https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 06:01:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1318211 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:27:42 +0000 mrbee 1318211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: that's what I do every morning on the way to school!! We trained the kids to point out Christmas tree lights to me, which they love and distracts them from being strapped in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1318197 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:22:22 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1318197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I LOL'd at that. DD hates to be pushed in the stroller, so I wonder if I should just strap her in and let her yell for a little bit to.... break her spirit.... so to speak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1318189 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 17:16:51 +0000 twoofeverything 1318189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another vote for getting out of the house! Someone always poops. And then someone has to wait. And then the waiting child takes off their socks/shoes/hat/coat. And around and around we go until they're finally "locked and loaded" into their carseats!</p> <p>Emotionally, it's also hard when both kids need me or are crying at the same time. I try to tend to whichever child is more urgent, (i.e. bleeding trumps poopy diaper, child who spilled their snack trumps child who is having a tantrum for no particular reason at all). But it hurts when you're physically unable to comfort both of your babies at once! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1318103 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 16:23:13 +0000 GrapeCrush 1318103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say just getting out by yourself with the kids. Takes a lot ore<br /> Time to get them ready takes longer, you just have to be prepared earlier to get some where </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316846 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 09:36:39 +0000 autumnlove 1316846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess time management and juggling? But my DH stayed home for the first 5 weeks so it never seemed so bad. I'm sure it will get more challenging once my baby is mobile and getting into stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316839 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 09:34:35 +0000 lamariniere 1316839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: well said! </p> <p>I have a 3 year old and newborn and I was getting really anxious about how it would all work out. Luckily, DS is fairly independent and reasonably well behaved. DD is also a MUCH easier baby than DS was, so it has been going really well. The worst so far is getting out if the house when I'm alone with the two of them. For example, we had to be somewhere at 10 this morning, which meant leaving no later than 9:40. At 8:30, I could already tell we were going to be cutting it close, but we managed to arrive 4 minutes early, which is miraculous. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316456 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 02:48:48 +0000 FarmWifeGina 1316456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm too tired to decide what's the hardest part. It's all damn hard. Right now it's juggling a baby that doesn't like being out down with the needs of two older kids. Ya know, like the need for food. I totally believe what my mom and all her other friends with lots of kids use to say, that the first 3 were the hardest; by the time the 4th kid and beyond came along, you had at least one kid old enough to be a good help. Theoretically, at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316446 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 02:26:51 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1316446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: Oy! My uterus closed up reading what you just wrote! Hehe! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316385 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 01:22:05 +0000 BoogieBea 1316385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought it was going to be hard the first year. They are 23 months apart so LO1 was getting into his terrible 2s when LO2 arrived. But it wasn't bad at all. I was probably not as nervous going into it as I was when my first was born so that helped. Right now they are ages 2 and 4. They both play well and bicker equally. When they bicker, it really drives me insane because they both come whining and crying. The hardest thing now is that I have a habit of coming down harder on LO1 when they're both equally to blame. I admit that I do baby LO2 a little more, maybe because she's our youngest and last baby. I need to remind myself that she is no longer a baby anymore.<br /> When they are playing well together, it is glorious to watch! At this age they are able to keep each other busy for longer periods of time, so I'm very thankful for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316360 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 00:52:08 +0000 twinmama 1316360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Logistically, two is all I've ever known, so it's a lot of work, but it's just our life. You figure it out, and what works is different for everyone and is always in flux.</p> <p>But for me, the hardest part has always been when they both really, honestly NEED me at the same time. When they are both sick/hurt/upset and I wish I could split myself in two, so I could be in both places at once to give them what they need, or just so they could each have a whole me to make it better. They are so awesome about sharing their world so much of the time, but sometimes they are both crying and each just want my whole lap to themselves. I knew there would be times that they'd both need 'something from' me at the same, but I guess I was caught off guard by the difficulty of when they both just need 'me'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316340 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 00:23:43 +0000 Running Elley 1316340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It hasn't been as hard as I thought it would be so far. My biggest difficulty is logistics, especially when it comes to getting us out of the house. It's super stressful every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316311 Fri, 03 Jan 2014 00:05:11 +0000 HLK208 1316311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought it was going to be a lot harder than it actually was. I spent a lot of time stressing how I would divide my time and attention while I was pregnant, even though we had planned for a second child - I only focused on baby fever while TTC!