https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 12 Jun 2026 15:20:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1576278 Thu, 17 Apr 2014 19:50:45 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1576278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Curious as to what happened. Did you tell or not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563584 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 15:29:32 +0000 MarieJ 1563584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely not tell my DH as I woud never hear the end of it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563483 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:38:39 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1563483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard to answer without knowing you or your DH personally, but if it was me, I'd tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563482 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:38:21 +0000 lemondrop 1563482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let him know, but I also have the expectation of my husband to support me through the stupid mistakes I make- he makes his own too. Eventually we get to the point where we can laugh over them, but while it is a sensitive topic it's off the table for jokes.</p> <p>We also have access to each others accounts and credit cards, so it would definitely be noticeable- the only time money is secret is just before holidays and birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563476 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:36:31 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1563476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeydew: I wouldn't tel l. Who cares?</p> <p>But that being said: if I told my husband from the get-go, he wouldn't care (he'd be annoyed but so? Things happen) also: my husband wouldn't care if he later found out that I had done it &amp; not told him. He doesn't need to tell me every time anything happens nor am I expected to tell him. We're both adults here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563430 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:18:14 +0000 NeekieRose 1563430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret. And DH would give me a hard time about it for awhile. I would probably not tell him right away, but after he has had a chance to notice and not seen any difference. @Mae has a good point about the CarFax report. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563422 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:16:45 +0000 LBee 1563422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I was just thinking this! I think the repairs have to do with insurance claims for tracking, though. </p> <p>I would definitely tell. Mostly because I get super awkward with secrets and I would expect him to tell me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563408 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:09:55 +0000 Mae 1563408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell him. Mostly because I don't keep secrets from him. But also because he may find out anyways when he goes to sell the car. I don't know for sure but I feel like there may be some database with VINs and car repair histories..? I mean when I was looking for my used car I was able to see what had been done to the car I bought based on the car facts report and it was not my impression that this was self-reported info. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563396 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:06:51 +0000 avivoca 1563396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dinged another car's mirror with my mirror a few years ago and told my husband. He has graciously not brought it up since then. I would definitely tell him, but wait until he's driven it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563389 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:04:56 +0000 LuLu Mom 1563389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have my own money, but if I did I would for sure keep my mouth shut! I have a horrible driving record, I can't imagine having to tell him this too ;) I'd probably end up telling him months/year later as a HAHA kind of thing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563376 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 14:00:55 +0000 KT326 1563376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I scratched my car when I was pulling into the parking garage at work. It is pretty small but still noticeable. To this day DH thinks someone else scratched my car parking next to me :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563337 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:49:04 +0000 Crisark 1563337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any 'fun money' so this wouldn't be an option but I also tell DH everything so yes I'd tell him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563335 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:48:17 +0000 Alivoo01 1563335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: @mrsjyw: Ditto. I have super guilty conscious so I'd spill the beans, but DH knows I get uber upset with myself so he doesn't give me a hard time. He tells me accidents happen! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563291 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:38:01 +0000 psw27 1563291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have my own money so it would be hard to not tell him... but there are times when I do know its better to just keep things to myself. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563283 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:35:41 +0000 Greentea 1563283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Won't it be worse when he finds out if you didn't tell him in the first place? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563270 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:29:01 +0000 hellocupcake 1563270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have my own money/account, but I would probably make the accident seem like it was unavoidable/not really my fault. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563248 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:20:22 +0000 MrsStormy 1563248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeydew: I would probably end up telling because I'm not the best at keeping secrets from DH, but I would try not to, and if I were you, I wouldn't, you fixed it and its probably not worth the discussion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563197 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:02:10 +0000 Honeydew 1563197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also to you fellow Asian woman drivers, I want to apologize for my driving gaff and adding to the stereotype. Major fail today.</p> <p>@HOTCHILDINTHECITY and @Mediagirl - I agree with you, if I confess to my DH, I would hear about it for as long as I live. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563180 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:58:24 +0000 Honeydew 1563180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee it ended up costing $270 for the repair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563179 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:58:09 +0000 petunia354 1563179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'd tell him. I am so bad at keeping secrets, plus I wouldn't want him to keep anything from me even if it's just a silly little situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563151 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:49:56 +0000 Greentea 1563151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell him. It was an accident and you already fixed it. If he's gonna freak over that he needs to choose his battles :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563036 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:23:43 +0000 mrsjyw 1563036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cant usually keep secrets from DH, esp dumb stuff like that, I end up giving myself away in the end but I'd say don't mention it! No harm, no foul! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563028 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:22:15 +0000 snowjewelz 1563028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell DH pretty much everything... I can't keep secrets or lie to him! Sometimes I just wait a while to tell him things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1563015 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:19:20 +0000 MrsSCB 1563015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell, and I also agree with @blackbird that shit happens. I hope he wouldn't be super mad because it was just an accident! Odds are eventually something is bound to happen that will scratch or somehow damage your car. And you got it fixed so I say no harm no foul :-) I can totally relate -- I accidentally swiped a concrete column with my car in our big parking garage last weekend and got a scrape on it. I was pretty upset because I'm basically obsessed with my car, but my H was just like, "Hey, no biggie. We'll get it fixed and everything will be fine!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1562996 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:16:02 +0000 spaniellove 1562996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to tell him right away and get it fixed with my own money, but then again he knows how down I get about any flaws on my car and doesn't say a word about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1562936 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 12:01:24 +0000 pui 1562936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably wait a day while he drove the car around and then tell him. That way he can't claim the change is noticeable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1562931 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 11:59:59 +0000 littlebug 1562931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Something like that, I'd probably air on the side of "What he doesn't know won't hurt him." No permanent damage, out of your own money.... meh, the harassment you'd probably get for hurting his baby just wouldn't be worth it, IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1562930 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 11:59:56 +0000 blackbird 1562930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, you got it fixed....so that's the most important part. I'd nonchalantly mention that i bumped it, but i fixed it. sorry. </p> <p>Shit happens! I mean, it's your car, too, right? Do you think he'd freak out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1562928 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 11:59:19 +0000 Bookish 1562928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hah, honestly, for something that minor, I'd keep my mouth shut ;) I didn't tell DH when I hit his car with my car! Luckily it was a small scratch and he didn't notice.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/have-you-not-told-your-so-to-keep-the-peace#post-1562926 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 11:59:09 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1562926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont have my "own" money so i wouldnt be able to do this. That said, if i could, i would for sure get this fixed and never tell him. My husband would never let me live this down and it would be beyond annoying. </p>