Hellobee Boards Topic: Have you gone to counseling or therapy?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Have you gone to counseling or therapy? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 16 Jun 2026 17:53:58 +0000 cascademom on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy/page/2#post-786140 Thu, 16 May 2013 11:49:46 +0000 cascademom 786140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've done both personal and marriage counseling. I was the kid that was bullied in school, so we did a fair amount of counseling when I was younger. My DH and I have been in marriage counseling for the last six months leading up to a visit to the MIL. We have some communication issues we're working on as well. .twist. on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy/page/2#post-785840 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:43:49 +0000 .twist. 785840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I saw one in middle school because I was a drama queen and liked to talk about myself. I've never needed one as an adult. I'm pretty good at evaluating my own life and circumstances and applying appropriate solutions to them. MrsTiz on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy/page/2#post-785760 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:29:49 +0000 MrsTiz 785760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: She had a confidentiality agreement that I remember signing but she would always say at the end of the session "Let's go ahead and call your mom in now" and then she'd vaguely mention stuff to my mom and then ask me to explain it to her. I didn't realize at the time that I could have just said "no." So I always felt like she tricked me into telling my mom because I thought I had to. It's okay, I found another woman I loved and if I ever need to go again i'll try and contact her. She is exactly what a therapist should be :) Mrs. Pen on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-785716 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:19:54 +0000 Mrs. Pen 785716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @MrsTiz: wow... was she even a licensed therapist?! BY LAW (and I know this now from working in a clinic!) a patient's medical records are always confidential even as a minor. Parents are allowed to view complete records until a child is 12, then it is severely limited. For things such as a teen seeing an OBGYN or psychologist/therapist those are created under what we call "confidential accounts" meaning NO ONE other than the patient is allowed access to that account. It's part of what makes my job challenging, there are a lot of rules. Anyway - if a teen was seeing a psychologist, unless the child signed a form giving medical professionals permission to relay info to parents, it is against the law to disclose any medical information including that they even had an appointment. I'm sorry your experience was so negative :( it shouldn't be like that. Boheme on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-785635 Thu, 16 May 2013 10:01:05 +0000 Boheme 785635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have gone since college as a tune-up here and there. Since I work in social work, I think its a really important part of my self-care. DH and I are almost through with a 6 session set of marital counseling appointments and I'm not ashamed to say it. We see it as an investment in our commitment. littlebug on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-785629 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:57:47 +0000 littlebug 785629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup. I saw a therapist after I was raped, 11 years ago. I went to one immediately after, and she asked me what I was wearing, so....yeah, didn't go back to her! A few months later I started having panic attacks, so I went to another counselor at the university counseling center. She was amazing and it helped me so much! MrsTiz on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-785608 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:53:48 +0000 MrsTiz 785608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I saw a therapist when I was in 8th grade because I started doing some ..extra curricular.. activities my mom didn't approve of and she thought I was going crazy or something. I hated that woman, she would call my mom in at the end of every session and tell her, in detail, what I had just told her. I didn't trust her at all. I went to another one in HS and I adored her, she was so kind and relaxed. I went to her for a year or so until I worked through some eating and depression issues. I think it is amazing to be able to find a good therapist and get unbiased advice. I recommend it to anyone! DH doesn't believe in therapy which is unfortunate. mlm2934 on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-785489 Thu, 16 May 2013 09:27:49 +0000 mlm2934 785489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Whoops I'm a little late on the requests for multiple votes! @Mrs. Pen: love that idea! DH and I are in a good place right now, so it sounds awesome the idea of going as maintenance. I'd have a harder to being convinced to go during a rough patch for first time. @Penny Lane: I'm in the same boat - I would have a really hard time being convinced to go even tho I have lots of good topics (mom dying young, dad issues, miscarriage, anxiety) I love seeing all this perspective on therapy. Despite the recent miscarriage, I'm in a pretty good place right now with life, and I almost feels like a good time to go sometime because of that. Alivoo01 on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-785049 Thu, 16 May 2013 07:48:49 +0000 Alivoo01 785049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. Never been, but when my parents were going through a rough patch in their marriage and they included me into their mess when I was in middle/HS, I felt like I could have used some therapy/counseling. TheSwissWifeStyle on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784758 Thu, 16 May 2013 02:51:18 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 784758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yeah...I had to talk to someone when I was in high school for eating issues. Then recently talked to the psychologist at the fertility place, and had weekly phone appointments with her. I stopped though bc I just didn't feel like she was really helping. She's was very soft spoken and I kinda feel like she just thought I was fine and a bit of an over reactor. I dunno... Running Elley on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784656 Wed, 15 May 2013 23:25:35 +0000 Running Elley 784656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I saw a therapist in high school and it made such a huge difference. I've considered going back for my anxiety but I haven't yet. Mrs. Fox on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784649 Wed, 15 May 2013 23:21:22 +0000 Mrs. Fox 784649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I consider myself a very healthy person but I've seen a therapist for about six years and its great. Therapy doesn't have to be about a crisis- to me therapy is about expanding your toolbox of coping mechanisms. I believe very strongly that I have a healthy relationship with my family and a happy marriage because I've learned how to listen and how to advocate for myself in a respectful way. Lindsay05 on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784572 Wed, 15 May 2013 22:10:46 +0000 Lindsay05 784572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only for marriage counselling. I would like to go for a personal session though. However I am kind of scared that, like PP said, I would not be able to get my 'point' across and that I would be all over the map so to speak. Grace on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784561 Wed, 15 May 2013 22:05:08 +0000 Grace 784561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I never have, but I would go in a minute if I was suffering from anxiety etc. I've seen how things like that can spiral out of control without help. Same with marriage counselling. Mrs. Pen on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784505 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:23:42 +0000 Mrs. Pen 784505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Sketchbook: My mom actually found her through the suggestion of a