https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 18:32:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016439 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 08:31:56 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2016439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh...I probably wouldn't do it unless there was some circumstance where the guest of honor didn't have the addresses. (Like my book club threw me a baby shower and I only knew 2 of the addresses, so everyone wrote down their address on the back of the "Advice to Mom" card.)</p> <p>@Mamasig: I'm in TX and I agree with you that is probably a regional/social circle thing - I'm not sure I have ever received an evite for a shower. My group of friends only uses them for casual things like a BBQ or birthday party. And since I love paper products/crafting, I almost always send snail-mail invitations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016415 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 08:07:57 +0000 Orchid 2016415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Suuuuuper tacky to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016406 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 08:00:15 +0000 Ajsmommy 2016406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think its about them having your address.. they obviously have your address. It's about convenience and helping out the bride or mama </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016404 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 07:56:12 +0000 jedeve 2016404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone did this for me at my wedding shower. My first reaction was it was a bit paternalistic (did they not think I would write thank yous?) but then I thought it very nice. </p> <p>Then some of moms friends who I didn't know threw me a little shower (kind of more of a party for my mom type thing). I didn't have any of their addresses. I asked and asked my mom for them and she kept flaking on it. So no one got thank yous. (I live on the other side if the country and don't really know these women at all). </p> <p>I think the best medium is for the hostess to provide a list of addresses to the showeree. </p> <p>That being said...all I want in a thank you from a new mom is to know they received the gift if I mailed it. I don't feel any more "thanked" based on how they wrote the address. And if I sent the gift after birth, all sorts of forgiveness for not writing a card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016399 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 07:47:28 +0000 Mamasig 2016399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: A lot of wedding and baby showers are hosted by the mom or MIL. I doubt they would send digital invites. Well at least in the south! I'm glad the south has not caught up to those times - I'll be sad when I stop getting paper invitations. Digital feels way more impersonal. </p> <p>And heck yea birthday parties require formal invites! To me anyway - we are celebrating the birth of a child! What is more important than that! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016393 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 07:31:57 +0000 looch 2016393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, in my opinion, if you used a digital invitation, I'd expect a digital thank you, that would be totally fine in my book.</p> <p>I also have to say, if someone hosted a shower for me and one of their gifts to me was a basket with a thank you notes, I'd be a bit annoyed by that passive aggressive jab. It can be interpreted as you thinking I don't know enough to send a thank you note. Given that most of the women of honor know that the shower is being held, how difficult is it before the shower to get your supplies in order? Everything can be ordered on line, address a few cards each day, so that post shower, all you have to do is write the card, stamp it and send it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016369 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 06:27:19 +0000 Dandelion 2016369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't mind, but I've never seen this done in real life. I wouldn't do it personally, cause not everyone has nice handwriting and I would prefer that a letter from me looks nice. But, that's just my own personal hang up about it.</p> <p>If I had to address my own envelope, I would definitely go over the top with doodles and such lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016350 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 03:54:56 +0000 erinpye 2016350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never really thought about it, and I've only been asked to do it at an event like twice. I'm not bothered by it, but I wouldn't task guests with it if given the choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016349 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 03:44:08 +0000 sunny 2016349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't mind at all. </p> <p> I think 99% of the events I've been invited to in the past few years have used a digital invitation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016314 Fri, 09 Jan 2015 00:25:50 +0000 Freckles 2016314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Mamasig: it must be a regional thing (I.e., southern) bc I with different groups of friends, never have I received a paper invite to a shower (wedding/baby) no matter how formal/ large of a party. That being said, I am prompt with my thank you cards (all hand-written, addresses included)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016296 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 23:43:56 +0000 PawPrints 2016296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: A birthday party is a formal event? :shocked: Haha yeah, I am not in the south.</p> <p>[ETA] Oh and as far as age being a factor... Well, I'm over 30, as are all my friends, so perhaps not that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016290 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 23:27:21 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2016290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: @PawPrints: @pinkcupcake: the showers I have been invited to all have sent mailed invitations. The closest thing to a FB invite was a woman soliciting addresses for her shower if someone wanted to come. I think I even discussed it here and decided not to contact her because that seemed so awkward and impersonal. My friends and I do not have each other's mailing addresses, but no one hesitated to pick up the phone or shoot a text and ask for it. </p> <p>Writing out your address is not the end of the world, of course. For the showers I have been to though the request would not be because the hostess or mom-to-be didn't have my address.