Hellobee Boards Topic: Have you been told you spoil your child?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Have you been told you spoil your child? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 20:19:43 +0000 wonderstruck on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842752 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 08:32:54 +0000 wonderstruck 1842752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think that the idea of spoiling a 5 month old is completely ridiculous! People just love to criticize. I know that some family members think I'm too strict, or at least they used to. I'm not, I just thinks kids, even young toddlers, need limits. They would roll their eyes at me for demonstrating gentle hands when LO was still very little, taking his sippy cup away when he throws it even when the sippy cup was a brand new thing, ending meals when he throws food, having a set bedtime for him, etc. But now that he's getting a little bit older they seriously comment all the time on how well-behaved and happy he is, though I'm still not sure they see the correlation! Andrea on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842695 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 06:37:25 +0000 Andrea 1842695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, our parents do. They think playing with them = spoiling because they never played with us. StbHisMrs on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842664 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 01:27:40 +0000 StbHisMrs 1842664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep, my MIL loves to tell me this, apparently the whole family thinks so. So I tend to my kids when they cry or talk to me. anonysquire on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842661 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 00:43:12 +0000 anonysquire 1842661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes! My family says I'm making it so she isn't content to be alone. Well why would a baby be content all alone? Besides, I like being needed! lemondrop on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842656 Sat, 30 Aug 2014 00:16:58 +0000 lemondrop 1842656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, when they were both brand new, but I don't care or regret it. If I'm happy and the baby is happy, then nobody else's 2 cents counts. You will never regret having snuggle time, but you may regret not doing it, so any critics can go shove it. Arden on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842634 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 22:44:40 +0000 Arden 1842634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh my gosh yes. I'm spoiling her because: I hold her/wear her all the time, I let her eat snacks in the car, I nurse on demand, I give her my direct attention when she asks for it, I don't force her to give affection (like kisses for grandparents), etc, etc, eyc. I'm mean and uptight because: I don't let her eat crap/drink juice, I don't let her have screen time, I don't buy her a million plastic toys, etc, etc, etc. So apparently: giving love and attention = bad. Giving stuff and junk food = good. Eyeroll. Bao on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842587 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 21:09:40 +0000 Bao 1842587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Sunshine: yes exactly! Of course my oldest is going through her terrible twos so that certainly isn't helping, but I like to think we are raising her right. Mrs. Sunshine on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842518 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 20:07:24 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1842518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Bao: does it really matter if they're spoiled if they don't act like brats? I mean, who cares if they get an "excess" of attention & things as long as they still have manners & know how to treat people (as well as a child can any way). I figure that as long as LO isn't acting like a brat & getting her way after throwing a fit anyone that says she is spoiled can suck it! lol Bao on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842472 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 19:03:26 +0000 Bao 1842472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We get told it in a joking way, but I say it too because I know my kids are spoiled, but in a (hopefully) non bratty way. Corduroy on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842471 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 19:03:18 +0000 Corduroy 1842471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to hear it all the time when she was a newborn. I don't think I've heard it since she was a few months old. Tanjowen on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842469 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 18:59:58 +0000 Tanjowen 1842469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MUI831: Me too! My family thinks I'm ridiculous, but I agree about the bedtime being firm - I need the time to myself at night to wind down too! Tanjowen on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842468 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 18:59:58 +0000 Tanjowen 1842468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MUI831: Me too! My family thinks I'm ridiculous, but I agree about the bedtime being firm - I need the time to myself at night to wind down too! Freckles on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842461 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 18:52:58 +0000 Freckles 1842461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @autumnlove: you mean being an attentive parent? *eyeroll* We have been told that by my ILs, but that's because they think we baby her by not forcing her to go to them or other relatives. MrsTiz on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842279 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 14:41:32 +0000 MrsTiz 1842279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only by DH :P I really don't though..I've made it a priority since day 1 that he is independent, he doesn't need to be snuggled to sleep or to be held, etc. Only now am I regretting it because I would kill for some snuggles! LuLu Mom on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842203 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 13:39:11 +0000 LuLu Mom 1842203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I usually hear it when someone goes "cute outfit" and I say "its new" or something similar to that they go "oh she's so spoiled." looch on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842164 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 13:17:58 +0000 looch 1842164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep, constantly, because he's an only child and we spoil him with attention. I know I buy him too much stuff, but oh well. artsyfartsy on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842163 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 13:16:05 +0000 artsyfartsy 1842163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. I hold him too much. I don't let him cry. I'm always "fussing" with him. Mama Bird on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842112 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:28:09 +0000 Mama Bird 1842112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, and always with no good reason. People don't get that sick or cranky babies need more attention! Especially if their own kids are long since grown up and they don't remember the baby days. Dandelion on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842106 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:25:53 +0000 Dandelion 1842106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep. They probably are, but they're good kids so I don't care. The minute D or M become ungrateful, the gravy train stops. Grace on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842103 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:23:26 +0000 Grace 1842103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I haven't heard it, but I think LO is in danger of being spoiled. I want to get her all the things my parents couldn't afford for me! illumina on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842097 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:18:34 +0000 illumina 1842097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: me too. I get "why don't you let her watch tv/play with her food/eat cake all the time" etc. Mommy Finger on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842096 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:17:51 +0000 Mommy Finger 1842096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I get it sort of half jokingly from my mom on occasions where we miss out on things due to his bedtime. But sorry, that bedtime is golden to me. rachiecakes on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842094 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:17:18 +0000 rachiecakes 1842094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @BabyBoecksMom: @autumnlove: I had to get some things for J's room at Target the other night - a fun lamp, another fun wall light, kids ottoman and because he was really good, a toy car (small, like $4) and the cashier said "wow is it your birthday?? spoiled!" lol, ok... autumnlove on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842088 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:12:48 +0000 autumnlove 1842088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @BabyBoecksMom: toys, books, holding, doing crafts, reading, etc! rachiecakes on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842079 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:07:25 +0000 rachiecakes 1842079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ All the time. MrsKoala on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842075 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:06:27 +0000 MrsKoala 1842075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL told me he was spoiled at 3 months because we pick him up when he cries. Lame. BabyBoecksMom on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842071 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 12:04:41 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1842071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: :-( I guess we can't make anyone happy? @autumnlove: really?? autumnlove on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842051 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 11:42:00 +0000 autumnlove 1842051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, all the time! .twist. on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842050 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 11:41:45 +0000 .twist. 1842050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but I've heard the opposite. :/ Mae on "Have you been told you spoil your child?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-been-told-you-spoil-your-child#post-1842048 Fri, 29 Aug 2014 11:40:39 +0000 Mae 1842048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No but she's only 3.5 mo. I don't even know how you would spoil a 5mo though? At that point they sort of just need what they need I feel like..