https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 01:40:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-549580 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 20:04:27 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 549580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I agree. I didn't mean to bring it back up. I just wanted to make sure everything was okay with you. Hopefully this situation fixes itself without any further negative effect on you or your family. I hope she doesn't come back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-549563 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 19:50:51 +0000 autumnlove 549563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: Hi! I talked to my real estate agent and he told me to stay out of this situation and document any visits from this woman. I returned the mail I received on Saturday and I also filed a claim with USPS and advised them to only deliver mail in our names...everything addressed to this woman should get returned automatically...<br /> I still feel bad but I need to get over it! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-549542 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 19:31:20 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 549542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Any change, dearie? Everything going okay? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546543 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 23:37:11 +0000 autumnlove 546543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I'm so bummed out...I need to stop thinking about this! I just feel like she will be back soon...the mail I received today looks like a report card or progress report. Gah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546503 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 22:24:18 +0000 MamaMoose 546503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I think it's REALLY crappy the the previous owners left you with this mess. They should have told their friends to come up with a new solution. It's not your responsibility to worry about this kids future. I know that sounds heartless but your responsibility is to YOUR girls. You need to protect them and knowingly committing fraud could very likely have a serious negative impact on your family. I would report it. And I would probably give the woman a call and give her a head's up that unfortunately you can not and will not be an accomplice to her crime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546462 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 21:45:57 +0000 andrea86 546462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that puts you in a really tough position! I do feel bad for the kid possibly having to switch schools like that but at the same time its illegal to be doing what they are doing and you should not have to deal with the potential repercussions. I honestly cant believe she would even ask you that! Couldnt she have put a different mailing address anyway? We are a military family and my kids have had to change schools every year for the past 5 years.... then again we are able to afford to live in good neighborhoods with nice schools too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546447 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 21:33:24 +0000 spaniellove 546447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I know you might feel bad for the kid, but...would you still feel bad if you were charged with a crime and/or forced to pay back tuition for all the years he's gone to school in the district? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546442 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 21:31:23 +0000 Bao 546442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm this is a tough one. It is kind of weird though, and since it isn't a family friend, I would feel weird doing this for someone. It isn't exactly legal. I do feel bad for the kid though, if he should have to leave his friends/school so late in the game. Do you have any cop friends you could ask for advice like @NaturallyCathy mentioned? I think that is a great idea. Change your lock on your mailbox for sure though, she could very well have another key. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546425 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 21:15:06 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 546425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hope you don't mind but I showed your post to DH and he suggested that you inform the police. He would call the police, tell them that someone came to the house, registered their child under your new address, and that you just received mail from the school for this person. He thinks this would cover you legally and deals with the problem at the same time.</p> <p>I should add that we have two friends on our local police force here in Nashville. We're very comfortable calling our friends up and asking them for advice when we hit weird situations like this. If you can, I can call one of them and get their opinion on the matter. I know that we don't live in the same city/state (I'm assuming) but it would give you a different perspective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546366 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 20:12:39 +0000 Mrs. Pen 546366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: oh no!!! you already got mail :(:( that's awful. I'm so sorry you're in this position. Totally sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546359 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 20:02:19 +0000 MrsTiz 546359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let her use it. Other than a piece of mail every now and then, it's not a bother. As someone who lived out of my school district and used another address, I would be devastated having to move schools and friends so close to graduating. A friend of mine got caught and had to transfer, no other reproccusions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546357 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 19:59:32 +0000 lomom 546357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I googled this out of curiosity, to see what repercussions there could be and people have been charged with fraud, including the ones allowing their address to be used... Scary stuff!</p> <p>Its frustrating to those who follow the rules. My parents felt strongly about sending us to a certain school district and bought a house, much smaller than what they could've purchased elsewhere, so that we could attend those schools--legally. </p> <p>If I were in your shoes, I'd do a little more research into your possible legal repercussions if you knowingly permit this fraud to occur. I wouldn't be willing to risk it for a stranger! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546356 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 19:57:15 +0000 autumnlove 546356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh fudge..I just checked the mail and we have mail from the high school for the lady. Ahhhhhhhh!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546343 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 19:45:36 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 546343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I almost poster her name in the original post and spelled it Ah-ndrea :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address/page/2#post-546327 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 19:28:25 +0000 autumnlove 546327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I forgot who the 90210 kid was so I just Googled it...Andrea Zuckerman! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546289 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 18:18:15 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 546289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would report her. It is fraud. This is costing all the residents in your town more money, and could affect other kids in the district. It is a bad lesson he is learning. It is totally unfair to put you in this situation. If they want to continue to send him there, they need to pay for it rather than freeload and lie. They can move into the district, just like anyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546280 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 18:10:35 +0000 Rubies 546280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it for a close family member or friend. But for a complete stranger? Maybe not...It's a little weird! