https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 07:35:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278606 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 23:52:28 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2278606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like many have said above: it gets better-I promise, promise it does. I bet he's just around the corner from giving you some smiles, and they will make you feel like a million bucks! 6 weeks is the peak of the fussiness. Any chance you might be able to have a few nights of a night nurse/PP doula? At 6 weeks is when I cried uncle, had a PP doula come for 5 nights over the span of a few weeks, and it made a HUGE difference. Getting even 5-6 hours of uninterrupted sleep made everything, everything better. It was a little expensive but since I was nursing (not paying for formula) and we weren't going out to eat or anything, I felt the money was SO worth it. Also, can you join a local Meetup.com group with babies around the same age, or a Facebook group? Getting out for coffee with another mom in the trenches like you are can also help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278604 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 23:49:41 +0000 Portboston 2278604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@getjazzy: we just started on a probiotic today! I got one from my pharmacy that's we're breaking open and giving to him as well as Ferber soothe drops since they have different strains. I'm also doing a digestive enzyme after my meals to help break down proteins so it's easier on his tummy &amp; ive cut dairy...oh the joys of being a mommy. Hopefully the probiotic helps both of us!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278585 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 22:53:10 +0000 youboots 2278585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have advice on reflux. And I did not read all the responses. I will say we had some breastfeeding issues and T was hospitalized for dehydration. I got mastitis. Anyways. It was not always easy. 10 weeks was a real turning point, hang in these. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278582 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 22:50:00 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2278582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but I went through similar feelings. I did have PPD/PPA but even without it, those issues are tough. It gets easier! And so much more rewarding! Seriously, at six weeks I was crying to DH that I thought maybe we should put DD up for adoption. That sounds embarrassing now but I honestly felt on the edge of something terrible happening to all of us. At just about 3, I think I'm doing a pretty decent job with her, and it just gets better and better. &lt;3 Hang in there! &lt;3 ETA and as proof it gets easier, we're getting close to having #2. At that point I SWORE I was one and done. It gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278567 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 22:16:45 +0000 getjazzy 2278567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to share since we are experiencing the same issues. I mentioned it to my sister in law who was a nurse at a children's hospital and is now a nurse practitioner, she suggested probiotics to help with the reflux. I was skeptical so I did a little research and it actually appears to be highly suggested. One of the causes of reflux can be an imbalance of the gut flora which causes gas and forces open the LES, allowing the acid to reflux. I'm planning on getting some ASAP tomorrow, since probiotics is something I believe in for general gut health anyway so if it might help for this, I'm willing to try it! Just thought I would share. I will update on whether it helps or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278491 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 20:51:02 +0000 Portboston 2278491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for all your words of encouragement!!! This support is exactly what I needed to hear at this point. You all are amazing!!!<br /> @MrsF: fantastic post 😊 thank you for passing that along! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278489 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 20:50:04 +0000 jape14 2278489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: I haven't read through the whole thread but I promise promise it does get better! My LO had reflux but we didn't figure that out until about 8 weeks. The 6-8 week timeframe was awful! Halloween last year was right at 7 weeks and it was straight up the worst day. A lot of people told me it gets better at 6, 8, 10, 12 weeks and I'm not going to lie to you - it didn't get markedly better for us until 16 weeks. Reflux meds definitely helped though - if you don't see improvement on the Zantac, don't be afraid to ask the ped about it. We started Zantac at 8 weeks, increased the dosage at 10 weeks, and switched to omeprazole at 11-12 weeks. Once that kicked in, it was life-changing. </p> <p>Anyway: you are not alone, the beginning really REALLY sucks sometimes but I promise you will get through it. DS is turning 1 this week and as bad as it sucked at times, I really do miss it!! During the first four months we swore he would be an only child and now we are planning on 3! Wall me anytime to commiserate or ask reflux questions. I promise it gets better!! