https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 21:22:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089715 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 17:34:28 +0000 Cole 2089715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: brilliant! I can't say holding a pacifier in her mouth for twenty minutes sounds awesome but the idea that it might only be for three nights is enough to make me try it! </p> <p>The post is here for anyone else who wants to read: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2013/06/11/the-magic-drop-a-feeding-pacifier-trick/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2013/06/11/the-magic-drop-a-feeding-pacifier-trick/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089698 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 17:05:39 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2089698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: Thanks for the encouragement, I just wrote a post!@Cole: The MOTN paci-trick has been an absolute life-saver. @Mrs.Blue wrote a post on it if you want to look in the archives! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089619 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 15:05:38 +0000 Cole 2089619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: I think the pacifier is going to get added to the night time plan. I know she isn't airways hungry because often she will eat for one or two minutes and then just sleep. She's not great with it but it's with trying! </p> <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I am theoretically OK with a few minutes of crying and I try to let her fuss until she actually starts crying but she is one of those kids who really amps up almost immediately instead of just letting off some steam. She is very easy to placate until she started crying and than she just screams bloody murder which isn't exactly helpful with anyone's sleep right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089608 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 14:41:19 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2089608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: I think what changed is that we weaned at 2 (over the course of a few weeks) and we put him in a twin mattress/floor bed. Before he'd roll off his crib mattress and wake up on the floor and then want to nurse/co-sleep for the rest of the night. I think once he stopped waking himself up and figured out there was no momma milk he started putting himself back to sleep. He cried/fussed for a few weeks when we stopped letting him always climb in bed with us and started having him fall asleep without us in the room (this is still an issue a couple times a week but it's so far from those 5-6 MOTN wake-ups we used to have!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089595 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 14:26:05 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2089595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: I think you should do the post. There will be some who may criticize you, but there will also be others who appreciate you sharing your experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089552 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 13:29:10 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2089552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I actually used this book (12 hours by 12 weeks) at the recommendation of my good friend who is a pediatrician. I don't follow the book to a "T," but it helped me wean my son off night feedings and we're doing pretty well for 3.5 months. I keep wanting to write a post on our process but people can be so opinionated about sleep-training that I'm afraid I'll be attacked.<br /> @Cole: Does your baby take a pacifier? I started pushing the night feeds apart initially by offering a paci at first. It helped us space out the night feedings, and eventually he stopped waking up for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089538 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 13:11:35 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2089538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone told me they used the 12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks book. I've never read it, but I think you are supposed to stretch out LOs feeding during the day so that they are actually hungry enough to eat a lot. </p> <p>Feedings were hard for us during the day also because my DD was so distracted, then a little after 4 months, I stopped feeding her in the MOTN, and 2 days later, she started eating more during the day and didnt need the MOTN feeding. Are you totally opposed to any amount of crying? I found that my LO usually doesnt cry for more than 10 mins (she ususally stops around 8-9 mins), and if she cries longer than that, I go get her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089526 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:29:41 +0000 snowjewelz 2089526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: I like your way of thinking! We also don't want DD to cry more than usual just so she can sleep. But I'm alsp afraid she might be a naturally bad sleeper, or that I can't handle the exhaustion going onto 6-7 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089525 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:28:19 +0000 Cole 2089525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: Hope! Thank you! I am glad to hear your baby didn't do drowsy but awake either, it seems like a joke with her, she literally tries to catch your eye and gives the biggest smile ever and does her "pick me up" move! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089518 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:23:25 +0000 catomd00 2089518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our 4 month regression lasted 2 months where I did whatever it took (eg nursing and rocking) to get her back to sleep all night every night. It did go away on it's own though! I say just do what works and to make sure you get as much asleep as you can b going to bed early and drinking lots of coffee! It sucks but it will pass. Drowsy but awake didn't happen until around 6-7 months for us. My daughter is 12 months and I always nurse/rock her in the middle of the night and she now goes 7-7 with no wakeups (sometimes 1 atound 430-5 am). Personally, I think sleep is developmental and they will get there eventually. It's just a matter of if you can wait it out or not. It was worth it to me to suffer because I cannot handle any amount of crying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089514 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:15:35 +0000 californiadreams 2089514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: no problem, good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089511 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:12:49 +0000 Cole 2089511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you! You guys are a godsend!<br /> @snowjewelz: I am really thinking about trying the swing for nighttime sleep and I really like the idea of it for nap in her room. I am definitely going to do the rock and play tonight and I may switch to the swing. It seems to be the only place she can context l connect sleep cycles right now.</p> <p>@californiadreams: I am going to grab that today, thanks!</p> <p>@JoyfulKiwi: That's what I am afraid of! Up into two weeks ago she was waking around 11, 1, 4, 6 and then 8 for the day which sounds awful but if we could get back to that I could totally ride it out. This nonsense where I can't get a single full sleep cycle is getting dangerous though!</p> <p>@Mrs Green Grass: I like that idea too! I have one I will break out starting with her next nap, thanks for the reminder! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089506 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:03:57 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2089506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sound machine? I think this is about the time we got ours. Then when she wakes she may not freak out? You could also plan in another feed so that you are prepared for it and maybe it'll be more dream like and easier to get her down after. We fed at 11 and 3 for a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089504 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 12:01:05 +0000 californiadreams 2089504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: what happened at age 2? my LO is 27 months and we are still in survival land ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089493 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 11:34:42 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2089493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds a lot like my son's sleep at that age. I read &amp; tried the No Cry Sleep Solution but it was more exhausting for me to do that than to nurse back to sleep/co-bed. I had the same type of goals at that time, but I really just wanted to sleep as much as possible so we broke every rule and lived in survival land until he turned 2. </p> <p>I think crying is inevitable when trying to go against the baby's desire to be held/wake up. Parents just have to decide when &amp; how much they're comfortable with (we had to let our son fuss/cry when we changed his sleep habits at 2 years old). Do whatever feels right in your gut &amp; try not to overthink it (easier said, of course, those sleepless times are brutal!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089487 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 11:23:12 +0000 californiadreams 2089487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't have very specific advice, but i remember reading the No Cry Sleep Solution when LO was almost a year and wishing i read it when he born! So if you haven't checked out that book, i would give it a try. The essence was about making all the transitions gradually. I am planning to read it again before i have my next LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089484 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 11:12:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2089484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am totally following this! DD is 22 weeks and does not put herself to sleep either. We seem to be in the 12 week growth spurt but her sleep has been pretty bad. We start the night in crib but cosleep by 2nd wake up. </p> <p>I read that you can move the swing next to her bed, and gradually reduce the speed until she can sleep in it not moving? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-coming-up-with-a-no-cry-sleep-plan#post-2089436 Sat, 28 Feb 2015 09:50:52 +0000 Cole 2089436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in the thick of the 4 month sleep regression and everything I am reading suggests it doesn't go away on its own. I could use some help on how to meet our sleep goals so we can get back to at least a basic level of functioning!</p> <p>We cosleep at night, mostly in a pack and play but I pull her in bed after the what feels like the tenth wakeup. Naps are a hodge podge of swing, on my lap, baby wearing and the stroller (and rarely, the car seat.) She does not do drowsy but awake EVER. I have been a nanny for ten years so I stated trying on day 3. She just lays there for awhile and then screams bloody murder. No in between stage-- and patting, shushing and singing at any stage do nothing. Nursing or rocking are the sleep crutches of choice.</p> <p>My goals are:<br /> *crib as primary spot for nap, phase out swing.<br /> *bed time of 8:30, start process between 7:45 and 8. This currently works well but it does mean a 4th nap most days. I would go earlier but it means my husband would pretty much not see her all week. She sleeps until 7:30/8 most mornings unless she poops.<br /> *Dream feed between 10&amp;11<br /> *1-2 additional night wakeups. How on earth do I discourage the other ones? She doesn't even wake up for long, just wakes up, cries until I pick her up and either goes right back to sleep or nurses and goes right back to sleep. </p> <p>She is almost reverse cycling, she is so distracted during the day that feeding her is a nightmare. Also she won't reliably take a pacifiestarted! This is a nightmare! Help! </p>