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546259 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 17:52:10 +0000 singingbee 546259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhm, yes, she didn't have to give you back the key, but she should't have had it in the first place. This isn't a simple thing. I don't know how she thought it was okay to come and contact you. That, to me, is a red flag. Yes, I hate that the child is in the middle, but he knows what is going on. Otherwise, why would he be driving two towns over to go to school. You shouldn't have to "pay" for him to go to school. People should move to get in the district they want or deal with the school that they go to---not commit mail fraud and hurt other kids' chances of going to that school. What if someone does this when your child goes to kindergarten and when you register your child, they can't take her because there isn't enough room? Then, your child has to be bussed to another school because someone was cheating about where they lived. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546211 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 17:07:46 +0000 spaniellove 546211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've seen school districts in my area charge parents with crimes for doing that, so it may be best to protect yourself and not worry too much about making her happy, though you don't have to call the school. Although she returned the key, who's to say she didn't make a copy first? </p> <p>Maybe I'm a little biased because when I was a kid a lot of my parents' friends lied about their addresses to get their kids into a certain district while my parents scrimped and saved to pay private school tuition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546200 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 16:59:39 +0000 Pink Champagne 546200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's really disgusting that people do this kind of thing, especially after reading all of the posts about parents who have to test their kids into their own district schools, submit their kids into lotteries, etc, because there simply isn't enough room.</p> <p>I personally would call the school. I think now that you know, if you don't report it, it could cause problems for you down the road if this fraudulent behavior is found out. Like it or not, you're now a part of the fraud. I mean, it's not like a huge crime here, but it's a huge problem and maybe if kids are kicked out of their high schools for parents doing this crap it will scare others into not doing the same thing.</p> <p>Look, if the kid is some huge sports star, his new school will be happy to take him. Otherwise, I don't think you'll be ruining any chance of little Johnny getting a college scholarship if all he is is a third string benchwarmer. And as far as his education goes, a high GPA will not be affected if he has to transfer schools. His education is not your responsibility, and his future ability to get into a good college is not going to be affected if he's a good student, contrary to the pack of lies that woman told you.</p> <p>I would also get all of the locks changed on your house and mailbox, stat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546182 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 16:45:45 +0000 Amelieisme 546182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let it be. I sympathize with her situation (or really her son's) and wouldn't want her kid pulled from school. It isn't his fault his mother has had him going to the wrong district and he is nearly finished with high school... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546169 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 16:34:22 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 546169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Oh, and a nice thing to do is to cross out the address on the mail and say "Please Forward" instead of "Return to Sender". It might help mitigate the impact. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546151 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 16:08:16 +0000 KissMeCait 546151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's no way that I would be comfortable with that and I wouldn't let it continue. She was friends with the previous owner but she's a stranger to you. You're not obligated to do her any favors. True, she didn't have to give you back the mail key but it's pretty sketchy that she had it in the first place. Who knows what access she's had to your personal belongings.</p> <p>She should contact the school and try to get permission for her son to remain enrolled outside of the district. I know that this is often approved if the student is a senior but a junior isn't far off. I wouldn't be surprised if she's able to keep her son in the district legally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546145 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:55:46 +0000 autumnlove 546145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Reese: Yeah, she definitely didn't need to return the key! I think I was just creeped out by her wanting to come in to chat but she did seem like a very nice person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546139 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:51:04 +0000 Reese 546139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am with @mrs. bird: on this one. She didn't have to give you back your mail key (you had no idea she had it). To be honest if she was creepy, the odds are that she could have kept checking out mail behind your back and you would have never have known. She was straight up with you and for her kids sake I would just leave it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546136 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:48:34 +0000 autumnlove 546136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: that is what I'm thinking but DH feels so strongly against it. He says his family has been paying taxes in the area for 40 years and it just isn't right. When we were house hunting, I suggested using his mom's address for schools in the future but he was against that too...luckily, we found a house near good schools.</p> <p>She seemed really nice and I totally understand where she is coming from...I wish she never showed me her son's school pic. :-(</p> <p>Oh yeah, of course I watched her go to her car through my blinds and I took a picture!</p> <p>[attach=1791/13/mhm1u9.286x192.image.jpg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546130 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:46:34 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 546130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd leave things as they are and just let it go for now.<br /> I would change the mailbox key and i'd have DH call her and be like, "listen lady, we're going to overlook this for now so your one son can finish school, but after this year, it's not happening and please do not come to our home, Thank you and have a great year!"<br /> Creepy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546125 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:40:15 +0000 autumnlove 546125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Oooh, good idea. I know they moved out of state but maybe my real estate agent can get their information from the selling agent.</p> <p>I think I talked DH out of contacting the school district but he still wants nothing to do with this scheme and wants to return all mail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546123 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:38:35 +0000 chopsuey 546123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: He's a junior and will be done with HS soon.. I'd just leave things as they are and wouldn't contact the school or anything.<br /> Lots of crazies in this world and I'd hate for them to do something if the kid got kicked out of school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-anyone-ever-asked-if-they-could-use-your-address#post-546110 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 15:22:07 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 546110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so very Beverly Hills 90210!</p> <p>I think I would do a couple of things:<br /> 1) Let the previous owners know. They created the problem and they can help get the lady out of the bind (maybe by finding another friend in the neighborhood whose address they could use).<br /> 2) Ignore. I wouldn't go to the school and expose the situation and I'd just let the situation play out without your intervention. That way you are not liable nor have you aided in any way. </p>