https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 19:17:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120381 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 21:18:30 +0000 Emsmems 1120381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I've been to a single baby shower where there AREN'T LO's there! Maybe that's just how it is around here? But I would say ask if you are worried, but I'd lean towards taking her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120328 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 20:46:30 +0000 tequiero21 1120328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: how old is your lo? I'd totally ask the host! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120247 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:51:00 +0000 78h2o 1120247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: @Rubies: @Foodnerd81: @T.H.O.U.: @MrsMcD: @oliviaoblivia: @Mrs. Jacks: - Thank you all! I feel so much better having made a decision! Next question though... is it okay for me to bring my LO? Should I ask the hostess, or is it rude to even ask? I would pobably have to get a sitter for 7-8 hrs if I didn't bring her with me. The shower is at 12:30, so that would probably work well with her nap schedule.</p> <p>(ETA: If it makes a difference, the mom-to-be is really shy and does not like to be the center of attention at all... so I doubt she'd be worried about the baby upstaging her or something crazy like that... but if it would be rude or be a detract in some way, I won't even ask the host). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120213 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:30:01 +0000 78h2o 1120213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Yes, she's a sweetheart. I think I was totally overthinking this! I just didn't want to go if she'd feel awkward about me being there and not knowing her friends from home... but I think I'm being silly. I'm just going to go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120197 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:20:23 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1120197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She sounds like a really sweet girl who has been incredibly thoughtful all around :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120193 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:16:19 +0000 78h2o 1120193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: thanks - that's what I'm thinking!</p> <p>ETA: Thanks everyone! Decision made - I'm going to go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120187 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:12:44 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1120187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go. I think she was saying you don't have to go to be polite. If she went to all those events for me, I'd expect to do the same for her. Two hours isn't that far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120180 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:08:16 +0000 78h2o 1120180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is definitely more my husband's friend. I do sometimes email or text with her to arrange dinner plans because my husband is bad at it... sometimes when we are emailing to schedule things we will also chat about what's going on in our lives. She is nervous about being a mom, so I've talked to her at length about it (when they've come to our house for dinner)... I gave her our infant car seat system and a bunch of other gear.</p> <p>What she said about the shower was in person, but I still couldn't tell whether or not she wanted me there. My guess is that she probably doesn't care ether way and was trying to give me an out because she knows it's far... but maybe it would mean something to her if I made the effort?? I don't think she meant it in a mean way, but maybe that she would feel awkward for me not knowing anyone??</p> <p>@MrsMcD: I can ask if her husband is going home with her... that's a good idea.</p> <p>Oh, the shower is on Sunday, which kinda stinks, but I'm leaning towards going...I feel a little anxious about going to a party where I don't know anyone, but I'm sure I'll get over it and if I take LO, that would make things easier. Do you think it would be okay to take her? She will be 10 months, almost 11. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120171 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:01:21 +0000 deactivated_account 1120171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. I didn't even know how to respond to your poll. Is this girl your friend, or your husband's friend. (If she's your husband's friend, kudos to you for making her a bridesmaid.) As I was reading your post, I was thinking, yes, you must go. But if you aren't her direct friend (like, do you and her text message and chat amongst yourselves?), then I say its really up to you to interpret her text message. Is she being nice and just giving you an out? Do you think she really wants you there? If you feel comfortable going, just tell her you want to go. Why not have your husband drive and you your baby up there, then he can take the baby and go out with the mom-to-be's husband. Baby showers should be three hours max, anyhow. Let me know what you decide!!! I can interpret the text two different ways depending on the girl.... I hope its just nice and not mean-girl drama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120168 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 18:59:11 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1120168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would really consider going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120167 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 18:59:10 +0000 Foodnerd81 1120167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she really means what she said. I have friends who live far and I've invited them to showers but not expected them to come and told them so. Like, I would really love to see then but I know it would be hard and don't expect it. </p> <p>So unless you really want to, I would skip it if that's easier. I'd you visit after the baby you'll get more time to talk to her anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120166 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 18:58:29 +0000 Rubies 1120166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like she's understanding in that it might be a trek for you - not at all an obligatory invitation! I would try my best to attend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120165 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 18:58:21 +0000 PrincessBaby 1120165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably feel obligated to go if she had done all of that to support me:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-im-being-indecisive-would-you-go-to-this-baby-shower#post-1120162 Sun, 29 Sep 2013 18:55:31 +0000 78h2o 1120162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ETA: THANKS EVERYONE! I DECIDED TO GO!</p> <p>One of my husband's best friends is having a baby. She is a really sweet girl and was in our wedding party. She flew cross country with to be in our wedding that was planned in 3 months. She flew with my friends because her husband was unable to attend. Also, she came to my bridal shower, bachelorette party, and (1.5 year later) my baby shower. We go out with her and her husband a few times a year.</p> <p>Anyway, she invited me to her baby shower which is in her home town, 2 hrs away. I told her I'd received the invite and she replied, "Don't feel that you have to attend. It's really far away and you won't know anyone there... I just wanted to include you."</p> <p>I'm not sure if she wants me to go or just felt obligated to invite me? </p> <p>I would have to bring LO and it would be kind of a trek, but I've always felt it's important to show up for important life events and she did that for me. What do you think?? </p>