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Hellobee Boards Topic: Have you ever had a close friend break up with you? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 01:03:18 +0000 Anagram on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294462 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 14:39:56 +0000 Anagram 1294462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. I've drifted away from many, just because I suck at keeping in touch when I move. Well, once I conciously stopped being friends with someone (or rather, just stopped making plans with her) but it was a somewhat casual friendship to begin with so I wouldn't call it a "breakup". We had traveling in common, so we went on a long weekend trip to Toronto and it was a disaster. She put me in a really bad situation with a strange drunk guy (long story), was constantly having some sort of drama over nothing (for example, she literally cried at dinner one night because she was the only one who couldn't use chopsticks. Like, cried. And had a mini trantrum because she had to ask for a fork. I mean, some people in this world don't have shoes. GET OVER IT.). Anyway, after that trip I just slowly stopped responding to her one-on-one invitations and then stopped accepting/issuing invitations even for group events. I just...don't have the patience. chopsuey on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294439 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 14:29:39 +0000 chopsuey 1294439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, but I'm broken up with a few! edelweiss on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294437 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 14:28:55 +0000 edelweiss 1294437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ no. there's been some drifting that i consider natural/normal, but your situation sounds a bit more out of the ordinary even if there wasn't a "i break up with you" conversation. i'm sorry, that sucks. Torchwood on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294417 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 14:20:49 +0000 Torchwood 1294417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've been broken up with, and broken up with a friend. Both were high school friends. The one who left me, it was all super weird. But she had Asperger's, so she never dealt with things quite the way I expected. When I was in my first year of college, my grandmother (who I was VERY close to) died. I was already struggling with depression, so it just crushed me. I failed every class that semester, and lost my scholarships. Without scholarships, I couldn't afford to stay in school. I also didn't think I needed to keep going until I got things straightened out emotionally. She sent me a ranty email about how I was wasting my talents by dropping out and she'd give anything to be as smart as me and basically saying I was such a terrible person that she couldn't be friends with me anymore. I tried to explain that a- I wasn't necessarily dropping out permanently (though ultimately I didn't go back), I just couldn't afford to continue. (What did she want me to do? School costs money!) and b- I had a lot more talents than ones related to college. I can draw very well, am I a bad person for not becoming a professional artist? I'm great with kids, and ultimately am a nanny and will be a SAHM. Would failing to utilize my skills with kids have made me terrible? Just because I have gifts that others would like doesn't obligate me to use them the way they would like to. It was SO strange, and still makes me a little sad. The other friend, I feel bad about because I handled it poorly. We were very close in early high school, but she wasn't able to stay in the same school (magnet school, and she wasn't making the grades she needed). We drifted some, but tried to stay in touch. But she was always the single most negative person I know. She backed out of being in our mutual friend's wedding at the last minute (after being super excited to be in it). She was overall super selfish, refused to take proper care of herself with her mental/physical issues, then whined and complained about the results (like she was lactose intolerant, ate dairy ALL THE TIME, then constantly complained about how sick she felt), etc. I tried to just be FB friends, but it got to the point that I couldn't do it. To me, the point of being FB friends is to keep up with each others lives. She only posted cryptic things about doing stuff with local friends, that made me (and anyone else not involved) feel like outsiders, and her only comments on anything I posted were negative. So I took the chicken route and just unfriended her. She didn't even seem to notice, since there was no response. Then maybe a year later she sent me a friend request. Again, chickened out, and just ignored it. Months later she messaged me asking what was up, and I feel very bad to say I ignored that as well. If she should ever make any attempt again, I plan to answer and explain that at that time she was becoming a drain (more politely than that!), but I'd be willing to try again. Hoping she'll just drop it though, even though I know that's not the right thing to do. .twist. on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294329 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 13:27:48 +0000 .twist. 