https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 06:31:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1467253 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 16:09:50 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1467253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mfa_lady: well shucks ;) haha I know. If only there were some HBers in my area, we could skip past the awkward part ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466640 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 13:44:59 +0000 NurseMommy 1466640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely an introvert, but a mild one...<br /> I really enjoy the company of others but it does exhaust me.<br /> And since having DD I'm pickier about who I spend our time with, because if I know it's not going to be a rewarding experience, I'd rather stay at home with her. The exception being spending time with my family, because they're an obligation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466551 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 13:18:39 +0000 BoogieBea 1466551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been an introvert. My husband is a huge extrovert though so it rubs off sometimes. But I always need my time alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466541 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 13:16:49 +0000 Alivoo01 1466541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a huge introvert growing up. Since meeting DH and progressing more in my career, I'm becoming more and more of an extrovert. Around new people though, I'm an introvert! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466437 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:47:18 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1466437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been an introvert, but went through a huge extrovert stage early on (late elementary - jr. high) and again during my early college/partying days. But I've always been most comfortable alone and away from crowds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466426 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:43:42 +0000 yin 1466426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been an introvert and much more now that I'm a parent. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466401 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:37:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1466401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've become less introverted in recent years. I wouldn't call myself an extrovert though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466398 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:36:06 +0000 mfa_lady 1466398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: If only we lived close together...we could get ourselves out of the funk and have some double dates!! :)</p> <p>But yes, it is super intimidating. You can do it, though, and you'll be so glad you did! Plus, she will be lucky to have such an awesome new friend! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466380 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:31:00 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1466380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mfa_lady: My husband is the same as me! I used to be the extroverted one but now we just sit at home and do nothing all the time lol</p> <p>Yes, I should call her. Gah. Why is it so intimidating?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466376 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:28:47 +0000 mfa_lady 1466376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: YES! It's so weird, right? I don't think I have really low self-esteem, either...but I start to feel like I do when I have these crazy-lady conversations with myself. </p> <p>Haha. I admire my husband so much for his opposite-ness from me on this one. He will meet someone one night and be taking them hiking or canoeing or meeting them for a drink the next night. It comes so easy to him! This thread is inspiring me to be better about this. :)</p> <p>ETA: Yes! Call her! She will be so happy to hear from you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466361 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:22:27 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1466361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petunia354: haha yes I feel that way. It feels like dating, it takes such a long time to get to that comfortable spot and I don't enjoy the inbetween.</p> <p>@Sapphiresun: that definitely makes sense! Sometimes I feel like all I need is J and DH - so why go out of my way to make friends? I know that deep down I crave the intimacy of girlfriends and my life is definitely lacking there.</p> <p>@mfa_lady: hahaha not just you - I do the same thing! I don't think I have bad self-esteem, but I sometimes project my feelings/thoughts onto them- similar to you. Like I met this lovely young woman not long ago and we really clicked at this event we were attending - but I haven't called her up for coffee because I think, "well she's a newlywed and kids aren't on the horizon - so she must not want to be friends with someone preoccupied with a child." I should just give her the benefit of the doubt! She works in a preschool lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466338 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:14:09 +0000 Sapphiresun 1466338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm... I'd say I lean more toward the introverted side. I wouldn't say that since I had LO though that it's gotten worse. I think introversion for me is more that being "on" with other people saps my energy, rather than giving energy. Now that I have LO, I'm constantly socializing with her, and she kind of uses up a lot of my capacity for interacting with others, and when I get "breaks" from her, I want to spend a little time alone, rather than socializing with more other people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466333 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:12:10 +0000 rachiecakes 1466333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>a little bit - my job forces me to be outgoing and see/talk to new people on a daily basis.