https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 01:58:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1010084 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 10:55:12 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1010084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, all! We made an offer to Nanny #1 last night. We are a bit worried that she may go with another family, but we decided to be aggressive in pursuing her. We'll see if she accepts. </p> <p>Thanks for all of the great input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1009887 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 10:12:20 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1009887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You both agree on Nanny #1. In a year you may want to make different child care arrangements. And Nanny #1 may work through her entire (speculated) pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1009885 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 10:11:56 +0000 mrskc 1009885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sounds like nanny 1 is a better fit and you like her more. I wouldn't worry too much about what can happen a year from now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1009829 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 09:58:54 +0000 hilsy85 1009829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nanny 1! EVen if she does get pregnant in a year, she'll probably continue to work at least til her 3rd trimester, so that's another 6 months--and a lot could change at that point for you guys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1009806 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 09:51:26 +0000 plantains 1009806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nanny 1. I think the fit is really inportant, and you have to go with who you really gel with. A year is just such a long time and anything could happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008863 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 20:39:38 +0000 regberadaisy 1008863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1! Definitely. Who's to say something won't come up with nanny #2 in a year? If you get a better vibe with her then make her an offer. If she negotiates then go up to a comfortable point for your family. If not then there is always nanny #2.</p> <p>Fwiw my mom is in her 60s and she watches my nephew ft since he was born. And she does all night wakings. He is now 15 months like my LO. My mom is tough as nails but she is def very tired by the end of the day. And oh yeah, she def does what she wants with him. Thankfully my SIL is very lax when it come to parenting, but if she is firm about something my mom will listen. Ie NOT baby lead weaning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008856 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 20:33:31 +0000 travelingnanny 1008856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I'm looking for a new nanny position I always chose the family that I will mesh the best with. Families that treat me as part of the family just end up working better in the long term. I would go with #1 because it seems like you would work better with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008392 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 16:27:48 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1008392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nanny 1. I had a similar situation where I was hired by a family when I was engaged. I got pregnant after working for them for over 1.5 years. They let me come back after having him and it worked out well for awhile. If you're open to that possibility, she may be as well... But that is likely 1+ year out at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008388 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 16:26:05 +0000 mrsjazz 1008388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go with nanny number 1 because you both seem to really like her and her style. Don't not choose the one you like most based on what ifs. </p> <p>Nanny 2 sounds like a fine runner up, actually sounds like our nanny who is old school (and older) but does all of our newer/alternative things, even when she thinks they're weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008373 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 16:14:43 +0000 citymouse 1008373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nanny Num 1! She is in tune w your child but isnt going to boss you around or insert herself. She can make recommendations if she notices anything that actually needs mentioning. I wouldnt worry about what will happen more than a year from now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008364 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 16:08:38 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1008364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Nanny #2's age would definitely not be a deciding factor, it's just a consideration. She seems totally on point and super energetic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008350 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 16:00:36 +0000 heffalump 1008350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously this is your decision... But I don't think older has to be a bad thing. My mom is 63 and nannies for my 9 month old niece, has been doing it for 6 months. She also watches my 2 year old when I get a migraine, which is pretty often. So she's running after a crawler and toddler and still has energy at the end of the day. And she takes a daily pic of my niece for my sil. </p> <p>That being said, I'd go with my gut and take nanny #1. But I wouldn't not take someone just because they're older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008339 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:53:51 +0000 mrbee 1008339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't focus too much on more than one year out! So much can change...</p> <p>Good luck!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008330 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:49:36 +0000 Espion 1008330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is a tough one. I would choose the one that makes you most comfortable. It also depends on how much you'd think #2 would try to supercede your wishes. And make sure your contract has a reasonable advance notice for quitting...just in case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008313 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:42:33 +0000 aprk 1008313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pick the one who is best for your family now. Who knows what the future will hold. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008312 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:42:32 +0000 loveisstrange 1008312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nanny 1. You guys liked her, your LO liked her, she has similar views and would follow your beliefs in helping you raise your child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-choose-a-nanny-long#post-1008308 Sun, 11 Aug 2013 15:38:57 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1008308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, all. DH and I have narrowed down our finalists for a babysitter/nanny (or whatever you want to call it), and we would love some insight from others. The two candidates are very different. I think we both lean towards one, but I think we don't believe it's for the right reasons (well, I think it might not be for the right reason). Below is a pros and cons list for both. </p> <p>Nanny #1<br /> Pros<br /> -Young (34 - trust me when I tell you this is young. Most of the women I interviewed were 50 and older). She will be able to keep up with a toddler and young child.<br /> -Tech savvy. She's quick on the e-mail and would probably text and send pics throughout the day<br /> -We just really liked her as a person. We seemed to really click with her, and both got a really good vibe from her.<br /> -LO seemed to like her, and Nanny #1 seemed natural with her.<br /> -College educated (not a necessity or requirement, but it is nice)<br /> -I liked her stories about impacting the values of her charges (she told a few good ones)<br /> -We think she will be more open and into some of our non-traditional/alternative newer ideas on childcare (e.g., BLW)</p> <p>Cons<br /> -She seem to be “in demand”. We may need to compete with other families to get her.<br /> -She is young and will have a new husband as of this coming weekend. This is our biggest concern with her. I feel horrible writing this, but we assume that it is a distinct possibility that 6 months to a year from now she could possibly come to us and say she's pregnant. What would we do then? We have no local family help, and we both have jobs that are either demanding and/or may require travel from time to time, so we need someone who will really be flexible and available for our family. At the same time this is all speculation by us.<br /> -Since she's in demand, will she be okay with our salary (well within market but on the lower end)? </p> <p>Nanny #2 </p> <p>Pros<br /> -has lots of experience (over 30 years) and is very observant of children. She made some great observations about LO and just seems to have great insight about babies and kids.<br /> -She seems very into being a nanny, and seems to have the time, availability and flexibility that we'll need.<br /> -She's seems like the fun, grandmother type.<br /> -LO liked her, too. </p> <p>Cons<br /> -She’s older. About 60 years old. We wonder if she will she be able to get up and after a toddler. She seems spritely and vivacious now, but what about a few years from now? Based on just our observations, we really think LO is going to be pretty active girl.<br /> -Like other older nannies does not seem to be up on the latest about childcare. For example, on her second round interview, she suggested we get crib bumpers for LO's crib (actually after an incident last night, we might consider it). While she claims will listen to us, we think she will definitely insert her opinion about what she thinks we need. That's not a bad thing, but I hope that I don't feel like it's like having my mother around. :) </p> <p>Thoughts? Who would you choose? Is it horrible to speculate about Nanny #1's reproductive plans and to take that into consideration? </p>