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278435 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 20:15:33 +0000 MrsF 2278435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having a newborn is SO hard. It seems like you've already been though a lot and, even though it doesn't seem like it, things will get better soon. I absolutely thought that I had made a mistake in having my daughter (colic, MSPI, reflux - the works). Things get better day by day and one day you'll realize that you can breathe again, you'll feel like yourself again. Take care of yourself and know that many of us here have felt the same way! :heart: </p> <p>Reading this post really helped me through the six week struggles with both of my kids:</p> <p><a href="http://nurshable.com/2012/05/27/six-week-growth-spurt/" rel="nofollow">http://nurshable.com/2012/05/27/six-week-growth-spurt/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278103 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 14:46:43 +0000 JoJoGirl 2278103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man. If you look at the threads I started on HB early on, they were all exactly like this. </p> <p>And now my LO is 2.5 and I'm totally freakin' obsessed with her. A) She was a sh*tty, tough baby who never slept, had reflux and was colicky B) I had PPD so don't overlook this possibility and C) I don't like parenting babies. Period. I like parenting toddlers. They're more fun.</p> <p>It'll get better :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please/page/2#post-2278086 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 14:36:27 +0000 FancyGem 2278086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a similar experience with the reflux. I understand where you are coming from. We didn't have much help from family because we lived so far away. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2278042 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 14:09:54 +0000 Mrs. J 2278042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Reflux is hard. We didn't even get our oldest diagnosed with it as early as you, so feeding was so so stressful. Give the Zantac time to work—it eventually helped us. Babywearing for sure. They now rec legs out from birth, so you'd be ok to do that. Also happiest baby on the block!! </p> <p>It does get better. Mine is now 21 months old and I have an almost 4 week old, so obv we decided to have another! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2278030 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 13:58:33 +0000 winniebee 2278030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first was like this...lots of little issues....when we started seeing a GI doctor for his MSPI though, it really put things in perspective for me. There are lots of extremely sick and difficult kids out there, and mine wasn't one of them. It does get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277980 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 13:31:08 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2277980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: You're in the thick of it. It's SO HARD! The newborn stage was awful for both of my girls. My first had colic and screamed for 3 hours straight every night for 3 weeks. My 2nd had colic and reflux and would scream for 4 hours every night, and would only fall asleep if there was LOTS of white noise and if I was wearing her. They both hated the card until 4 months old, so I was really limited on how much I could get out. Both of them had shallow latches and I had flat nipples. I was so sleep deprived and in so much pain! But it gets better!! I promise it does! </p> <p>Zantac did nothing for my girl, but Prevacid was a miracle drug for us. She still woke every 2-3 hours, but she just likes to eat ... a lot!</p> <p>I completely understand the desperation for sleep and for it to get easier. Can you have people come over and watch her so you can get some rest? Even a 30 min nap will make a world of difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277908 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 12:46:12 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2277908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: It does get better - I promise! LO1 was a horribly colicky baby. I remember a friend who had a baby 10 days before me coming over. She had the perfect angel baby. She was like, "Don't you just LOVE being on maternity leave? I can do so much during the day, I have dinner made and on the table every night, I can go shopping whenever I want..." I just burst into tears because I hadn't had 5 minutes all day where LO1 wasn't crying his head off. It was such a hard transition for me. I want to say that we started to have more good days than bad beginning around 7ish weeks. Hoping things start to turn a corner for you... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277906 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 12:45:56 +0000 kiddosc 2277906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to add, don't underestimate the power of a good chunk of uninterrupted sleep. When I was about to lose my mind, DH took E for a 3 hour drive and I got to sleep in a quiet house without the possibility of interruption. It was just enough to regain my sanity. It is so hard to think positively or problem solve when you are so so sleep deprived. Can your mom or SO take full charge of baby for a few hours so you can get a good chunk of sleep? