https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 02:42:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-241052 Mon, 30 Jul 2012 15:31:00 +0000 mamimami 241052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We stayed for a couple of days during construction. I think we could make it work if needed but during those couple of days I just didn't know what to do with myself. I sort of hid out in the bedroom the whole because I didn't feel at home at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-241027 Mon, 30 Jul 2012 14:58:54 +0000 Meridian 241027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The idea of this TERRIFIES me... mainly because DH has actually brought it on multiple occasions to save money (most recently he brought it up like 2 or 3 weeks ago!). My response is always, OH, HELL NO!!! If we ever got to a point where we really needed to save money, I'd much rather rent a cheap apartment than move in with them.</p> <p>When we first got married, they suggest we move into their place. They said we could take their master BR and they would move into the den. While that's generous, I would never, ever feel comfortable there and would feel so awkward sharing the same living space as them. There is a big language barrier between us, and it's just not comfortable, even after 7 years of being around them.</p> <p>I know there is a possibility of them moving in with us one day when they are older, but I would absolutely insist on an "In-Law Suite", where they have their own unit with their own entrance, living room, kitchen, bathroom, etc. I would not want to cross paths with them daily...</p> <p>Dang, I'm a terrible daughter-in-law :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240406 Mon, 30 Jul 2012 05:57:45 +0000 mediagirl 240406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was just my MIL and we were doing it to save money to buy a place, yes, I could do it. I would worrry about my family visiting, though. Would they have a place to stay? Would they be welcome or feel uncomfortable there? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240364 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 23:33:17 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 240364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My relationship with my inlaws is rocky enough without trying to live with them. We did live with my parents for about 5 months during a lease transition. Honestly speaking it really depends on how opinionated your MIL is and how willing she'd be to butt out of your life even though you're living in her house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240358 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 22:53:51 +0000 mrstilly 240358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My situation is a different from most. We stay with my in-laws almost every weekend. They have a family farm and DH works there on weekends. They have a medium sized ranch, and we stay in DH's old room. Since BIL/SIL moved out, DS is sleeping in the extra room. It's gotten a lot harder since we had DS. They are great people and they love us and are very supportive, but they are also overbearing, opinionated, and always around. I feel pretty judged by them with how I parent DS, and recently I had a big fight with my FIL. We resolved things, mostly, and are still going there on weekends. </p> <p>But, even with all of that, to save that much money while looking for a house, I think I would suck it up and live with them for a few months, as long as there was a time limit. I'd be VERY clear with DH about boundaries and such, and put a good amount of responsibility on him to run interference if there were issues. And if something happened with the house hunting process, I'd be looking for another place to rent. I wouldn't want our stay to be indefinite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240318 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 21:32:09 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 240318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't. But if it were a temporary situation we would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240267 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 20:29:28 +0000 travelgirl1 240267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We lived with my inlaws for about three months before moving to Canada.... it was a means to an end but I'm lucky in that they're very lovely people. I did learn though that even the lovliest people can be difficult to live with... sometimes just because they're so lovely and occassionaly, I just want to swear or gossip :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240257 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 20:25:26 +0000 mrs. bird 240257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You should also take in to consideration moving costs for an additional move. I assume you'd have to put your furniture into storage. Say you each have to take a day off from work, plus ~$500 for movers, plus ~$200/month for storage, so it could easily cost a months rent just to cover the cost of moving in with her. Then you're taking another day &amp; paying movers again once you find a house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240244 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 20:17:54 +0000 autumnlove 240244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCastro: We just haven't found a house we love...or even like! :-( He wants to live with MIL for 6 months max...decisions, decisions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240227 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 19:47:39 +0000 MrsCastro 240227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never have. But bring in your situation I might. But I would maybe have an agreement with DH about a time limit. Say 6 months you don't have your house then it's time to find a place to rent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240215 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 19:37:18 +0000 heffalump 240215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my inlaws. But I'm not sure our relationship would survive if I moved in with them. If I want to continue to love them, I will stay living in separate houses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240193 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 19:07:35 +0000 chopsuey 240193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't! I totally would though. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240186 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:58:18 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 240186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BIL lives with us right now. He's been here since March and is moving out next month. It hasn't been bad having him here, but I'm ready for our house back. It would be hard to live with my MIL even though I love her tons. I think it would be hard to feel like an adult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240185 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:56:47 +0000 mrs. bird 240185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never. I don't think our marriage would survive it. Even if you paid me, I still wouldn't live with my ILs. But it works for some people, so I guess you just have to do whatever feels right for you. I think it would be easier if you had a set ending date, so there was a light at the end of the tunnel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240171 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:40:18 +0000 sorrycharlie 240171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we rent the other half of the ILs duplex. they live in the other side. does that count? LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240163 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:32:16 +0000 autumnlove 240163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: Yup! Her son doesn't need to change any diapers! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240159 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:29:09 +0000 photojane 240159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we lived with my parents for about a year. it wasn't ideal (even more so for my husband), but we made it work, and saved a ton of money. my brother and his family are taking their turn now! he is in a similar situation as you. he can't get into his home loan until october, and his lease ran out. he is married with three kids (luckily my parents have a big house), and they'll be living there 'til october. it's not the perfect situation for anyone, but it's totally doable short-term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240158 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:28:16 +0000 SugarplumsMom 240158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh girl, don't do it! Isn't she the "old fashioned" one you've mentioned before? </p> <p>As for me, I wouldn't do it. The potential drama it would bring would not be worth the savings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240148 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:19:38 +0000 MamaMoose 240148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But it's more because of their specific situation than just on principal. Both of my in laws smoke which grosses me out. And their house only has one full bathroom so I never feel comfortable when we stay there. When I have to pee in the middle of the night I'm always afraid someone else is going to be in there. And I always feel like I have I rush when I shower. Plus once LO is here I could see my MIL giving lots of "suggestions". I could totally move in with my parents though (for a short time). They have finished basement with a full bath, living room, and a huge bedroom so it would be very comfortable for us. And they are a lot more understanding about letting us do our own thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-lived-with-your-mil#post-240144 Sun, 29 Jul 2012 18:01:21 +0000 autumnlove 240144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our lease is up next month. If we don't sign a new one year lease our rent will go up $300 to $1900 a month. We are currently looking for a house but things are moving slowly and there is a lot of competition in the summer. </p> <p>DH wants us to move in with my MIL(she lives by herself in a large house about 5 mins away) when our lease ends. She is ok with it and obviously we can save a lot of money while we look for a house. I am trying to be open minded but MIL can drive me crazy....DH says living with her will give us tons of motivation to move out and I should just suck it up for a few months. </p> <p>What do you think? Could you move in with your in laws? Or do you live with your in laws? </p>