https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 05:30:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179999 Fri, 15 May 2015 17:02:24 +0000 CakeLady 2179999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, hugs :heart: I have been there recently and know how hard it is. My son is also 11 months.</p> <p>Are you nursing/rocking to sleep at bed time? If you are, the first thing I would do is get a solid bedtime routine that puts some space between nursing and sleeping. Then work on putting him in his crib when he is relaxed but awake. </p> <p>The other thin that really helped me is to wait it out a little while, especially if DS was just fussing or crying a little. If it doesn't escalate to full on screaming, I found that he'd usually fall back to sleep pretty quickly and it was worse if I went in. I also leave him alone if he is standing, eventually he'll sit down and fall asleep (though sometimes sitting up!)</p> <p>Finally, if you are nursing in the night, you can start to work on night weaning. We did two things first gradually pushing back the time of the fist night feed and then gradually reducing the length of time I nursed. We just did this and it seems to have helped sleep a bunch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179910 Fri, 15 May 2015 15:18:12 +0000 Foodnerd81 2179910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @hilsy85: that learning to fall asleep alone could help him not freak out as much when he wakes up alone. </p> <p>I really like this blog and resources for sleep stuff : <a href="https://childsleepscience.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow">https://childsleepscience.wordpress.com</a><br /> Good advice and they don't force CIO or no cry. We did CIO when c was younger. I hope something gives soon for you and you get some sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179900 Fri, 15 May 2015 15:12:15 +0000 jedeve 2179900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@miramira: we just moved him out of our room! I won't co-sleep, I had a cousin who died of SIDS while cosleeping. </p> <p>@Alivoo01: that's how my oldest was. So I don't really know how to do it. </p> <p>@lady grey: I wish we had done it earlier!</p> <p>@catomd00: he's never been a good sleeper. It's just the last two nights that have been completely awful, but his typical night is being up 2-4 times. </p> <p>@hilsy85: that's a good point. </p> <p>@BabyTsMom: when he was a newborn he would sleep four hour stretches. He would calm himself and could sleep around noise and all that. He just grew out of it. :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179606 Fri, 15 May 2015 11:55:15 +0000 hilsy85 2179606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you do decide to sleep train, I highly recommend Ferber's book. He talks about how the environment when they fall asleep needs to be the same when they wake up, so you rocking him to sleep and then him waking and you not being there is unsettling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179602 Fri, 15 May 2015 11:50:11 +0000 catomd00 2179602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds developmental. Everyone has their own comfort level with cio, but given its only been two days, I'd personally wait it out a week and see if it goes back to normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179561 Fri, 15 May 2015 11:07:46 +0000 lady grey 2179561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: def time to sleep train! Sounds like the situation youve got right now is not working! Like @BabyTsMom we used the Sleep Easy Solution book. I loved it but we also sleep trained at 4.5 mo. However now that my 2 year old is having some sleep issues I need to reference the book again, as I remember they did have good guidelines for older kiddos too.<br /> It would be very unlikely for reflux to pop up at 10/11 months, unless it was an issues before? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179541 Fri, 15 May 2015 10:48:58 +0000 Alivoo01 2179541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can totally commiserate! DS did this, and like you said, he struggled with connecting with his sleep cycles. Sleep training is one way to rectify the situation.</p> <p>We didn't sleep train because we couldn't. DS would cry so hard, he'd throw up. It wasn't worth changing the sheets 4-5x a night plus consoling him, etc. </p> <p>By 18 months, he was sleeping more consistently and longer stretches on his own unless he's congested. At 22 months, he's been STTN somewhat consistently. Those nights are awesome. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179527 Fri, 15 May 2015 10:42:35 +0000 miramira 2179527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could it be separation anxiety? What if he slept in your room, or in your bed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179498 Fri, 15 May 2015 10:23:08 +0000 BabyTsMom 2179498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I'm so sorry you're going through this! Has your LO ever been able to sleep for longer stretches, when he was younger? How are naps? Have you tried co-sleeping?<br /> What do you do now, when he wakes up- do you give him some time to see if he settles on his own, or do you go in immediately?</p> <p>Re: CIO, I know it can be a difficult decision to make, but in your case, you're physically suffering and something's gotta give! Your LO might surprise you, too, by not crying as much as you think he will. It really sounds like he doesn't know how to fall asleep on his own yet, and he needs to learn... We did CIO pretty early, but for older babies I thought The Sleepeasy Solution (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-Sleepeasy-Solution-Exhausted-Parents/dp/0757305601" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/The-Sleepeasy-Solution-Exhausted-Parents/dp/0757305601</a>) had some good tips.</p> <p>Good luck to you! I hope things take a turn for the better asap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-15#post-2179440 Fri, 15 May 2015 09:42:22 +0000 jedeve 2179440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need some major help. LO is 11mo (10 adjusted) and barely sleeping at night. He is always up at least twice, but the last two nights he has been up every hour. Or twice an hour<br /> He will just scream a few minutes after going down, (I've been nursing or rocking to sleep) or he will try to roll over and wake himself up. He's been in PT for torticollis, and has graduated,but has never really figured out how to roll over in his sleep. Now he can stand though, so I will go I and he will be standing. </p> <p>I am so tired I've literally been shaking for the last two days. So I don't care what we need to do, we just need to do it. How does CIO work? He goes down quick at bedtime, that's not the issue. It's like he can't connect his sleep cycles at all. Ever. And they don't even last two hours. Or is it reflux?? Help!! </p>