https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 19:19:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616583 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 12:03:09 +0000 ValentineMommy 2616583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can relate. I was a basketcase until DS2 was consistently moving around (which I didn't feel until super late because of anterior placenta), and even then, I had a hard time attaching until he was actually born. I think it's normal, and sadly, natural. Let yourself feel however you need to feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616574 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 11:52:35 +0000 Shantuck 2616574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think pregnancy after a loss is just difficult. I'm 31 weeks pregnant after 2 consecutive losses (neither were particularly late either - 7 weeks and 9 weeks) and I'm still a headcase. Some days my baby is less active so I feel less kicks and my mind automatically assumes the worst. All you can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other. I do feel bad that I haven't had the joyful pregnancy I had with my son before these miscarriages but your experiences change you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616563 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 11:36:40 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2616563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought the same "today I am pregnant" mantra, and with each day/week/milestone it got easier to relax &amp; celebrate. Congrats &amp; be gentle on yourself. You don't have to know how to feel--just acknowledge your feelings &amp; know they'll evolve. :goodluck: :heart: :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616537 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 10:59:47 +0000 Alivoo01 2616537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another person here that can relate! I've experienced 2 losses (one before each successful pregnancy). And each time I got pregnant, I was so excited yet fearful. Something I told myself daily to help keep me (somewhat) grounded was, "I am pregnant today". Not to say I wasn't a hot mess and nervous and what not frequently, but telling myself that helped reign it in a bit. I'm so sorry to hear about your previous loss though. Wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616490 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 10:04:03 +0000 Mrsbells 2616490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleblessings: sorry you feel this way. it sounds totally normal and there is no "recommended" grieving time, its ok to still feel sad about your loss and also very natural to be worried about the new pregnancy. I dont have any helpful suggestions other than just let yourself grieve and dont rush yourself :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616458 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 09:39:16 +0000 Mama Bird 2616458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. I also had an early loss and can relate with having to grieve alone. And I was waiting for the other shoe to drop with my next pregnancy pretty much until I could feel movement every day, and even then I mentally knew everything is OK, but emotionally expected something to go wrong right up to the end. I don't think I could fully shake the feeling that this is it, DD is finally here safe, until she was like three months old. Ridiculous, I know, but the fear must have sunk its teeth deeper than I thought. It's different for everyone, but it's normal to not just "get over it" fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616450 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 09:28:46 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2616450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an early loss too and sometimes it still feels weird being in the loss club. For me when I heard the baby's heartbeat, a milestone I didn't experience in my first pregnancy, things got better. I still struggled to bond with baby in utero. EBF the baby really helped with bonding and I didn't start that until he was 6 weeks old. Don't beat yourself up if you're not joyful right now. The warm and fuzzies sometimes come much later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616442 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 09:17:37 +0000 LulaBee 2616442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly didn't celebrate my last pregnancy at all. I was sure it was going to end at every point, every day. So when she was born, I could finally celebrate. Hugs to you, I hope you can feel excitement soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616404 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 08:24:19 +0000 catlady 2616404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. It was a slow process for me, both times. I had my LO after one loss and I think I was only really able to celebrate once I hit 2nd trimester and saw her heart beating during the NT scan. I'm currently pregnant with #2 after 2 more losses and for this one, it took even longer and I didn't really feel good about it until I started feeling him move consistently. It definitely takes time and don't feel guilty for grieving your other pregnancy. Hugs and best of luck. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616380 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 07:44:44 +0000 Banana330 2616380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't really be sure until about 16 weeks for me. I felt better after each scan/appointment hearing the heartbeat. It takes time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616366 Tue, 06 Sep 2016 06:49:43 +0000 periwinklebee 2616366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: I'm so sorry. Early losses are really tough and it's normal to grieve over them, just as much as any other loss. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to celebrate a rainbow baby, however you feel about it is perfectly legitimate and won't affect how bonded you are once the baby is born. I wish I had some insights on how to make things feel better as I know it really sucks, but in any case I'm rooting for you and sending good vibes for a healthy pregnancy. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616335 Mon, 05 Sep 2016 23:57:48 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2616335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. It's so hard after a loss. But try to let yourself feel what you need to feel. I slowly celebrated a bit more and more with each healthy milestone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hard-to-celebrate-new-pregnancy-after-loss#post-2616332 Mon, 05 Sep 2016 23:43:58 +0000 littleblessings 2616332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel ridiculous but I don't feel like I belong in a loss board or anything. After all my loss was just a chemical pregnancy. Although I am almost 8 weeks pregnant I am finding it hard to celebrate this pregnancy. I am so fearful of another loss and find myself grieving at night when I'm the only one awake. I feel bad that I can't celebrate this rainbow the way i should but I didn't think I would still be grieving once I got pregnant again. When did you finally feel able to celebrate a pregnancy after you experienced a loss? </p>