https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 04:29:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1792549 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 16:15:33 +0000 Greentea 1792549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: good! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1792463 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 15:36:24 +0000 .twist. 1792463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: Did they accommodate your requests and explain how it got "lost"?? </p> <p>Glad to see it all turned out well for you! Those kinds of things make me SO nervous too!!! </p> <p>I'm probably going to be having a few of these moments in my near future, and I am like you, so I will take your success and use it to fuel my motivation! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1792451 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 15:31:31 +0000 snowjewelz 1792451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: Yay! You should be proud! I do hope something happens soon so yoou can move closer!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1792443 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 15:28:59 +0000 lizzywiz 1792443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: @babycanuck:<br /> Meeting was successful!<br /> I went in calm, asked how it happened and what they could offer me. I negotiated for more money if I HAVE to travel, but also retained the option of moving closer in as soon as something pops up. That is not as unrealistic as it sounds- since we work at schools, things change significantly this time of year. I am feeling much more positive about the whole situation and feeling like I was professionally assertive, which makes me feel proud (assertive is hard for me).<br /> Thanks, ladies :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1786833 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:21:02 +0000 babycanuck 1786833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely ask them why, and tell them that it will make you even more committed to your job having a better work/life balance.</p> <p>Explain how disappointed you were with being 'lost' in the process - you thought they would be better organized. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1786816 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:17:16 +0000 snowjewelz 1786816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: If they sound hesitant or can't really give you a good answer then they're totally just making you do what no one else wants to do b/c they know you can and will do it! A better result would be if they really have some scheduling/staff conflict, but maybe they can move you within a certain time frame... Best of luck!</p> <p>I hate being confrontational too, but I agree that as I get older, I do get more assertive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1786811 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:15:05 +0000 lizzywiz 1786811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also maybe ask why they shot it down? Push them to tell you why and give you an explanation.@snowjewelz: Excellent idea. I didn't consider asking them to explain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1786809 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:12:52 +0000 snowjewelz 1786809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go you! You can do it! </p> <p>I don't think you need to get angry... But just think of why you do not want to be away from your kids for 1 night every week and explain firmly that your family is your priority and that's why you made the request. I would also voice that you are disappointed something can't be worked out as you've had good relationships with the company/co-workers/upper management/etc. Also maybe ask why they shot it down? Push them to tell you why and give you an explanation. </p> <p>I wouldn't make a threat but if they're smart they should be afraid that you're gonna jump ship! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-a-meeting-need-to-be-assertive-and-self-advocatenervous#post-1786800 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 10:07:36 +0000 lizzywiz 1786800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work around my state in schools and heath-care settings. I requested to be moved closer to home so I wouldn't have to be away from my kiddo 1 night a week. I found out yesterday that my request had been 'lost' and not accommodated. I have a meeting tomorrow to discuss the options, which look limited.<br /> I am an excellent employee, with consistent 'exceeds expectations' reviews from every facility I have ever worked at.<br /> But I am also known to be too nice, which is why I am getting the shaft, I think.</p> <p>I often don't express anger in the work place because I feel like it is not effective in getting what I want, but this time I do want to express some sort of significant anger/ disappointment/ something and also let them know I will be looking at other companies without it sounding like a threat. </p> <p>I don't want to be dramatic or burn bridges or anything, but I don't want to just roll over and take it, either. </p> <p>any experience or advice is welcome!</p> <p>On a side note, I am so frustrated with being punished for good behavior. I routinely get placed at hard to work facilities because I am easy to get a long with and I deal with crap like this 'lost' request. Something about being older, having a kid, has decimated my tolerance level for this b.s. </p>