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277856 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 12:18:55 +0000 daniellemybelle 2277856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way. LO was a hard baby. It does get better. No tricks or techniques helped us that much but time does go by faster than you think. Babies can suck but being a mom gets great :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277801 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:34:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 2277801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: I once had a lady ask if C was a good baby. I almost cried on the street because I didn't want to say no but didn't want to lie... I settled on "well, we love her". She went on to tell me how wonderful her granddaughter was who slept through the night, blah blah blah, and I wanted to kill her. </p> <p>But my 2 year old is so chill, so unlike the difficult newborn that she was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277793 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:29:22 +0000 Mama Bird 2277793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: oh gosh I'm sorry! I've got another super unhappy six week old and it sucks. I told my husband yesterday that I've ruined everyone's life, and that if the baby keeps this up, I'm taking her and going to my parents so he and our toddler don't have to listen to all that screaming. But deep inside I know it gets better... they get much less gassy and refluxy, and easier to entertain around 3 or 4 months, and they still go through tough phases later but one day you realize that you've actually been sleeping ok and getting time to yourself again! </p> <p>Just keep taking it one day at a time. Try to take all that time nursing to read a book or watch a movie. And maybe you can ask your mom to take the baby for a walk, or go outside by yourself to clear your head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277789 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:26:32 +0000 BananaPancakes 2277789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: Hang in there! Newborns suck and reflux babies really suck, but it absolutely gets better! I was so sure we had made a huge mistake and had ruined our lives the first few months of DS's life, but eventually it does get so much better. Just make it a goal to get through each day and eventually it will calm down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277788 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:25:47 +0000 getjazzy 2277788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there momma!! I'm feeling the same. My first was easy peasy as a newborn and I think I took that to be he norm but, I highly suspect S has reflux issues too (getting it checked out this week). It's so tough! She's constantly fussy and I feel like a failure as a mom! I guess that's not encouraging but, you're not alone in the struggle!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277783 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:21:48 +0000 rosegold 2277783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: six weeks is a wonder week! it gets better, easier, FUN! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277771 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 11:12:49 +0000 Portboston 2277771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@My Only Sunshine: I had a woman ask me how I was doing. When I said "I'm alive!" She looked at me and said "it gets better I promise" I almost started crying in the fabric store!!!</p> <p>@MrsKoala: it's been just short of a week...he isn't screaming in pain anymore (mostly) but he still grunts and fusses a lot. I'm not sure if that is just going to continue to happen...? He definitely still doesn't seem like a normal happy baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277716 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 10:45:13 +0000 Anagram 2277716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: As everyone said, it really does get better! And, the good news in having a harder newborn/infant is that other stages will feel like a breeze! When my mom friends and I talk about which is harder--infants or toddlers--the ones with easy babies say toddlers are so hard, and the ones with hard babies (like me) think toddlerhood is a breeze!</p> <p>Anyway, my LO was similar---hematoma from birth that left her with a tight jaw, so she couldn't open her mouth to nurse. Took her to cranial-sacral therapy. Still couldn't nurse...then found out she had a tongue and lip tie. Had those clipped--then she stopped drinking milk altogether, from either breast or bottle. She started losing weight. We tried reflux meds, which didn't help. Finally we figured out she was MSPI. So I had to cut all dairy and soy from my diet till she was 13 months. She would wakeup 6-8 times a NIGHT. Like, every hour on the hours some months.</p> <p>She didn't sleep through the night even once until she was a year old, and now at two, she sttn maybe once or twice a week. </p> <p>Needless to say, her first year was rough on me. I went back to work when she was 4.5 months old, and she got sick a lot in daycare and things just got worse.</p> <p>But....we got through it. And now, honestly, at 2....she is an absolute joy. She is SO cute, and so bright, and rarely tantrums, and sleeps better now than she ever has (still not as good as some babies, but oh well). She's such an addition to our lives.</p> <p>So, I can't tell you when the change will be, but eventually, it WILL get easier.