https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 23:38:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2193850 Fri, 29 May 2015 19:40:07 +0000 yellowbird 2193850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I already commented on this thread, but I did have gender disappointment this time around when I found out I was expecting a boy. Well, he's here now and he is the best thing ever. I feel crazy because I just couldn't imagine a different baby. It's okay to have disappointment, but know that it will go away eventually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2193815 Fri, 29 May 2015 18:58:22 +0000 babycanuck 2193815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really worried about this. I'm pretty sure I'm one and done and I really want a girl, DH really wants a boy. My gut is telling me this is a boy and I'm paranoid I won't connect or that I'll be regrettably disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028980 Sun, 18 Jan 2015 00:05:41 +0000 erinpye 2028980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I didn't care either way either time. I am now a happy mom of 2 girls, and couldn't imagine it any other way. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028699 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:14:16 +0000 MrsKMM 2028699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, yes, and it makes me feel bad. :bummed: I reeeally wanted a boy. From the start I had a gut feeling it was a girl, and I was right. When I got the phone call (did the blood test), I cried happy tears, then sad tears, then happy tears again. I've totally gotten used to her being a girl (I'm only 17w) but I may have cried a little in a store when we passed the boy clothes. But don't get me wrong, I'm so happy she's healthy and growing, and now all I can think of is fun girl stuff! :) it just took a little getting used to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028691 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:02:28 +0000 AprilFool 2028691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first I had no preference but I know that there will be some disappointment no matter what sex #2 is. It will be my last baby and while I will be happy with whatever we get I will be sad about what I miss out on. Either I won't get to be a mum to a boy or I won't get to give LO a sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028432 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 11:24:42 +0000 yin 2028432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's uncle predicted my future kids for me, and he told me I would have two boys and a girl. If the first is a boy, then the next would also be a boy and then a girl. Sometimes I think he knows I'm pregnant before I do. </p> <p>I wanted a boy for my first but very much open to having a girl too. My priority was having a healthy baby (ran into some health concerns early on with DS1). With my second I felt like I was going to have a boy and went with that expectation. I secretly wanted to have a girl but felt like the chances were slim. I have two boys. :) I love it! Plus I have three nieces to fulfill my girly needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028291 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 06:53:44 +0000 lilteacherbee 2028291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I laughed at your last part because I'm pregnant with my second and everyone is always going on and on about how they hope it's a girl! If it's another boy, I feel like people are going to be so disappointed. From what I've seen, people with one girl already don't seem to get as much pressure to have a boy as the other way around. Or maybe I'm just sensitive at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028282 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 06:04:17 +0000 jedeve 2028282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe for a minute? But I love having two boys! And I would kind of want a third to be a boy, too! I think part of me would miss out on some special things later in life if I only had boys. But for now I love it. </p> <p>And I kind of want a third boy just to piss off all the family who keeps buying fold clothes or talking about "when you have a girl." Um, yeah sorry. I don't make babies for you to dress up. And I like my kids as is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028277 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 05:45:40 +0000 Espion 2028277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No preference either way. I wouldn't choose their gender any more than I could or would choose their personalities. I'm excited to see if E is getting a little brother or a little sister next week! I can't believe we made it to the finish line as team green!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028276 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 05:33:42 +0000 GrapeCrush 2028276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first, I admit that I briefly was sad that we weren't having a girl, because I so much wanted a daughter. Then I saw how happy DH was that he was having a son, and I just thought to myself 'we're having a BABY!' and was excited for my little guy. With #2, I was hoping and hoping that it was a girl, so much that I waiveree on being TG, since I was afraid if we found out early that it was another boy I'd be really disappointed, but deep down I knew it was a girl, and she was. Then, the weirdest thing happened...after we found out 100% it was a girl, I was a little sad that DS wouldn't have a brother. We are more than likely done at 2, but if we were to have a 3rd, we'd be TG and I wouldn't have a preference </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028271 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 03:43:56 +0000 FannyMae 2028271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first pregnancy I was completely elated to be having a girl, though I wouldn't have been any less if she were a boy. We have had 5 girls in a row born in our immediate family, with our daughter being the youngest.