https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 02:42:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1761130 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 21:22:49 +0000 Bao 1761130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she refuses the meals we give her we will try for something she does like, if she doesn't eat that then she will have to wait until morning. I really do try my best to get her to eat something though, I never want her to go to bed hungry. I would put her to bed without singing or story etc if it was necessary though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1761090 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 21:06:01 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1761090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he isn't eating (just throwing food and screaming) then we will do bedtime early and just give him a milk sippy instead. I beleive he gets the same amount of calories, but he's not allowed to play with his food. Bedtime comes and he gets milk.<br /> We actually do reading time before his nap, not bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1760578 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 15:37:06 +0000 regberadaisy 1760578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: 26m. I think at that age the threat of losing her dinner still worked for us. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1760393 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 14:25:33 +0000 LuLu Mom 1760393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: at 21 months, we are starting to enter the "that's yucky" "that's hot" "that's spicy" "don't like that" ect. stage. I could give her a slice of cheese and she would use all of the above excuses, really gets frustrating at dinner time now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1760228 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 13:15:57 +0000 jmarionsmith 1760228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: how old is your LO again? we've been having the same issue with LO, who is 22 months, not sitting during dinner. i don't know if i'm expecting too much of him or if i'm not being stern enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1747339 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 09:52:08 +0000 littlek 1747339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>B loves to eat, so we haven't had issues at meal times. We have issues with him being not wanting to listen. I've started counting to 3 or threatening time outs. He hates time outs so we have not had to cut out story time yet. But I would if he was being naughty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1747337 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 09:51:18 +0000 regberadaisy 1747337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: yes, absolutely. No matter what we always kiss her good night and tell her we love her. I think it's important too that they know just because they've been bad doesn't mean we don't love them! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1747330 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 09:48:24 +0000 sandy 1747330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: @locavore_mama: completely agree that it's so important to talk about what happened later on once they are calm. Kids understand so much and I totally know my LO gets it...even from a young age. I definitely notice that she is exceptionally well behaved the few days following a "punishment". And we limit bedtime stories to 3 books as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1747087 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 08:22:23 +0000 mrsjyw 1747087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, but he's only 19 months and rarely ever refuses food. In the future also though, I don't think we'll use food in discipline. Story time - yes, dinner - no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1747077 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 08:20:55 +0000 lamariniere 1747077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He has once or twice. But we don't send him to bed without giving him a hug/kiss, so he knows he's in trouble, but still loved, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746929 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 06:35:07 +0000 blackbird 1746929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, E is only 15 months and we try to read before bed. If she's being crazy pants, we just drop her in the crib without her books or play time. Sometimes dinner has been nonexistent. It's always because she's over tired. Especially since she's between one and two naps. No biggie, in my opinion! I would have no qualms taking them away (they are a privilege!) for bad behavior </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746923 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 06:26:13 +0000 regberadaisy 1746923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: thank you! I feel confident that we did the right thing as well. It's not like I starved my child. ;) We talked about it the next morning and she was amazingly well behaved the next morning. And didn't scarf her breakfast down like she does some mornings. ;)</p> <p>And yes to the story drag out at bed time!!! Now I'm firmly 3 stories and I let her take a board book to bed. Some nights she still whines when I leave but it's usually short lived. With #2 coming soon and me solo parenting many nights we just can't keep up with crazy long bed times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746916 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 06:09:16 +0000 looch 1746916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I also think you did the right thing, but I would just add in that in order for anything to be really effective for my son, we have to talk about it later. After he's calmed down, I always sit with him and we talk about what happened and what the correct behaviour is. It's sinking in.</p> <p>I will also write that my son is a master manipulator, he began to use stories to draw out his bedtime, so as much as it pained me to take that away before bed, we had to, because he was in hysterics over not doing more and more books. We've since brought books back into the routine, but we moved the location, to the living room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746782 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 22:46:39 +0000 skibobrown 1746782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've threatened loss of story time when DD is misbehaving. That threat has always made her shape up in a hurry, but I am aware that I may have to follow through on the threat some day.</p> <p>As for dinner, I have never threatened to take dinner away from my daughter. She does get her chair pulled away from the table if she tries to throw food. She has also sometimes mostly missed dinner on occasions when she is throwing a temper tantrum and gets too worked up to eat her dinner. That happened once this past week. I tried everything to get her to eat, but in the end we just had to start moving on to bedtime routine. She was exhausted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746756 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 22:19:41 +0000 winniebee 1746756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He has gone to bed without books before! Usually happens when he kicks me during Jammie's. I ask him to stop and if not he gets no stories. If he persists he gets no stories. Has happened a few times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746472 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 19:42:05 +0000 regberadaisy 1746472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sandy: exactly!!! We just spent four days with my family and my nephew who's the same age is SO extremely spoiled!! He's a great kid but god damn he does not listen. Because there are NO consequences. At the drop of a hat he will drop to the floor and start the waterworks. then he immediately gets what he wants because grandma gives in. We do NOT want M picking up that behavior. That is unacceptable to us.