1294329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @TemperanceBrennan: I haven't with a friend, but I have with family. The relationship is just not the same and probably never will be. I imagine it would be similar with a friend. :/ TemperanceBrennan on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294326 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 13:26:35 +0000 TemperanceBrennan 1294326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This thread is comforting know that others have been through it too. I had a really bad friendship breakup that was harder than any romantic relationship break-up I've had. I've realize that she's not a good person and I'm so much happier without her in my life, but I still miss her. Has anyone ever broke-up with a friend, but gotten back together? holdonforonemoreday on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294269 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 13:04:09 +0000 holdonforonemoreday 1294269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, I've been on both sides of it. The breakup was after three years of friendship. She just freaked out one day, stopped talking to me. I was having a really hard year and she treated me like dirt. Then a friend of mine invited me to her church and the crazy friend lost her mind cos she went there too. She sent me a nasty email saying that I needed to get the hint and that I was nuts, blah blah. It was not nice. I wrote back and said that she was nuts herself and selfish and if she went around telling people I was the crazy one I'd tell everyone her secrets and that we were done. She is psycho. I'm glad that she's out of my life! I did the slow fade on a couple of others who didn't get the hint. MrsSCB on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294194 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 12:31:18 +0000 MrsSCB 1294194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It wasn't really a specific breakup, more of a drifting kind of thing. I had the same best friend through elementary and middle school, but we went to different high schools. Around sophomore year, she got this boyfriend and basically stopped hanging out with me and with her other friends. We were never the same after, even though they broke up after a year or so. I still see her a couple of times a year because our moms and sisters are BFFs, but we're not close. It's actually one of my big regrets, letting such a close friendship go without working harder to keep it. .twist. on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294178 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 12:22:04 +0000 .twist. 1294178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Alivoo01: ugh. So weird! :sad: Alivoo01 on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294161 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 12:18:24 +0000 Alivoo01 1294161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @.twist.: Nope, and I don't really care to now since she didn't value our friendship since she thought it'd be totally okay to do such a thing. And she never tried to reach back out to me and reconcile. Shutterbug on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294058 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 11:51:11 +0000 Shutterbug 1294058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ yep, one of my HS BFFs and the person who introduced me to DH. She was mad at me that I was coming to her college (where both she and DH went) and staying with HIM, not HER, although I'm sure there was more to it than that. It ended with a huge screaming fight (one-sided - I didn't scream back) in the middle of a big frat party. I cried my eyes out all weekend, and DH (then BF) tried to break up with me because he didn't want to get in the way of our friendship (of course I wouldn't let him). I was sad about it for years, and I even had dreams that we made up. I loved her family and I missed her a lot. Eventually she friended me on FB (this blow-out happened before FB existed) and we even met up for lunch once. At that point we were too different though, and I could see that she was still the same selfish person underneath, so I got a bit of closure from that. I still "like" her pictures sometimes though, and I'm FB friends with her mom, too. I think for me the saddest part is that she's 100% the reason I'm with my husband, and she's not even in my life anymore. Greentea on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you/page/2#post-1294024 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 11:38:57 +0000 Greentea 1294024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yeah. I have done it and had it done. .twist. on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1294005 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 11:33:39 +0000 .twist. 1294005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Alivoo01: did you ever figure out why? That seems so bizarre?! MrsKoala on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293957 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 11:16:30 +0000 MrsKoala 1293957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think so. I've grown apart from people due to distance but I never felt like someone just gave up on me. Alivoo01 on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293956 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 11:16:16 +0000 Alivoo01 1293956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup! We were really close to this couple for YEARS. She asked me to be her bridesmaid for her wedding, and I was so excited. A few weeks later, she asked me and my husband to step down. I was like wtf?! why?! She said "budget reasons". Bull donkey shittake! Then she said she asked me to step down over her other bridesmaids bc I was the last person she asked. Another bull donkey shittake. I know for darn sure I wasn't because when she asked me to be her bridesmaids, I asked who all else was going to be and she listed them out then said she's looking for one more to be partnered up with her brother. I cried my eyes out bc I thought I did something wrong and we were so close so it didn't make sense at all. After I cried it out, I said eff her, and we just never really talked again. .twist. on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293900 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 10:59:56 +0000 .twist. 