https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 12:40:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1609573 Fri, 02 May 2014 16:44:33 +0000 littlek 1609573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyann: so true! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1609494 Fri, 02 May 2014 16:12:57 +0000 lisa1783 1609494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was a notorious biter for a while and they even placed him in his own little "office" to try and separate him from the other kids. I felt awful but he was only 10 months old so no matter how you frown/say no/scold, they just don't understand. I agree with @mrs. wagon, being the parent of the biter is worse because you just feel so judged and powerless. Luckily he's grown out of it but there are some moments now when he's extremely frustrated or angry that he'll try to bite us. It's like living with a piranha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1609448 Fri, 02 May 2014 16:00:17 +0000 lilyann 1609448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS (19 months) has been bit about 6 times in the past month by a toddler that he has been in daycare with since they were 3 months old....apparently my son takes her toys and she doesn't like it. I can't get mad at the biter, she doesn't know any better, just like my son doesn't know better than to take a toy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608750 Fri, 02 May 2014 12:05:47 +0000 mediagirl 1608750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: that is horrible. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608654 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:43:26 +0000 NovBaby1112 1608654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: that's crazy! Poor B :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608640 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:40:10 +0000 mrs. wagon 1608640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I go back and forth about it a lot, but I really feel like for people who don't have experience of being the biter, for them to really understand how awful you feel, I have to tell the story of being hunted down and confronted. And I just don't want to risk that family finding out I blogged about it. :T </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608625 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:36:57 +0000 littlek 1608625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: I've had parents try and get my LO kicked out of daycare after he had 2 biting incidents in a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608619 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:35:50 +0000 NovBaby1112 1608619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: that's awful they did that!! :sad:</p> <p>I honestly dont know why parents make biting out to be something so horrible and make other parents feel bad about it! I can see being upset if an older kid bit LO, but if a toddler/baby bit LO- I wouldnt be upset at all (of course I would feel bad that LO was hurt, but I would never ever blame the parents or make them feel bad!) I think it's pretty normal toddler behavior- esp. if they are frustrated or upset by something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608614 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:34:28 +0000 littlek 1608614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: i think you should do a blog about it! Biting is so common and I feel like the other side of biting is not understood by parents. I have been given dirty looks and ignored by parents when they found out B was a biter. It's not like I teach him to bite when he's upset. He's not even 2, he doesn't understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608613 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:34:07 +0000 pinkcupcake 1608613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Awh, poor baby! :( I'm sorry to hear. </p> <p>@mrs. wagon: That incident sounds absolutely horrific. I can't believe they hunted you down like that. That's just terrible :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608596 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:30:14 +0000 mrs. wagon 1608596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have also been both. Both suck, but I've got to say, after now having 2 kids in daycare, being the biter sucks more because your kids are doing something wrong and there is very, very little you can do about it if they don't bite while you're around. Bite wounds heal, and tears are dried, but changing your kid's behavior is a lot tougher. The older they get, the more effort you can put in to get them to stop because you can talk to them... but if they're biting before age 3 or so, they usually just don't understand consequences of their actions yet. You can ask anyone around us, we are super strict and tough on our kids when it comes to misbehaving, but Wagon Jr. has still been through several phases of a couple of incidents here and there. Luckily we have had great teachers who are willing to work with him closely. He has always been the youngest in his class so they are aware that he can get easily frustrated when he can't convey his feelings quickly enough. </p> <p>We did, however, have a really awful experience where a kid told her parents that Wagon Jr. was the one who bit her, and even though the school told them it wasn't their policy to tell who the biter was, they hunted me down and called me, and asked to have a meeting about it. Let me tell you, there is nothing more awkward and horrifying than getting that call. They asked us what we planned to do about it, etc. What do you even say to that? You feel bad enough that your kid is a biter and you're not there to be the one to get it to stop happening. I felt sick for a week afterwards and even though we got through it, I still can't look that kid or her parents in the eye. </p> <p>I have contemplated blogging about biting but I'm just too afraid of the blacklash and judgement, and I'm afraid that parent will find the blog post. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608559 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:20:45 +0000 LulaBee 1608559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was bit 8 times in her first month at daycare! She was 11 months old and the only non-walker in her class, so the teachers thought she was a sitting duck. I felt HORRIBLE and wanted to pull her out, but it got resolved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608554 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:18:14 +0000 kiddosc 1608554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been both. He went through a phase of a few months where I got a few notes he had bitten, usually spurred by fighting over a toy. He also used to try to bite me fairly often. But he seems to have grown out of it without major incident. </p> <p>He has also been bitten several times at daycare. The most recent time they broke skin and he had a pencil eraser size wound. Having been the parent of the biter before, I know it's not always controllable. It hasn't happened since, so I feel like everyone has been properly cautious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608549 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:17:25 +0000 littlek 1608549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: it really really sucks having a biter. I feel judged by parents all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608544 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:16:38 +0000 littlek 1608544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is a biter. We work really hard on it. He bites when other kids take his toy eventhough he tells them "no thank you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608539 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:13:38 +0000 autumnlove 1608539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bitten twice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1608537 Fri, 02 May 2014 11:13:13 +0000 Mommy Finger 1608537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS has been bitten twice. That last time, it broke skin and he had a scab on his back for a few weeks. It's just now going away. I'm not sure who it was or if it was the same kid both times. I'm told that both times, they were both going for the same toy and DS got bit. I feel bad for the little guy but trust that my DCP is doing all they can to mitigate these situations.