</p> <p>I do feel a heck of a lot of pressure (not really upfront said to me, just on the peripheral) about having a boy next to level the playing field in our family. After my 2nd prengnancy ended in miscarriage I do think about "it could have been a boy" a little bit, and I will get the results in a few weeks. Feels like some kind of reverse whacky gender disappointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2028267 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 02:50:34 +0000 NurseDMB 2028267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: No. I have one son and neither DH or I cared about gender. I will admit I will be hoping for a girl next time around, but that's because we only want two kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2027744 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 15:58:18 +0000 Torchwood 2027744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said I'd report back on how I felt once we knew, so here ya go. :) We're having a girl (! :girl: ! :girl: !), and I'm SO happy. And seeing how happy and relieved I was to find that out, I would say I definitely would have had some major disappointment if it'd had come back boy. I just wanted a girl my whole life, and I was so happy we were having one last time. Not having one now would have made having lost a girl a lot harder. Plus, like I think I said, we have all the girl stuff already, so financially it's easier. And we got these itty bitty sparkly shoes that I was so looking forward to putting on a baby, and I still can! (Without my family worrying I'm gonna make a boy gay or something ridiculous.)</p> <p>I feel guilty even admitting that (though not sure why, since LO will never know and she IS a girl so she won't worry I was disappointed in her). And it seems absurd, since I plan to practice gender neutral parenting, so she could easily wind up not liking pink (my favorite color) or sparkles (I have sparkly everything!) at all. And I would totally have loved a boy just as much. But yeah, I'm really happy she's a girl.</p> <p>And just for the record, DH is happy too, but he honestly doesn't have strong feelings one way or the other. He was all, "I'm happy as long as it's healthy," and I was, "way to make me feel guilty for caring!" Thanks DH. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2024551 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 21:53:07 +0000 hellobeeboston 2024551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. But I admit I was hoping for a boy first (and dh really was) and we had a boy... If we have another I'd be totally fine with either and so would he! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2024034 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:46:59 +0000 chanada 2024034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, for our first we were team green and got a boy. I wasn't too disappointed then. Although I always pictured myself as a mom of at least one girl. </p> <p>Then we found out #2 is a boy and I was pretty upset about it. DH was a bit disappointed too. I felt awful for feeling that way but was like the idea of having a daughter was gone because we will stop after two. I know its generalization for boy and girl, seems like moms and daughters have more in common.</p> <p>Now, I've gotten over it. Having same gender sibling would be great for DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2023970 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:09:54 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2023970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Slight preference for a boy, got a boy. Love my little guy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2023043 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 07:45:50 +0000 ShootingStar 2023043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was upset at first to find out I was having a boy. Part of it was that I got a glance at the email with our test results and thought it said girl. So all day long I thought girl, and then when DH and sat down together to read it, I was kind of in shock. And then I was really upset with myself for being upset.</p> <p>For my next pregnancy I go back and forth on what I want. I would still really like to have a daughter, and have that relationship in my life. I feel like a daughter tends to stay closer to her parents. I talk to my mom all the time on the phone as an adult, but I feel like when my son is an adult we won't have that same relationship. But at the same time, I would love for him to have a brother. I'd love to see the two of them grow up and be close to each other. And I admit, I'd love to dress them in coordinating clothes :silly: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2023041 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 07:42:17 +0000 getjazzy 2023041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green but I just knew it was a boy. I wasn't disappointed at all when he was born, I was happy he was here and healthy and my heart burst immediately. When I was pregnant though, I struggled a bit. Especially since at one of my OB appointments there was an older lady in the waiting room and she asked what I was having. I said I didn't know, and she said "Oh I hope it's a girl. At my age, my daughter is my best friend. My husband is gone and my son has his family but my daughter is my best friend". It stung HARD because I worry that when my son gets married he will become closer to his wife's family and "leave" me so to speak. It happened to DH, and his brother.. but I have to remind myself it's because his parents pushed themselves away from us. Still though, it's something I worry about!</p> <p>I'm pregnant now and will be team green again. This time I'm less worried because I know how AWESOME having a little boy is and if it's another boy, I will be so excited for LO and LO2 to have a super close bond. