeah. I am totally a social media scrooge! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394627 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 14:19:47 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2394627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: that would drive me nuts. I dont even want to see people griping about their exes on there! Just not the place imo! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394586 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 12:44:03 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2394586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my experience, the mushiest messages tend to be from people in struggling relationships- or who just over share EVERYTHING. They're often the same people who complain openly about their spouses all over social media as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394578 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 12:26:39 +0000 regberadaisy 2394578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I know people who openly gripe about their spouses on FB! When they are on Facebook. Then it turns into a he said she said every single time. And of course all the females always says the female is right and vice versa. Then the next day their spouse is the best ever. Annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394571 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 12:20:00 +0000 catomd00 2394571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The people who seem the happiest on Facebook are usually some of the most miserable people I know. Must be a defense mechanism. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394565 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 12:13:19 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2394565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know some people who post about all the things they are blessed with all the time including their spouses but I honestly think they are genuine. I don't think they pretend to be perfect but social media isn't the place for your dirty laundry.</p> <p>I honestly can't think of anyone who posts "to" their SO except on their birthday, fathers/Mother's Day, etc! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394563 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 12:05:53 +0000 gingerbebe 2394563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know people in tough relationships who post a lot of sappy stuff but it's more like they are trying to encourage each other to keep working at their marriage. Like a husband sends wife flowers, she posts her delight, people like the post and say what a great husband he is, hopefully that encourages him and makes him feel good, etc. So I think sometimes there's a purpose to such cases actions beyond faking a good relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2394476 Sat, 19 Dec 2015 08:43:19 +0000 Mrs. Peanut 2394476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend on Facebook who CONSTANTLY posts inspirational quotes about marriage, being committed no matter what, never giving up on your spouse, etc. I know they had hard times in the past and there is no doubt in my mind that they are now. If you have to broadcast how you'll never give up on your marriage, it sounds seriously rocky. The lovey dovey posts are mixed in there too, but it's so clear she's trying to convince herself and everyone else that she's happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393577 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 12:27:47 +0000 youboots 2393577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the analogy that social media is the highlight reel of someones life. I no longer use FB to keep in touch, my joke is that it makes me eye roll at people I actually love. I post photos of DH every once in awhile on IG with kind words because his love language is words of affirmation, so while other people certainly see it, it is really ment for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393575 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 12:25:06 +0000 Freckles 2393575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I agree- which is why I'm always sooo surprised by people who still say that they can't go on FB because they get jealous of other people's "social media" lives.</p> <p>Not surprised either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393563 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 12:18:16 +0000 HLK208 2393563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: yesss, agreed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393514 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 11:37:58 +0000 regberadaisy 2393514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Eh-xactly.</p> <p>I occasionally post sappy messages "about" DH on social media. But it's more for recognition on father's day, birthday's etc. Never "to" him. I live with the guy, I don't need to post on social media to tell him on a regular basis how awesome he is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393461 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:49:43 +0000 Boogs 2393461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, not really shocked. Sometimes people create illusions to cover up what is really going on and sometimes they aren't being honest with themselves, maybe a little denial/avoidance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393417 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:14:06 +0000 LuLu Mom 2393417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: exactly this! I feel like when people are overly affectionate on social media it's out of need for attention. I have a relative who will post a sappy love note to her husband right after calling me about how he threatened to leave/wants a divorce. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393416 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:13:54 +0000 .twist. 2393416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessicaMcB: I know a girl you'd swear is single but isn't... That is also weird to me too, but whateves! Not my life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393409 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:08:32 +0000 JessicaMcB 2393409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Oh I don't even mean attaching a name to your husband I mean people being aware you're married at all and not a hot single on the prowl ;) . This one lady was trading "intimate photos" with this poor young guy in the group who thought she was single because we ALL did. She never mentioned her husband or three kids ever. Next thing he knew her husband was threatening him for breaking up their marriage and contacting his employer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393404 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:06:57 +0000 pwnstar 2393404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessicaMcB: DYING at "Fred and effing Ginger" 😂😂😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393401 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:04:47 +0000 JoJoGirl 2393401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessicaMcB: I basically have never once mentioned my DH by name on social media :) but that's probably as my own personal backlash to my brother and SIL who post gushy photos and love messages to each other multiple times a day... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393399 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:03:34 +0000 JessicaMcB 2393399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly assume people who gush about their spouses on facebook constantly are in unstable relationships (my BIL is a good example of this, everyone knows they are MISERABLE but if you only saw their facebook feeds you'd think they were Fred and effing Ginger lol). Also if I'm 100% unaware you even have a spouse after interacting with you for a long while on social media I also give that the side eye- there have been a few ladies in a chat group I'm in who were married but were so quiet about it that they were in weird sexting relationships with some of the men in the group and the poor guys had no idea they were talking to married ladies until husbands started losing it.</p> <p>Essentially there's a very fine balance you have to strike for me not to raise an eyebrow ;) haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393394 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:01:42 +0000 JoJoGirl 2393394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother and SIL are like this and are actually that happy. But most of the time I disbelieve anything I see on social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393391 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 10:00:21 +0000 Applesandbananas 2393391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: lol I don't post much either, I did say something at thanksgiving about being thankful for my family and I usually acknowledge our anniversary with a quip about how many years it's been (a lot haha) but I feel like I'm the oddball! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393385 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 09:58:41 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2393385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah - overly mushy messages about each other all the time tends to make me think twice (or at least give side eye). It's one thing if it's their anniversary or something but randomly all the time seems off in a secure, happy relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393379 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 09:55:27 +0000 lawbee11 2393379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DillonLion: LOL, yep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/happy-relationships-amp-social-media#post-2393378 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 09:55:24 +0000 rachiecakes 2393378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha, I've actually had a friend ask me if DH &amp; I were still together because we never post pictures together or talk about each other on social media... </p>