https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 07:58:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858720 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 18:15:20 +0000 pmrlady 1858720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with snowjewelz, the main reason I would want 2 is so that they would be siblings who would hopefully be life long friends. I think I would regret it later in life if LO1 didn't have a sibling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858276 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:41:09 +0000 snowjewelz 1858276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like the only reason I'm having 2 is to have siblings. I have a sibling, DH has siblings, so I guess I can't imagine life as an only child? But as LO #1 is getting closer to arriving, there are def a lot of realities that hit about having kids... Especially financially... So I think I can't say for sure until we're almost a year out w/ LO #1 to say we're sure whether we want #2 or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858247 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:24:02 +0000 Cherrybee 1858247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Aimed: I've done exactly the same thing!! But then I realised that even that is looking forward - its like I always have to be accomplishing something, I can't just "be". Agh!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858221 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:14:53 +0000 JennyD 1858221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. But I felt that before we started trying for #1. Like, I had it in my head when we decided to start a family that you have 2 kids. So I was determined to decided when we would have the first and when we would have the second at the same time we were deciding whether to even have kids! My husband finally said "why don't we just start with one and see how it goes", which opened a whole new world to me. It had honestly never occurred to me.</p> <p>Since then (like, as of the next day) we were pretty much one and done. But yes, I get what you mean! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858197 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:01:11 +0000 LuLu Mom 1858197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, the urge for number 2 came very strong. I would get teary eyed when holding babies because I knew I wanted another one, I thought of babies constantly even though we knew we needed to wait until late spring to try (due to obligations.) </p> <p>The only strange thing that happened is we planned on starting at the end of April after I was in a wedding and I then decided to hold off until June because I wanted May to enjoy summer. I have no regrets, I always wanted a spring baby, and #2 is coming in March. So the timing worked in our favor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858196 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:00:03 +0000 sarah.clarisse 1858196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. I feel this way most of the time about having a #2. LO is 10.5 months and if we did try for a second it would probably be some time next year. I'm about 90% sure I'm done (and honestly that 10% is very much because it's just "what you do") so really I'm 100% sure something isn't missing with just 1 LO. DH always wanted 2 however he's been leaning more towards 1 and done since LO was born.<br /> Right now we are just enjoying LO and waiting until next year to revisit the topic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858189 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:56:40 +0000 Aimed 1858189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I know! I am trying to do this too. I am mentally making a "Things to Accomplish before Baby #2" list to try to focus on the now and nearer future and enjoying it!</p> <p>@MrsF: Totally understand, I didn't love pregnanacy and the newborn phase and now I know what to expect which is both better and worse! </p> <p>I know I would adore any #2, but I sometimes wonder if I am planning it just because it's the "done thing" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858177 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:51:04 +0000 MrsF 1858177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 28 weeks pregnant with #2 and I still feel a little like this some days! What sealed the deal for me was wanting to have a sibling for M who is close in age. I am terrified of going through the newborn phase again and I really feel like the main reason that I'm going to do it all again is for my daughter. I'm sure that once baby brother is born I will feel totally differently, but for now - it's motivation enough. Every family is different though! The child-spacing issue just happened to be one that was important to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858156 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:35:23 +0000 Cherrybee 1858156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know exactly what you mean. Number 2 has been on my mind a lot of late but I do think its because its the "next thing" on the agenda, not because I really want a second right now (we're not ready). I'm terrible for it though, always looking ahead. I personally need to learn to live in the now a bit more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-2-just-the-next-thing-to-do#post-1858131 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:20:20 +0000 Aimed 1858131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So as my LO nears 2, we are starting to think about adding a #2. It's been on my mind a lot and I am happy to wait to make sure that it is the right decision for us - but somewhere I think I know that we will try but maybe I don't know why!</p> <p>Don't get me wrong, I would in so many ways love another LO but I know my life would still be full if we didn't expand our family. I don't have that feeling of a face missing at the table that people talk about- I never did, even before LO #1 - and now I can't imagine life without him of course!</p> <p>Sometimes I wonder if we are just considering #2 because it's the generally accepted 'next thing to do' - like get engaged, get married, have a baby, have another - almost like just waiting in life for the 'next thing' in this case a baby to happen.</p> <p>Does anyone ever feel that the thought of having #2 is just another 'next thing' or should it really be a deep longing or am I overthinking it and being a little nutty! </p>