friend. She actually had a partnership with a church near our area. Because of my faith it was important to my mom and myself to see a counselor with like-minded beliefs. I'm not sure if that matters to you or not? If so, I would probably first suggest contacting some local churches you identify with. Many have their own counseling programs or at least affiliations or therapists they recommend. My second suggestion would be to talk to your doctor for a referral. Good luck! Let me know how it goes if/when you find someone! Penny Lane on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784501 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:21:28 +0000 Penny Lane 784501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never. I'm always surprised when I hear there are people who go regularly. I can't see myself ever going willingly! Despite the fact that I know I have mountains of issues, and I've suffered from (self diagnosed) depression since I was a teen, something would have to get really bad and someone would probably have to make me go. The exception I think would be couples counselling. If DH and i were going through a rough patch is the only time I can see myself being proactive about any sort of counselling babycanuck on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784495 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:18:17 +0000 babycanuck 784495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We did family counselling when I was little - my parents were struggling with my sister and her rebellion so we tackled it as a family. Mrs. Sketchbook on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784492 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:16:35 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 784492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to go when I was a kid; I had some mildly self-destructive behaviors as a result of anxiety over my parents' divorce. I REALLY want to start going again. I think both DH and I could use it. We were in a rough patch a few weeks ago and seem to be coming out of it, but mostly it doesn't have to do with our relationship, but instead factors that we're working on-- career, work/life balance, etc. I think marital counseling or career counseling would be awesome for both of us. @Mrs. Pen: Have any suggestions for finding a good one? Sounds like yours worked wonders! Mrs. Pen on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784491 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:16:05 +0000 Mrs. Pen 784491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @beachbee: I know a family - and I applaud them for this - who make it a point to see a marriage counselor several times a year in order to maintain, a healthy marriage. She said that they both came from families with broken relationships and carried so much baggage as a result that they wanted to be proactive from the start. It's easier to maintain health than fix something that's broken. She is my inspiration - they've been married 14 years so far! Mrs. Pen on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784485 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:12:30 +0000 Mrs. Pen 784485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When I was 16 I started seeing a counselor for severe depression. I don't regret it a bit - she helped me SO much! She was easy to talk to and really communicated and listened to me. She helped me focus on the positive aspects of my life instead of my negative feelings and learn how to cope and surrender that dark part of myself every day and choose happiness for my life. She helped bring a lot of healing to my life and to this day I believe my (genetic) depression has remained manageable without meds because of her help. I would definitely be willing to go to counseling again if I felt I needed it or would benefit! I actually thoroughly enjoyed my sessions. DH and I also did a very laid-back pre-marital counseling series that was required for us to be married by my pastor. We also enjoyed those sessions, I think we met 6 times for an hour each. mrs. 64 on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784477 Wed, 15 May 2013 21:07:54 +0000 mrs. 64 784477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Went to grief counseling after my dad died. It was very helpful. googly-eyes on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784284 Wed, 15 May 2013 19:29:44 +0000 googly-eyes 784284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I went to therapy for ppd. I didn't find it all that helpful though, tbh. ETA I do think it is helpful in general though. I was just SO anxious and depressed nothing really got me out of it except time. It did help me somewhat though. Mrs. Pickle on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784274 Wed, 15 May 2013 19:24:25 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 784274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've never been. However when I was a teen I went through a terrible experience and should have gone to counseling then. I think it would have helped me get over it sooner. Trailmix on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784265 Wed, 15 May 2013 19:20:33 +0000 Trailmix 784265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've been a bunch of times during the last 10 years, mostly relating to anxiety issues...I find therapy very helpful and have no shame about it! BSB on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784251 Wed, 15 May 2013 19:15:34 +0000 BSB 784251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think you should change the poll to let us vote more than once. I've been and it is very helpful to get a second point of view on my issues. littlek on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784249 Wed, 15 May 2013 19:14:35 +0000 littlek 784249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH and I went to pre marital counseling for a few months. sslm on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784227 Wed, 15 May 2013 19:02:14 +0000 sslm 784227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I went a few times after my miscarriage because I felt like I was having trouble dealing with it, it was about 2 months after it happened and I just felt like I needed some help moving on from it. I found it really helpful to talk to an impartial person!!! PointeShoesTutus on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784220 Wed, 15 May 2013 18:59:16 +0000 PointeShoesTutus 784220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've been seeing a therapist off and on for almost 10 years. I struggle with anxiety and have depression related to my many medical problems. My husband and I have seen a marriage counselor as well. I have no problems admitting I've been in and out of therapy and allude to it from time to time when talking to others. I see it as something helpful that most people could benefit from. Sadly there is still a stigma about talking about mental health in our society. If my mentioning it can help some one else decide that it's ok, normal eve, to do, then great! As an aside, I do find it interesting that more often than not, when someone brings up a "hush hush" less talked about medical or mental health problem, it is amazing to find out the number of people around you that have often struggled with similar issues. It's always nice to know you're not alone. daniellemybelle on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784189 Wed, 15 May 2013 18:37:31 +0000 daniellemybelle 784189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ You need to make it so you can vote for more than one. :) DigAPony on "Have you gone to counseling or therapy?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-gone-to-counseling-or-therapy#post-784168 Wed, 15 May 2013 18:25:04 +0000 DigAPony 784168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I first started seeing a counselor when I was 11 or 12 for anxiety and depression. I started going again when I was 15 for major depression issues, and saw that psychologist throughout high school. I also went for a few sessions in college after a terrible breakup. I highly recommend going to counseling if you are interested. It's helped me immensely at different points in my life. One thing to remember, though--you might need to meet with a few different people to find someone whose style you click with. Be patient and don't give up!