</p> <p>With two kids, I needed to really focus and use logic of how to handle both at the same time. While out, I had to place one in the car, put the other in, then go back to the other child to buckle them. It's just different. Otherwise, I think I love them equally and give them both enough attention...I wouldn't say it's harder but I do have more on my plate.</p> <p>I know 3 is going to be really hard but I'm not even worried about it haha. I don't have time to worry. Once my youngest is 5 or so, it will start to get easier :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1316289 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 23:55:40 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1316289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hmmm... everything is harder. you have less time, more chores.... but i think the hardest part is when they're both being naughty because as they get older, they set each other off. it is really hard to stay patient after a long day.</p> <p>over christmas break, there were several nights i slept 10-11 hours because i was so exhausted after being with the kids all day, and i never sleep that much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315883 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 22:08:04 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1315883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The absolute death of free time. I used to get me time when LO slept. Now it's very, very rare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315859 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 22:02:23 +0000 Bao 1315859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: good to know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315828 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 21:55:31 +0000 Andrea 1315828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: so far it has been really easy going out with both! I haven't had any bad experiences yet (knock on wood). </p> <p>I think it's just more work. I don't know if anything in particular is hard at the moment. Just more laundry, cleaning, cooking etc. So less free time and rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315385 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:49:26 +0000 Bao 1315385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: Going out with both....sounds scary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315378 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:48:45 +0000 LovelyPlum 1315378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: I'm rooting for twinnies in there, too!!!! :) :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315344 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:45:03 +0000 chopsuey 1315344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hurmm..<br /> At 1 and almost 3, I feel like things are good. We have our routine and the kids get equal attention and love. Going out solo with 2 isn't a big deal anymore either. </p> <p>In the early days/weeks/months--figuring how to juggle 2. Having to decide whose needs I was going to take care of first, etc. was the hardest. Having both cry for me and having to choose to take care of one first was rough. Establishing a schedule, going out with both,.. *shudder* </p> <p>Fun times :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315337 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:44:08 +0000 regberadaisy 1315337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: oh noooo . minivan!</p> <p>@mrbee: I'm worried about that too!</p> <p>@T-Mom: LOL at least dd will never remember? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315315 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:41:28 +0000 T-Mom 1315315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in the infant stage the logistics was really hard, especially since I spend a lot of time alone with 2 kids and do all the pickup/drop off. Now the difficulty is playing referee...<br /> And also making sure we treat them equally is hard... DS gets away with waaaay more than DD did at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315311 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:41:13 +0000 mrbee 1315311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's harder at first, but then it gets a lot easier!</p> <p>Right now, the hardest part is that Olive never wants to ride in the stroller... she just wants to walk places. That wasn't a huge deal when we had just one... but now that we have two, it's pretty tough to push a stroller while the kids are walking in different directions. So I usually end up strapping them into the stroller, and Olive will yell "I want to walk!!" for blocks at a time. The only thing that silences her yells is screentime... but that creates its own problems.</p> <p>I really love watching the kids interact though... seeing them together makes it all worth it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315299 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:39:36 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1315299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: DH is researching car seats that fit three in a row. Even he's convinced it's two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315289 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:37:19 +0000 regberadaisy 1315289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: hahaha or the two follicles in your uterus. Whatevs. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315282 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:35:47 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1315282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: If I really do have 2, I'll be blaming you for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315277 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:35:17 +0000 regberadaisy 1315277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: hahahah you know you lurrrrvvveeee me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315262 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:33:31 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1315262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I hate you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315259 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:33:04 +0000 regberadaisy 1315259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: .....or 3.....or 4 muahahhah </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315243 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:31:12 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1315243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>girl, you read my mind.</p> <p> :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hardest-part-of-two-or-more#post-1315241 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 20:31:03 +0000 Bao 1315241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interested in this as well! </p>