</p> <p>@CarrieLouWho: love that idea! This is what I would do too if I hosted. Address an invite - address a thank you. Repeat until all done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016283 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 23:16:17 +0000 Mamasig 2016283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: I wonder if this is a regional or age thing. I have never received an evite for a shower. Actually, I almost always get mailed printed invitations for any formal kind of event like birthday party, shower, engagement party, etc. I'm in the south. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016258 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 22:59:24 +0000 Espion 2016258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be more than happy to write out my address. It take 30 seconds and not worth getting bent out of shape. There are bigger things to worry about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016224 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 22:31:10 +0000 hellobeeboston 2016224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, wouldn't you have the addresses already if you sent invitations to the shower??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016221 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 22:26:55 +0000 stargal 2016221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it helpful not tacky. It takes 5 seconds to write it down. Seriously, i have better things to worry about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016183 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 22:06:35 +0000 Applesandbananas 2016183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually found most everyone's addresses on whitepages.com. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016182 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 22:06:18 +0000 hellobeeboston 2016182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never heard of this before! And I, personally, would not ask it of people, but would offer to help someone else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016170 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 22:02:38 +0000 CarrieLouWho 2016170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to think it's tacky for the reasons others have stated.<br /> When I host a shower, one of my gifts is always addressing the thank you cards for her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2016099 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 21:28:16 +0000 ElbieKay 2016099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate writing thank you notes -- I find writing things by hand to be extremely tedious, and I have terrible handwriting -- but there is no way I would ever ask someone to address the envelope for their own thank-you note. If asked to do it, I would be polite but yes the 'T' word would pop into my head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015908 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 19:48:23 +0000 PawPrints 2015908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: @pinkcupcake: This! I am not a huge fan of being asked to write out my address at a shower but I don't think it's the end of the world. But - so many people have commented that the new mom must have your address because they mailed out the shower invitations... surely I can't be the only person who hasn't received a paper invitation in years? It's all evite, email, Facebook. </p> <p>Anyway if people are purchasing gifts through your registry, their addresses should be tracked on the thank-you list there. Amazon does that, at least.</p> <p>(One more thought - this could be setting the bar high, but don't people keep a list of their loved ones' addresses? Like, for holiday cards and birthday cards etc.? I get the point of collecting addresses at a bridal shower, since for a lot of women they don't really get into those kinds of housekeeping habits until after they get married, but I would think most new moms probably have all those peoples' addresses lying around somewhere.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015891 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 19:38:25 +0000 pinkcupcake 2015891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally never seen it done, but it wouldn't bother me at all. Like @Freckles: mentions, my friends typically send evites or paperless posts so they don't have my address. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015810 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 18:42:33 +0000 blackbird 2015810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: ha no! But I should! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015804 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 18:38:52 +0000 Freckles 2015804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never thought twice about it. Plus, everyone i know sends evites now so why should people assume i have their mailing address? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015769 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:58:01 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2015769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: @blackbird: have either of you addressed your dental reminders as Queen or Madame President or something over the top? I have fun with mine :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015766 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:53:58 +0000 dolphin 2015766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had to write down my address on envelopes at showers and I never once thought it was tacky! I don't think it's a big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/3#post-2015759 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:47:55 +0000 mrsjyw 2015759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've filled them out as a guest and never really thought twice about it.</p> <p>I've never done it at any showers I've hosted nor were they ever done at any showers for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/2#post-2015743 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:25:49 +0000 birdofafeather 2015743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: yes! it always trips me out when i see a postcard/envelope with my own name and handwriting.</p> <p>i did this at a shower last week and i get the sentiment, but i think it's weird because they mailed me an invite, so someone has my address! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/2#post-2015737 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:18:55 +0000 Anya 2015737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally would skip it. Reminds me of the drs office when you address your own appt reminder card for next time.</p> <p>If you don't know or cant easily obtain my address, I feel like we aren't close enough for you to be inviting me to your shower in the first place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/having-guests-address-envelopes-at-shower-is-it-tacky/page/2#post-2015728 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:12:55 +0000 Mamasig 2015728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's tacky. I also write out addresses for the most part and not use labels. The point of a thank you card is that you took time out of your day to thank a person, they shouldn't do part of the job! </p>