https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 16:46:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2399132 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 20:04:16 +0000 Zbug 2399132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of us stays with our toddler until she falls asleep. Not necessarily ideal, but it means she sleeps in her own bed without drama. I'm sure the day will come when she won't want me in there anymore, and I will probably be sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2399083 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:28:54 +0000 Orchid 2399083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe lie with her until she falls asleep and then progressively move closer and closer to door, until she is ok to go to sleep without you there?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2399059 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:08:44 +0000 NovBaby1112 2399059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we finally got our 3 year old out of our bed by using all of the things you mentioned- cool nightlight, sheets, etc. but we also use bribes/threats (if she gets out of her room more than once then I shut the door and she likes to sleep with it open, and she gets no TV shows the next day if she gets out of her room) this seems to work really well for her. We just told her this is the new way of things and we don't make any exceptions now bc we quickly learned if you do something once, kids remember. Oh and I also gave her one of my shirts to sleep with and she can hug it if she gets lonely, which she really likes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2399042 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 18:56:44 +0000 GreenThumb 2399042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are also going through this with our 2.5 year old. Started out as just her coming in our bed early morning, then it was halfway through the night, then she had one cold, then we were traveling (she usually sleeps with us away from home), then another cold... weeks and weeks went by and she was in our bed almost the whole night. It was ridiculous! She never really has trouble going to sleep in her own bed initially, but she will get up and freak out if she can't climb in with us. So we agreed that DH brings her back whenever she gets up (which is down to once a night after two weeks now). She cries like crazy, but usually falls back asleep in her own bed within 10 minutes. We are all sleeping much better although I would still call it a work in progress. I am too much of a softy to bring her back in myself - she knows I will probably crawl in bed with her, or bring her back into our room if she cries long enough. DH is tougher and is more unsettled when she sleeps with us, so it has become his job to put her in bed :wink: . Good luck! You probably just need to bit the bullet and break the habit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398946 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 17:29:22 +0000 Kemma 2398946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about compromising with a floor bed in your bedroom? She can be in your room but not in your bed </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398943 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 17:27:21 +0000 Golden 2398943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with Mrs Lion. This is the rule, it's bedtime. She needs to sleep in her bed. Keep bringing her back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398917 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 17:10:06 +0000 hilsy85 2398917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: i think super nanny recommends the silent return--you just keep bringing them back to their bed, no talking or anything. We have only have to do it a handful of times when we first switched to a toddler bed. Ugh sleep issues when they're older suck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398879 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:47:55 +0000 Jess1483 2398879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: stack two? DS1 climbed it once, got my angry face, and hadn't tried again. I think you could take the second down after a week of no trouble at bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398877 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:47:25 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2398877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: this is probably not the popular answer but we turned our sons doorknob around and lock it at night. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398874 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:46:11 +0000 LuLu Mom 2398874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: This was us, she started sleeping with us when I was pregnant, we are about 16 months in now....it has gotten worse not better! </p> <p>@Jess1483: She would just climb over it, we tried that after she started climbing out of her crib to keep her from wondering the halls. I could try it again to see if she would "respect" it as a barrier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398873 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:44:11 +0000 Jess1483 2398873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby gate on the door? It's rough, but may be the path right now if bribery isn't working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398865 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:39:45 +0000 Raindrop 2398865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is us right now. LO 1 was fine in his own room till LO 2 was born, then LO 1 wanted to hang out with us and sleep with us, we probably should have nipped it in the bud then. </p> <p>Now that LO 2 is sleeping on his own... LO 1 still sleeps with us most nights. Personally we don't mind. We actually think he will probably grow out of it or hopefully sleeps with us less nights a week till none eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398862 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:38:54 +0000 LuLu Mom 2398862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: Yeah we've tried this but she just gets out of bed and comes out? I don't know how to get her to stay in her bed once we put her in there. Last night I put her back in her bed 11 times before giving in and saying "FINE LAY DOWN ON THE COUCH" it was 10 o'clock! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2398855 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:36:55 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2398855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It might be a "this is the rule, I'm sorry you are sad. We love you and we will see you in the morning" kind of situation. There may be tears but she's old enough at 3 to understand. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-me-im-desperate#post-2397145 Wed, 23 Dec 2015 16:30:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 2397145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We fell into a bad habit that we started letting our 3 year old sleep with us, every night. This was never our intention, we've never been co sleepers. How do we break her of this? Every time we try to get her to sleep in her room she freaks out causing bedtime to be torture instead of calm. </p> <p>Some things we've tried and failed: new special Sofia blanket, Doc McStuffins doll, night light, princess hologram on ceiling. We read books/say prayer/sing songs before bed and she's fine, but as soon as we try to shut light off/leave she freaks out. </p>