1293900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrsjazz: loll! Is photoshopping them out of wedding photos possible? I need in on that. Yes, my oldest friend of 26 years broke up with me because I am selfish, and unsupportive. She did it all through text message, said she didnt want to lose me as a friend and when I told her I didn't want to continue the conversation over text, but in person, she deleted me off Facebook. This was all because I got her a job and she quit after the first day. Asked me if I would be mad and I said no, but annoyed, I'll get over it. Apparently I was supposed to know to just comfort her...... JoJoGirl on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293883 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 10:49:57 +0000 JoJoGirl 1293883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I broke up with my BFF of 20 years. She was totally toxic and I couldn't deal anymore. It was pretty awful :( ETA After reading all the responses in this thread - YES I did it in person. tinyperson on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293863 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 10:45:51 +0000 tinyperson 1293863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup, a close friend of mine went away to teachers college overseas as a career change (she's 10 years older than me), came home at Christmas and we hung out, planned a road trip for the summer she was coming home, and then stopped communicating. I had to find out she was even back in the city from friends of my grandparents. It was embarrassing because everyone at church kept asking when she was coming home (we went to the same one), and I didn't have an answer which everyone thought was odd. Everyone said it was a bizarre and hurtful situation. She eventually wrote and said her circumstances had changed and there were details of her life she didn't want people to know, so she didn't want to tell me anything so I wouldn't have to lie to people. I was really hurt by the situation (I was young and looked up to her and felt blindsided). Now, I realize that the situation forced me to make other friends, including my now DH! I'm over it, but still worry about running into her someday because her mom lives near me and her husbands family lives minutes away from where my parents are now. I don't know what I'd say. nana87 on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293758 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 10:22:30 +0000 nana87 1293758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ yes, junior year of college, and I still think of it as one of the most painful things I've ever gone through. We were best friends in middle and high school, and definitely drifted apart during college but I kept trying to hang on--probably for too long, I think she was checked out of the friendship long before. I think a lot of it had to do with her relationship--she had been (and is still in, according to fb) a relationship with this girl who never tried to make an effort with her friends (especially, but not only, me), and who'd cheated on her, so at one point about a year before she ended our friendship, I had told her (while they were broken up) that I thought she was better off without the gf...But regardless, it was the way she ended the friendship that was so painful: the last in-person conversation I had with her was right before I went to study abroad. She came over to my house, gave me a huge hug and we were talking about how excited we were that we were both going to be in our hometown that summer (we both went to college away from home). Then, I come home from being abroad (I didn't have email access while I was gone...) and she just completely disappeared. My grandmother was dying, I had broken up with a boyfriend, and so I really, really, REALLY needed my friend, and she was just gone. Didn't return my calls, emails, anything. And then it was worse because I was stuck at home all summer and didn't know why she was mad, or if she was badmouthing me to our mutual friends (who were closer to her anyway, so I felt like I couldn't reach out to them...), so I just felt really isolated. LuLu Mom on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293636 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 09:36:59 +0000 LuLu Mom 1293636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ One of my best friends broke up with me after we had a fight Backstory: she hated my boyfriend at the time, I thought she needed to be supportive of my relationship, she said she couldn't be supportive of a friend who was making such a bad decision/choice & we broke up as friends. I ended up breaking up with the boyfriend (yes she was right) & I was too stubborn to tell her so. Well after about 2 years she posted something on FB about missing her mom & how hard it was to go through her first pregnancy without her (mom died of breast cancner) & I sent her a private message of support. I couldn't stop, she needed a friend & I knew I could be that support she needed. It took a year or so to mend our relationship, but now we are closer than ever! So I guess its a happy breakup story because we both realized we weren't meant to be apart :) pui on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293629 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 09:34:51 +0000 pui 1293629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've had friends I have drifted apart from, but I wouldn't say I've ever had a friend "break up". autumnlove on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293627 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 09:34:02 +0000 autumnlove 1293627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH broke up with me a long time ago. Silva on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293626 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 09:33:44 +0000 Silva 1293626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I broke up with a friend once. I was pretty direct about it. I feel like friendships deserve the same care and attention (at different levels, obviously) as our romantic relationships/ marriage. She screwed me over so many times, never initiated anything, and basically made me feel like crap. There was a final straw incident, and so I sat her down and said "I can't do this anymore. You aren't a good friend to me, and I don't really need this kind of a hurtful relationship in my life." I recently reached out to her, because we had been friends for a very long time and I wanted to see how she was. She responded initially, but then dropped the ball again. Clearly she hasn't changed (or hates me, either option is possible). mrs. wagon on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293615 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 09:29:58 +0000 mrs. wagon 1293615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but