https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 17:25:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-711346 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:50:17 +0000 pui 711346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't even imagine what you are going through. I wish you well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-711337 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:46:53 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 711337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to offer you tons of support! I think it's really brave to post about controversial topics because you are helping others in the same position who are too scared to talk about it. I'm sure this has been extremely hard and traumatic and I hope you and your husband are doing ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-711309 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:35:25 +0000 sosaysmegan 711309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so, so sorry that you and your husband have had to go through this. I've been through something similar (trisomy 18 markers discovered at our anatomy scan, then confirmed via amnio), and I know how truly awful it is. It does seem completely miraculous, having been through this, that *anyone* manages to have a healthy baby-- the hardest thing is trying to wrap your head and heart around what has happened to you. Lots and lots of love to you.</p> <p>PSA: Words mean things!<br /> While I'm sure it's not the intent of many of the people that say they'll "love their baby no matter what," I think it's important to consider the other side of this. Do you think that women ending much-wanted pregnancies didn't love their babies? (Not trying to start an argument, as I know that everyone is being generally supportive, but I think it's valuable to be thoughtful about your words.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588829 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 10:18:49 +0000 BananaPancakes 588829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so terribly sorry you're going through this and having to make such a difficult decision. My heart breaks for you and I hope you both find comfort soon. You can only do what you both feel is best for your family. In a million years I would have never guessed how difficult being a parent is, and honestly, I don't feel like I could handle a special needs child at this point in my life. Lots of love being sent your way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588813 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 10:10:06 +0000 mrbee 588813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If anyone would like to raise additional issues, please open a separate thread. I'd like to keep this thread focused on supporting the OP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588799 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 10:04:23 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 588799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sadbee: I hope you find peace &amp; comfort during this time. I do not judge you for the dession you have made. No one can rightfully do so with out having been you, without having lived your life, &amp; without having to make the choice you are having to make. To each their own. You have been in my thoughts are prayers hon. I wish nothing but the best for you and your family.</p> <p>ETA: I have edited my post. By no means did I mean to be unsupportive. After rereading it I realized my PSA was insensitive to the op &amp; I appoligize. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588697 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 08:28:18 +0000 Smurfette 588697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: agreed!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588664 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 07:34:47 +0000 PrincessBaby 588664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Hedgehog: I understand your opinion, but the OP has shared a decision that is undoubtedly the worst thing that's ever happened to her, and was looking for emotional support, not to be chastised or judged. She did not start a debate or ask what you think about her choice. She is simply someone struggling with a horribly tragic situation and looking for support. It's not appropriate for you to post your (unsupportive) opinion about her choice. She did not request it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588635 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 06:53:59 +0000 lavender 588635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry to hear what you are going through. I hope you find peace in your decision. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/3#post-588617 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 06:01:31 +0000 anniegurumi 588617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My eyes filled up with tears reading this. I am so sorry that you and your husband are going through this. I am so thankful that you are sharing your struggle so that other couples can also share their experiences. I wish you and your husband much healing and tons of hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-588612 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 05:15:34 +0000 littlebug 588612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so deeply sorry that you and your husband are going through this. What a trying tune it must be fur both if you. I agree with pps - there are definitely support groups out there fir this kind of situation. Iwould look into that. iIt can make such a huge difference in your coping and grieving process of you can find others who have been through it. Best of luck to you. Sending lots of love and support.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-588611 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 05:10:51 +0000 SugarplumsMom 588611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I can't imagine how difficult it is for you and your husband. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-588608 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 04:50:25 +0000 tequiero21 588608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry u r going thru this.... Hoping u find peace and comfort during this difficult time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-588600 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 04:05:07 +0000 lomom 588600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We opted not to, I wouldn't be able to make that decision. </p> <p>I hope you find peace and take care of yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-588595 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 03:48:20 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 588595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to sound like the total B here but.. are you really terminating because your child wont be "perfect"??? Why does this child deserve any less of a life just because they have a disorder that is VERY manageable? I have never and will never understand this mentality. I grew up in a family with a brother who was mentally retarded and I can tell you, the only thing it did to us was to teach us unconditional love in the face of what so many people look down on. There were no negative effects for any of us kids based on his disability. And there are so many programs, free programs, to help families of children with disabilities. Especially DS. I am sorry. There are some things that really get at my heart and this is one of them.</p> <p>I am truly and deeply sorry you are having to go through this at all. Even with my outlook on the mentally handicap, I know I would be devastated to get that kind of news. It is in no way an easy thing to have to deal with no matter what the end result is. No matter what I really hope you are able to find all the love and support from your family and friends you will need. I know I would need it. Again, I am honestly truly and deeply sorry you are having to go through this. It breaks my heart that you are having to hurt so much during a time when you shouldnt. I can't say it enough, I am sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-573579 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 21:25:40 +0000 mediagirl 573579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cannot imagine how strong you must be to go through this and make the decision you did. My heart aches for you for having to go through the testing, the waiting period, making the decision and having the procedure. I can't imagine. I'm so, so sorry. I hope you find peace and comfort and take time to grieve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-573554 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 21:19:16 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 573554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm am so sorry! We did all of the genetic testing and had a CVS too. We would have made the same decision that you did but I cannot imagine having to go through it! We actually had a different issue but ended up reducing our pregnancy. If you want to talk at all, you can email me at my blog address. I wish you and your dh all the best. : ( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-572488 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 14:16:58 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 572488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know this is an incredibly difficult, personal decision and you need to do what's best for your family. My prayers are with your family... thank you for opening your heart and life with us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-572484 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 14:15:39 +0000 bienlivingdesign 572484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry for you loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-572449 Mon, 18 Feb 2013 13:59:08 +0000 yourekindapretty 572449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm so sorry that your family has to go through this.<br /> my heart aches for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565779 Thu, 14 Feb 2013 00:23:21 +0000 MarieJ 565779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry that you &amp; your husband are going through this. You have to do what's best for you. I will keep you in my thoughts &amp; prayers. Such a tough situation. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565715 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:26:20 +0000 singingbee 565715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I know someone who carried A trisomy 21 baby almost to term. It was one of the saddest things when they lost her. Prayers to you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565687 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:08:37 +0000 LaineysMom 565687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I know that this was an incredibly difficult and painful decision and I want you to know that my prayers are with you and your hubby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565672 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 23:04:06 +0000 MrsRcCar 565672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to read this. Keeping you and yours in my thoughts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565486 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:11:20 +0000 autumn865 565486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What an awful situation. I'm so sorry you and your DH are going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565482 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 22:10:22 +0000 matador84 565482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Praying for peace for you and yours. I know someone who carried a trisomy 21 baby to almost term, and delivered. The funeral was quite possibly the saddest thing I've ever encountered. Peace for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565312 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 21:32:04 +0000 T-Mom 565312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So very sorry, and my thoughts are with you and your DH.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565257 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 21:22:26 +0000 Mrs. Bee 565257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry that you've had to make such a difficult decision. i can only begin to imagine all the emotions involved, and everything you've been through these past couple of weeks. Please know that we feel nothing but empathy, love and sadness for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565151 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 21:01:04 +0000 skibobrown 565151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry that you are going through this, and I can't even imagine the pain of having to make a choice like that. My thoughts are with you and your family during this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/heartbroken-hardest-week-ever/page/2#post-565132 Wed, 13 Feb 2013 20:55:37 +0000 mrbee 565132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sadbee: I'm so sorry. :( Much love to you, from our family to yours. </p>