https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 08:38:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287481 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 10:45:04 +0000 BananaPancakes 287481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Same here. Maybe a brief period before I moved away from home for college and I didn't have a care in the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287455 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 10:00:32 +0000 betsyboop 287455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, im less idealistic now, maybe just jaded. I would say i am so much more laid back in my 30's! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287340 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 07:21:13 +0000 blackbird 287340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty realistic. Some people say pessimist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287309 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 06:03:06 +0000 Andrea 287309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never been an idealist so that hasn't changed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287270 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 01:55:51 +0000 SugarplumsMom 287270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say it's less idealistic, it's more real. The older I get I realize what's really important: my family. In my early 20's I'd spend hours for various causes, and I'm not saying that's bad or meaningless, in any way. I'm just saying that a normal, everyday person can only do so much - our time and resources are limited. For me, it's better to focus that time and energy into what's truly important to me, my family. If I have time leftover, that's great, but I want to make sure that my priority is them and not the other way around.</p> <p>When I was younger, I thought I was more indestructible. Now, I realize I'm not superwoman and no one else is either =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287242 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 00:16:23 +0000 DillonLion 287242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Minnie_Girl: Politics are one of the things that made me feel really pessimistic and negative the more I learned, so I had to quit being as involved as I once was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287240 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 00:15:03 +0000 Minnie_Girl 287240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Politically I'm much less idealistic. Follow the money! </p> <p>In my personal life, I don't think I've changed much. But I'm young and could easily succumb to a gradual decline in standards. :P </p> <p>Maybe it's not a loss of idealism so much as a changing or maturing of ideals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287233 Sat, 08 Sep 2012 00:01:02 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 287233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: "the best is yet to come" such a good way to look at life!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287232 Fri, 07 Sep 2012 23:59:25 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 287232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am in my 20s but I am much less idealistic than I was in college. In college I became extremely idealistic while finishing my minors in sociology and anthropology. I became super passionate about fighting racism and joined a couple anti racist groups on campus and in my city.</p> <p>Now, I don't have time to think about anything other than taking care of my LO, putting food on the table, and making myself mildly presentable every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287227 Fri, 07 Sep 2012 23:56:54 +0000 DillonLion 287227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm more idealistic now (or I try to be). And I have learned to avoid engaging in activities and talking about subjects that make me feel like your friend who thinks his best years are behind him. I try to always frame my way of thinking in the "best is yet to come" kind of way. But, I'm also in my 20s...lol. So maybe that is just part of my age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287214 Fri, 07 Sep 2012 23:34:53 +0000 googly-eyes 287214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I've always been pretty realistic...Not negative, but realistic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287169 Fri, 07 Sep 2012 22:22:53 +0000 SleepyMonkey 287169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way more idealistic when I was younger. But I became very realistic very fast after graduating from school. I like it better this way...less room for disappointment. Probably sounds jaded but I believe i am the best version of myself today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-lost-any-of-your-idealism-as-youve-gotten-older#post-287154 Fri, 07 Sep 2012 22:06:34 +0000 mrbee 287154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was talking to a friend who is in his mid-30s, and he was lamenting that he's not as idealistic as he was when he was younger. He said that he's noticed a similar pattern among his peer group... then paused for a moment and said something provocative:</p> <p>"We are our best version of ourselves in our twenties."</p> <p>Another friend said something similar just last week. He said that when he started his first company after college, he was focused on changing the world! Now he just wants to support his family.</p> <p>Nothing wrong with that! But it's definitely a bit less idealistic than when he wanted to change the world for everyone...</p> <p>What do you think: were you more idealistic when you were younger? Do you still have your idealism for the world at large, or are you more focused on your own family now? </p>