https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 09:49:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-2567 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 07:53:17 +0000 LatteLove 2567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! This was so helpful. I brought her lunch on the second day her husband went back to work (stayed for 30 min or so) and then the next week brought a meal and held the baby while they ate, then went home. Her husband's been amazing at keeping up the house so when I got there there were no dishes in the sink, laundry or cleaning to be done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-1058 Sun, 25 Sep 2011 15:04:39 +0000 Coastinganon 1058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>there is a really great site that we use at our church to set up meal delivery...www.mealbaby.com. If you know the email addresses of friends and family in the area, and can ask your friend what would be the most convenient for them day-wise, it is a great way to help provide for them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-998 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 22:36:21 +0000 Joanlindsay 998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For sure call or text first. I had a baby on Friday and there are days I would be mortified if someone dropped by. Also be okay if she says no to help. One friend of ours won't quit calling to help, when in all honesty all we really want is time together as our new little family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-974 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 14:51:03 +0000 mommacommaphd 974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree food was crucial. I wasn't up for cooking for weeks and weeks, so we lived on the things people brought.</p> <p>If you do go to visit, keep it short. I had a friend come to see the baby and when I said, "Oh, well. It was nice seeing you, I have to nurse the baby now." Instead of leaving, she said, "Oh, go ahead, I don't mind." Um, get the hint and leave!</p> <p>So I always show up with food, ask what I can do (like you said- mind baby while you shower, walk your dog, take out the trash, etc.), compliment them on the cute baby, and leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-907 Fri, 23 Sep 2011 08:33:36 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The thing I love the most as a new mom is food. Good home cooked meals. She will definitely appreciate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-838 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 17:04:47 +0000 Red 838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really appreciated it when people brought healthy prepared meals that I could heat up (just make you sure you ask about allergies). One of my friends picked up groceries for me and another bought me a months worth of laundry service (which I loved). I also love what the ladies above suggested about taking out the trash, holding the baby while she showers, folding laundry, etc during the visit. </p> <p>One thing though, don't overstay your visit. Having guests (even helpful ones) can be tiring for a new mom :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-575 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 17:50:08 +0000 mrs. wagon 575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would offer to drop everything off and also offer to do any housework she might need done... I would stay away from sticking around, just in case she feels the pressure to entertain or talk. And I did crave healthy foods after my rough labor and post-delivery complications, but the not-so-healthy foods (like the entire PAN of tiramisu my friend made for us!) were GREAT for visitors to munch on!! As well as the grandparents. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-540 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 15:19:17 +0000 momentspassslow 540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would text and offer two times for a visit "I have some things to drop off - I could come over around 5pm Thurs or 7pm Fri - which is better for you?"<br /> When you get there - ask her if she needs to shower, or simply go to the bathroom! Or if SHE wants to do the dishes/laundry and you can hold the baby. For me I didn't like when people did my dishes, cleaned my house etc, but I liked being able to do the things I wanted while someone watched the baby. I felt like I wasn't neglecting the baby and that I actually accomplished something.<br /> Also another time in a week or so - "I am going to the drug store to get myself xxx - can I pick you up xxx" - the more specific you are they more likely to say yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-539 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 15:14:19 +0000 LazyLightning 539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend had a rough delivery too, and she told me the best thing was when people brought her HEALTHY food. She loves sweets and was appreciative when people brought cookies and baked goods, but she told me it was sure hard to lose the pregnancy weight with so much heavy food around. So fruits, veggie trays, things she can snack on that are healthy might be appreciated by your friend.</p> <p>I tended to tidy things in my friend's house for her too -- or take out the trash with me when I left. I never asked, I just did it, and she'd tell me she appreciated it. I guess it depends on the friend and whether she'd be OK with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-help-a-new-mommy#post-530 Wed, 21 Sep 2011 14:53:36 +0000 LatteLove 530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my good friends had her first baby on Friday night. (It was a rough labor, and I'm sure it will take her a while to recover) We visited them for a little while on Saturday afternoon in the hospital. They got home Monday afternoon and I want to go back and see her....<br /> I want to be as helpful as possible (and admittedly, I want to love on their baby as much as possible), but I also don't want to be too overbearing, so I'm wondering if some of you moms can weigh on what would be helpful and what is too much.</p> <p>I make her pumpkin bread and chocolate covered strawberries and a casserole and I'd like to drop it off - should I ask if I can stop by and visit? do the dishes/laundry? Or should I just drop off the stuff and not stay?<br /> I don't want to get in their way, but I also know that sometimes people don't ask for help for practical things like cleaning.</p> <p>What do you guys think? </p>