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2023005 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 05:35:35 +0000 jaguar 2023005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope.<br /> And we won't, ever, have any disappointment.<br /> :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2023001 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 04:33:54 +0000 stargal 2023001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my first, honestly didn't have a preference. For my second, had a slight slight preference for a girl bc we had a boy already (feel terrible saying that) bur we have 2 boys and ut is honestly the best thing ever. I love having two sons more then i can explain, i feek so complete and happy with my boys. I cannot imagine anything different, seeing them together melts my heart snd i hope they will be best buds. Seriously, i always want to tell boy mommas who are disappointedd, that dont worry its seriously the most amazing thibg to have a son. I feek so happy to have my two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2022994 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 04:09:18 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2022994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just started TTC, but to my surprise, both DH and I are secretly hoping for a sister for DD. But really, I'll just be happy with a healthy pregnancy and baby.</p> <p>For DD, I was also secretly hoping for a girl :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2022982 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 01:34:33 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2022982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I was the same way. I actually spent a decent number of weeks during the pregnancy coming to terms with it being a boy. </p> <p>I had a dream super early in the pregnancy that my late MIL told us the baby was a girl, so (as silly as it sounds) I was surprised and disappointed to find out it wasn't. Of course a healthy baby is 100% the bottom line, and I love my little guy more than anything in the world! I've always wanted one of each (always!) and I love having a big brother, but it puts a lot of pressure on #2 being a girl. Obviously we have no control, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment/page/2#post-2022952 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 23:54:03 +0000 Mrs.Panda 2022952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were lucky, wanted a girl and got a girl. Next time I truly don't care, they both have pros to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022853 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 21:36:41 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2022853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. With my first we were TG and I thought it was a boy and I was right. With my 2nd I had a slight preference for a girl but could also imagine having a boy. In fact after we found out she was a girl I was still a little unsure (tech didnt sound sure) so I was still wondering about a boy. Now that I have one of each Im unsure about what I want my last one to be since I love being a mom of both and they both are great in their own ways. Sometimes I imagine what it would be like to have a brother for my son sometimes I imagine another baby sister for the family so its hard to figure out what would best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022828 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 21:17:29 +0000 Anagram 2022828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time around, I kind of wanted a boy (no clue why, just did) and was a little disappointed when we found out it was a girl. I was so glad we found out early because by the time I delivered, I was 100% team Girl!</p> <p>This time, I feel 99% sure it's a girl. I even already refer to them as "the girls" or "my girls" in my head. So if it were a boy, maybe I'd be disappointed again? Buuuuuttt...I'm pretty sure it's a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022824 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 21:13:25 +0000 lilteacherbee 2022824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With #1, I really had absolutely no preference. With this one, since I already have a boy, I'd like a girl, but I also think it would be great for LO to have a brother so close in age (20.5 months apart). So no real preference this time, either. We want three, though, so if #2 is another boy, I can see myself hoping that #3 will be a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022805 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 20:59:05 +0000 luckypenny 2022805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. But, I wanted girls and got girls. If I had a boy I think I definitely would have felt some. We were team green for baby 2 and I was anxious the whole time it was a boy. Nothing wrong with boys, just from a family of all girls, literally, grandma had all girls, mom had all girls, older sister had all girls.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022755 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 19:57:15 +0000 jhd 2022755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No disappointment at all. I honestly didn't have a preference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022749 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 19:50:11 +0000 loveisstrange 2022749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Wanted a girl, got a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-experienced-sexgender-disappointment#post-2022748 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 19:48:42 +0000 littleblessings 2022748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Wanted a girl first and got a girl first. Wanted a boy second and got a boy second. </p>