</p> <p>Just hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277704 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 10:35:14 +0000 Herrade 2277704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 14 weeks old and still quite challenging. I don't want to be discouraging, but I was really despondant when I didn't one day wake up to a "new" baby at 8 or 12 weeks. And I'd like to punch Dr Harvey Karp (Happiest Baby on the Block) for making me think it would all be sunshine and unicorns after the fouth trimester. My baby doesn't like the swing, the car seat, or the wrap. She does respond to the 5 S's, but that takes a lot of energy, because once you get her calm, you have to keep her calm. She has no tongue tie, reflux or other health issues. She's just high needs. </p> <p>My LO has definitely made progress, but sometimes it feels more like one step forward, two steps back than a breakthrough. One day I could wake up to a "new" baby and think we had finally made it, but the next day I'd have another "new" baby, and this one was twice as fussy. </p> <p>I think the best advice I can give, just 8 weeks ahead of you, is to try to avoid hanging your hopes on expectations of a sudden improvement, and to get as much emotional support as possible. If one day your LO does suddenly become less high needs, great! But don't spend everyday frustrated and disappointed that she's not "easy" yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277630 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:38:49 +0000 catlady 2277630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're going through this! 6 weeks is really the hardest. It gets easier. In another 6 weeks, your baby will probably feel like a whole new baby anyway! One thing that helped me around this time was that at 6 or 7 weeks, my LO started liking the swing (prior to that, she hated it). Even though she was a very fussy baby (MSPI issues), starting around this time, I was able to get her to take at least one decent nap in the swing on most days. Baby wearing was also super helpful at this age. Don't forget to try to get outside a little! Fresh air can really help too. The sound of a crying baby can feel a lot less loud if you are outside. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277619 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:27:20 +0000 MrsKoala 2277619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry I missed your reply where you said he started Zantac. It takes time for reflux medicines to work. I know it's hard but be patient. If it doesn't seem to be helping after he's been on it for one-two weeks, talk to your ped and ask for something different. Not every reflux medicines works the same for every baby and it takes trial and error to find the right one. Once you find the right one, it will make a WORLD of difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277597 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:05:17 +0000 MamaBehr 2277597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: It's hard. Having a newborn is HARD! And, you don't realize how hard it is until the baby gets here. But, it'll get easier (or at least harder in different ways). I also recommend getting out of the house and creating a new normal. That will make things so much easier on you. It was the worst when I would sit in PJ's, watching tv all day (my oldest was the worst newborn, she cried, never slept, would only sleep on me, but she was a champ at nursing, but I was so overwhelmed). And, for what it is worth, it got better for us around 3-4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277589 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 08:59:55 +0000 snowjewelz 2277589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugggggss :heart: :heart: </p> <p>The newborn days were so hard. We battled tongue tie, flat nipples, etc too and the frustration, confusion, lack of sleep, etc really does a number on you. It will get better I promise!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277576 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 08:48:50 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2277576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They need an "It Gets Better" project for moms! I always say one of my acts of public service is to never say to a new mom, "Oh, isn't it wonderful?" What I usually say is something like, "Wow, cute baby. Doesn't it suck?"</p> <p>Here are some random things that helped us -<br /> -Baby swing! Sometimes it was the only way to get her to nap. My daughter wasn't huge on being worn so the swing and the bouncy seat got a workout.<br /> -Happiest Baby on the Block - the DVD. We had the book too, but I found the DVD to be so much more helpful because you could actually see what the book was trying to explain and it's short.<br /> -Getting out of the house every day. Just to get a cup of coffee, drive around, wander around the mall, whatever. It really helped me feel more human.</p> <p>You can do this, mama! My daughter is almost 2 and the light of our lives. It gets great, I swear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hello-id-like-to-exchange-my-baby-please#post-2277517 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 08:10:41 +0000 MrsSRS 2277517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Portboston: Well, he was a preemie so we had hospital bedrest, NICU time, monitors, pumping, allergies, all kinds of stuff to go with the colic. I wanted a shot at a normal newborn stage. Now we're done though!! </p>