</p> <p>Now if we want to talk hitting, that's a whole other issue that we're trying to break. . . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607344 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:51:03 +0000 78h2o 1607344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: yeah, J has been harassing the dog as well. I do the timeout and gentle thing with that too.</p> <p>I frown and say calmly/firmly no biting/scratching/pulling dog's tail + be gentle. I then take her to a corner and have her sit and face the wall (more to break her attention from the situation than for punishment). I usually rest my hands gently on her shoulders and count out loud to 15 in a super calm tone...seems to help her chill. She usually doesn't resist, but I count a little faster if it looks like she might start, lol! If she's hurt me, I ask her to say sorry and to be gentle. She usually will kiss me and stroke my face gently...or go pet the dog gently. </p> <p>The other day she scratched both DH and me (she does this sometimes when really tires). We both said "no" and she went and put herself in timeout! Lol! I counted to 15 from the other side of the room. She then came over to me, said "gentle" without prompting, and stroked my face. So I'm hoping she gets it. This is such an awesome but sometimes challenging age! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607342 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:46:43 +0000 Kimberlybee 1607342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww ouch! Sorry she had a rough day. Hope she has a better Friday and a great weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607340 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:43:00 +0000 yoursilverlining 1607340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Knock on wood - no bites and no biting. When we started in the toddler room the teachers were real vocal about how proud they were that for 4 years they had not had a biter in the class; I was praying to baby Jesus every night my kid didn't break the streak!!</p> <p>She did use to love to bite me, but thankfully she just screams (and now sometimes pushes, blerg) when her personal space is invaded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607310 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:25:18 +0000 travelgirl1 1607310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: She's not in daycare, I nanny and she comes with me so I'm there when it happens and usually have to pull her off. We do the "gentle" thing too and I always ask her to show me "gentle" and she'll stroke me or whoever she hurt. She's started pulling the dog's tail too and thinks it's funny, I know it's a totally normal stage but my word, I wish she'd grow out of it. How do you do timeouts with J? Do you sit with her? I usually pick A up and take her to the other side of the room then try give the other LO lots of attention, which sometimes works. I feel like redirection alone just isn't working. I also try tell her "we don't bite" while shaking my head then tell her what to do instead while nodding, because I don't fully know what she understands but she does know shaking head and nodding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607307 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:22:17 +0000 MamaMoose 1607307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bitten three times and been the biter three times. Every time she has bitten it has been within 48 hours after some one else biting her.</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: I can't believe your school hasn't disenrolled the kid if he/she has been consistently biting for 18 months!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607300 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:16:14 +0000 wheres_c 1607300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my lo has been bitten twice...he doesnt know personal space. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607251 Thu, 01 May 2014 21:50:46 +0000 78h2o 1607251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: that sucks! :( hopefully your LO will outgrow it soon! I put my LO in 15 sec time outs when she bites me....seems to help. Is your LO in daycare? It's so hard when you're not there to see it happen/address it. My LO was shoving for awhile at daycare but never anywhere else and I had no idea what to do. I ended up teaching her the word "gentle" and asking her teachers to tell her to be gentle and use time outs if needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607178 Thu, 01 May 2014 21:23:37 +0000 travelgirl1 1607178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is a biter. We are working very hard on stopping it but not having much success. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607102 Thu, 01 May 2014 20:52:05 +0000 78h2o 1607102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO has been bitten. To my knowledge she hasn't bitten anyone at daycare, but she has bitten me. I really hope she doesn't bite anyone else! I'm not that stressed about it though (unless it were to happen repeatedly, on either side). It seems like a phase a lot of kids go through as they figure out how to deal with not getting what they want, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607096 Thu, 01 May 2014 20:48:01 +0000 T-Mom 1607096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids have both been bitten but never the biter (as far as we know). My DS has also bitten himself at school, haha. They could not figure out who was biting him since they had been keeping the known biter away from him.. Until they caught him in the act... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607077 Thu, 01 May 2014 20:42:20 +0000 matador84 1607077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Twice bitten and bit twice..they did tell me he only bit bc finger was stick in his mouth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607074 Thu, 01 May 2014 20:41:29 +0000 SLR 1607074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and yes (several times!). Nothing that left a mark like that though...poor thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/has-your-lo-been-bit-or-been-the-biter-while-in-child-care#post-1607068 Thu, 01 May 2014 20:38:41 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1607068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ouch!!! Poor thing :-(</p> <p>Yes. She used to get bit almost weekly before we changed her daycare </p>