I have had to break up with a few toxic friends! lilteacherbee on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293250 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 00:28:47 +0000 lilteacherbee 1293250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep, we were very close friends and she's family too because she's married to DH's cousin. Things had been weird between us for awhile, but then I noticed she deleted me off FB. I mentioned it to my MIL. MIL said she talked to her (my friend) at a family function in September and she told MIL that she was upset with me. She was mad that I "didn't pay attention" to her 12 month old daughter at our town's 4th of July festival. I remember seeing her in a group of people, including several other members of DH's family. We spoke to them for a few minutes and then we moved on and kept walking. I said hello to my friend (who was holding her daughter), but she was engaged in a conversation with a couple of other people. I honestly didn't think twice about any of that until MIL said that was why she was mad at me. It's hard for me to wrap my head around why she'd be so pissed at me over that. She's the type of person who loves for her/her kids to be the center of attention. The others that night were talking to me about the baby (I was 6 months pregnant), so maybe she didn't like that the spotlight wasn't on her for a whole 5 minutes? It bothered me for awhile, but I really don't have the time or energy for that amount of crazy anymore (it's not the first time she made a big deal out of something that I didn't even realized had happened). It is kinda awkward because she's family and I'll always have to see her. sunny on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293249 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 00:28:09 +0000 sunny 1293249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A few! There was one who had a crush on me in highschool and when I didn't reciprocate, he didn't want to be friends. Understandable I guess. Luckily, he got over it a few years later and we are still friends 15 years later. There are a few girlfriends I was close with in highschool and maintained friendships with in university but eventually they stopped returning my calls when I would try to meetup when I was in town. I guess they weren't interested in being friends anymore. 78h2o on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293247 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 00:26:30 +0000 78h2o 1293247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, but you could say I broke up with a friend once. I'd confided in her that I was falling for a close male friend (whom I'd know for years, but whom she'd never met)... I finally hinted to my male friend that I had feelings for him and he responded by being very flirtatious back. I was giddy with excitement and talked to my female friend about it a lot - analyzing every single thing he said and did. She was excited for me when he invited me to his NYE party. She didn't have plans, so I invited her and she met him for the first time. That night the guy kissed me (!!!), but later in the night, she kissed him! I was upset, but she was very sorry and I chalked it up to alcohol. I told her I didn't want a guy to come between us, so I would not pursue him if it would affect our friendship (despite the fact that I'd had a crush on the guy for about 3 years and she'd met him once). She also stated that our friendship was more important and she would not pursue him either (hos before bros - yo!). Things went back to normal for about a week and then she came into work one day (we shared an office) and said she was sorry, she knew how much I cared about the guy, but she felt he was something special and "amazing guys like that don't come along often", so she felt she had to pursue him. I was royally pissed and basically broke up with her on the spot. (I might have overreacted, but she had done some other things that had rubbed me the wrong way). It wasn't so much about the guy as the fact that I felt she was selfish and didn't care about my feelings. I basically just said, "Life's too short for this... I have plenty of great friends who would never do something like this. I don't need a "friend" like you. I'm done." She was royally pissed at me and never tried to make up. She tried pursuing something with the guy but didn't get anywhere and I sorta drifted apart from him (though I still talk to him via FB from time to time). It still upsets me. I've never had a fight with any other friend and I do miss the good times we shared. MrsScallop on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293206 Fri, 20 Dec 2013 00:03:41 +0000 MrsScallop 1293206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: Definitely true! My high school self would just die of happiness thinking he had a crush on me. Ha! I remembered another one. My close friend from college travelled half way across the country to go to my wedding, but due to flight delays she missed the ceremony. She ended up leaving the reception early and hasn't spoken to me since, even though I have tried to contact her. Another case of I am not sure what happened there :( I sound like a horrible friend! Mrs. Pickle on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293195 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 23:58:40 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1293195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Hmm, I don't think so. I've drifted apart from a couple friends, but it was mutual. Kimberlybee on "Have you ever had a close friend break up with you?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-had-a-close-friend-break-up-with-you#post-1293194 Thu, 19 Dec 2013 23:58:22 +0000 Kimberlybee 1293194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes one of my BFF from middle school (ages 12-14) and I drifted apart in H.S. We were still cordial but just started hanging out with different crowds and trying to find our identities?? Her parents were the nicest too! Loved them. I wish I took the time to nurture that friendship but too many years have passed now. We are still cordial when we see each other and are Facebook friends.