</p> <p>If we tell her to stop she needs to STOP. It starts at home and ends in a dangerous her not listening to us when she's running down the driveway into the street. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1746280 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 18:13:28 +0000 sandy 1746280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I think you did the right thing. And I have to say that I think a lot of parents are afraid to enforce the rules bc it is sad to see them so disappointed that they are going to bed without a story and without songs. LO gets a warning or two and if she will absolutely not listen she gets sent to bed after bath without stories which is so traumatic for her but we kiss and hug and talk to her about why she didn't get story time and she totally gets it. She still cries a little and is sad. But we have done this maybe 3-4 times and she got it so quick and listens so well. Kids need to know that there are consequences to not following the rules or listening to mom/dad. I know parents who have a tough time getting their kids to listen - well their kids have no meaningful consequences </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745814 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 14:46:43 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1745814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to remove food from reward/punishment so I've never put her to bed without food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745809 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 14:44:25 +0000 regberadaisy 1745809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't not give her dinner. It's just that she kept getting up during dinner to play or touch things with her her filthy hands. After asking her 6x and warning every single time enough was enough. We gave her more leeway than we usually do because we were just getting home from a long drive from my family's. </p> <p>She ate about half her dinner before we took it away. If she was starving she should've sat down and ate her dinner! </p> <p>She was just NOT listening all night long. And we don't tolerate that. It's important that if we tell her to stop that she stops that very instant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745601 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:18:51 +0000 JennyD 1745601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep.</p> <p>If I feel like she's saying she's "full" at dinner because she'd rather have a snack, I'll let her go to bed hungry.</p> <p>Also, yes to toddler hell at bedtime last night. Daddy's out of town and I'm not willing to "snuggle" with her for half an hour after pjs and story time. She lost her little mind and I closed her door and let her scream. I think she's old enough to understand. I think she throws fits when DH is out of town because she needs to test the limits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745584 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:11:48 +0000 HLK208 1745584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes to story time...which I feel guilty about since reading is important but it's also E's favorite part of bedtime and gives me some leverage. </p> <p>If they aren't eating dinner, then yes, I'll send them to bed without dinner. I'm not going to offer 6 different options. Although, I've never said, "no dinner" because they were acting up though. A few weeks ago, B said he wanted a whole sandwich at lunch so that's what I gave him, but cut in half. He threw a huge tantrum because he actually wanted to eat it whole. I told him that he could just be hungry if he didn't want to eat the sandwich. After a time out, he came around though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745582 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:11:17 +0000 travelgirl1 1745582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, like @Mrs. Jump Rope: my DD is in a lower percentile for weight so my heart just won't let me. I would cut out stories if I felt her behaviour really warranted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745579 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:09:36 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1745579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I just can't! She's so little (percentile wise) and I let her eat no matter what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745576 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:08:55 +0000 Dandelion 1745576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yep. D has had several bedtimes like this in his life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745572 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:07:07 +0000 Weagle 1745572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. We offer food at dinner, at this point she knows that she needs to eat if she's hungry. If she doesn't eat for whatever reason, I'm not going to force it. Story time and singing aren't very good bargaining points for us because we do that throughout the day anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745570 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:05:51 +0000 aegie 1745570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are nights when my LO refuses to eat dinner. After 2 bites she says she's all done. After a few, "are you sure? no more dinner later" warnings, I stop offering. She gets some milk before bed as part of her routine so that's the end of it. And I'm okay with it. One night won't kill them. I don't know if that's really punishment since she's the one willingly not eating, but I'm also not going to chase her around the house to eat either. We haven't gotten to the stage yet where threats don't work anymore. If I threaten to leave the room, she immediately stops what she's doing. She may whine that I'm threatening to leave but she stops. I know the day is coming when she will definitely try to out-will me... i just hope it's not anytime soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745557 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:01:16 +0000 mrsjazz 1745557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not without dinner, but we do give up story time and singing if she's not listening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745556 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:00:29 +0000 rachiecakes 1745556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: was it toddler hell night last night?! J was a little monster! he was hitting me (he never hits!), throwing his toys, yelling, ugh<br /> I put him to bed immediately, no story, no singing, just bed. And he slept longer than ever.<br /> I think he was just incredibly overtired. And I just got a text that he's napping today, also rare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745537 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 12:52:09 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1745537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. We have walked out of the room if she's not cooperating for story time. </p> <p>She has been sleeping a ton this week too to catch up from the weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-ever-sent-your-toddler-to-bed-without#post-1745533 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 12:50:19 +0000 looch 1745533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To answer your question, yes I have. There comes a point when there is just too much blantant ignoring of rules and requests on my son's part and he loses things like reading before bed.</p> <p>I have sent him to bed without dinner, but when he asks for a snack, I can't refuse him. We have a lot of eating issues going on and if he asks for more food, I give it to him. </p>