<br /> in my social life? I stay home much more than I ever imagined that I would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466332 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:11:11 +0000 sandy 1466332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I've always been naturally introverted...I prefer having a small group of close friends rather than being with a huge crowd of people. I became much more outgoing in college. Then after law school I think I just found interactions to be exhausting and I would dread having to talk with clients, colleagues, the courts, staff, etc. Then I became a SAHM and I'm super outgoing now...my husband says it's like I'm trying to date every mom out there bc I'm always chatting with everyone and exchanging contact info and inviting people to hang out. I think bc I don't have a workplace for a social outlet I just talk with everyone - other moms, the dry cleaner, the grocery store workers, etc...I'm always chatting people up :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466327 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:06:36 +0000 autumnlove 1466327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: ditto </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466325 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:05:17 +0000 Anagram 1466325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't call myself an extrovert, but I can talk to pretty much anyone. The situation that is my kryptonite is a large party where I don't know anyone ( or like 1 person) but they all seem to know each other. I'm SO not good at just walking up to new groups of people and talking. I have a friend that is amazing at working a room full of strangers (without seeming weird or annoying) and id like to be more like that. </p> <p>But out me in a group of 3-7 and I have no trouble getting to know everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466324 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 12:05:12 +0000 mfa_lady 1466324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh. Yes! Feel like I could have written every word that you and @mrsjyw said. It's so strange how that happens....I don't have kiddos to explain the change, but I totally see this in myself. My husband is so good at making friends, and for some reason I always shy away from that. (I don't mean to make it sound like I'm in his shadow or something, I'm really talking about two different situations.) Honestly, for me, I think it is sometimes a self-esteem issue. I say things to myself like "Well, I bet that person has enough close friends already." Really?! Who talks to themselves like that? This girl. Anyway, good to know I'm not the only one on this train! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466285 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:53:42 +0000 looch 1466285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah, it's easy for me to make friends, but more difficult for me to maintain them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466278 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:52:03 +0000 Boogs 1466278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been an introvert and it only seems to have gotten worse. I'm just so lazy to put out the effort and I don't really desire any new friends, so it's not like I work towards it. In social situations, I can't help but clam up and get stuck on what to say to people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466270 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:49:45 +0000 petunia354 1466270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Yeah, I totally get that. </p> <p>I get overwhelmed by the "audition" aspect of it. You try to put your best self forward so someone will like you and then it takes a while to get to that comfortable spot where you can just be your real self. Or maybe that's just me and I read way too much into the process :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466264 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:47:52 +0000 snowjewelz 1466264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been an introvert, but when I was younger I probably appeared more extroverted than now (which I think I needed in order to make friends!). As an adult I am 100% introverted. I love hanging out w/ friends and being around people, but I am emotionally drained and can only recharge when I'm alone. And I do best just meeting up with 1 person vs. a group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466250 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:44:19 +0000 ValentineMommy 1466250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was like @mrsjyw. Shy as a child, then super extroverted in high school, then slowly started becoming more introverted in college to now. Now people require so much energy that I don't have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466249 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:43:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1466249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petunia354: I still feel like I *want* friends too, but the process all of a sudden seems daunting. Making new friends used to spark excitement for me, and now it's more dread. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466243 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:41:59 +0000 petunia354 1466243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been an introvert but enjoyed having a close group of friends and was outgoing when with those friends! Now, I'm still an introvert but am finding it much harder to make friends. It's like suddenly cat got my tongue and I no longer know how to make conversation with other people? Very bizarre. I'm working on it though because I want to have some mom friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466238 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:41:14 +0000 mrsjyw 1466238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed with every word of your post. (except switch kid/teen to teen/college) I was super shy as a kid. Grew out of my shell in hs and college and in the last few years have dwindled down to social awkwardness :P... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-become-more-introverted#post-1466235 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 11:39:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1466235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a kid/teen I was a huge extrovert... but growing up and esp since being a mom, I've become so introverted! I prefer being alone to being in a group of people, people now exhaust me and I don't seek out relationships like I used to. It's really bizarre. I would say I'm still friendly, but not extroverted like I was.</p> <p>Have you changed from one to the other? </p>