https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 06:23:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-648241 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 15:49:44 +0000 Cole 648241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have done pretty much the same thing as @brownie, if they aren't cooperating with the general routine I let them know that I will come back in a few minutes when they are ready. The child I usually used this tactic with loved the bedtime routine so usually she would play for a minute or two and then call out for me to come back and we would try again. Her parents were on board with cio but I try to avoid it so we would only go to that if she really wasn't cooperating. It didn't take too long for her to get the picture that if she laid nicely then I would rub her back and sit with her-- but we did have to go through the process again every few weeks/months when she would test the boundaries. </p> <p>As far as bedtime goes, try tracking her sleep for a few days and watch for a pattern (I would record when that window is even if you miss it) then try starting the routine 15-20 minutes earlier. I have read that it should take about 10-15 minutes for a person's brain to relax enough for them to go to sleep, if it takes less time they probably should be going to bed earlier. I am always shocked at how kids seem wide awake and then BAM! they are ready for bed right now. It takes awhile to figure them out but it is worth it! </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-648198 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 15:07:06 +0000 MamaCate 648198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@red_seattle: She is at one nap, has been since 12 months. It is sometimes up to 2 hours at daycare but yesterday was only an hour for us. Maybe I should move bedtime back but she was clearly tired and said she wanted to nurse. I struggle because the "drowsy but awake" window is about 10 seconds so she goes from wide awake to passed out when i rock her. She is also waking up at 5:30 am for the past week after going down between 7-7:30. Would you move bedtime back?</p> <p>@brownie: thanks so much for this. it is helpful to have a back up plan depending on how our evening goes today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647465 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 23:21:29 +0000 lemondrop 647465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Going to bed was hell for us for a while until my grandparents gave us the Scout dog (Leap Frog)- we let him play with only that and he falls asleep before very long. He loves to push the buttons and it plays soothing music, it works great on those nights that he isn't quite ready to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647456 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 23:07:55 +0000 brownie 647456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: He will go to sleep many times we have done this. But most often, we will go in after we feel it is appropriate. We started with shorter intervals and extended them to 15 minutes now. He will cry the whole time sometimes and sometimes he will cry off and on. He isn't hurting or in need of anything, he is angry that he doesn't get his way. If his cry changes at all, we go in. </p> <p>Usually we start the sleep process over again so, the cuddles and loves. The first time we did it it took a few times (like 3) but now it doesn't take any time at all. The choice is often enough.</p> <p>Had to do it tonight because he wouldn't go to sleep or take no as an answer. I told him if he got off the bed, he would go to sleep in his room. I left him in there for 7 minutes and we went back to our room and he laid down and fell asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647445 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 23:00:25 +0000 red_seattle 647445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is she taking 1 nap or 2? It kind of sounds like she's just not sleepy enough, and if she's napping later than she needs to, that could throw things off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647396 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 22:07:30 +0000 SAHM0811 647396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I patted my DD to sleep for almost an hour the other night! She kept wanting to nurse, but I kept saying no and laying her back down. Luckily she was sleepy and not crying, but I did do it for about an hour.... I was so glad when she went down for good. I'm thinking if we stick to our guns, it'll get better and better each night... hope this phase goes quick for us all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647395 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 22:07:27 +0000 MamaCate 647395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: Glad I am not the only one--misery loves company! I just got LO down after letting her fuss for about 5 minutes, then going back in and rocking her. I ended up nursing her and she passed out. I am not sure what tomorrow will bring though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647393 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 22:06:38 +0000 MamaCate 647393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Thanks for the feedback. Tell me more about how you do it--if LO is playing, you leave, but how do you decide when to go back in? Is it after he cries for 10 minutes? Does he ever go to sleep on his own? How long is the whole process usually for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647388 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 21:59:17 +0000 yin 647388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been having similar issues with my LO this week. I am currently in his room &amp; he cannot fall asleep. I'm starting to get desperate (hence why I'm in the room waiting for him to fall asleep). I'm just hoping it's a phase that will end soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647384 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 21:53:09 +0000 brownie 647384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You don't have to do complete cry it out. We let him "play" in his room and we leave. He gets the choice of play alone or sleep with us. He chooses to play, we choose to let him, he chooses to cry for 10 min. We go in and try again. We have been doing this since about 12 months. More now that he's almost 2. We say no nursing and if he makes a big deal out of it he gets to sleep in his room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-please-toddler-doesnt-want-to-rock-to-sleep-anymore#post-647378 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 21:29:02 +0000 MamaCate 647378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So LO is now 15 months and we have been trying to get her down for over 45 minutes. We had a nice routine of nursing then rocking to sleep which has been working great. The last few days she has refused nursing and wants to go lie down in bed. (We have a floor bed.) So I have tried that but she then wants to play, and will lie down for a second then wander around. The last few nights we have tried that and then ended up rocking to sleep in the chair. But tonight no go!</p> <p>I know at daycare they put them on their cots asleep and then pat them, so I have tried that and tried to encourage her to come lie down so I can pat her, but no luck.</p> <p>We are really not comfortable with CIO but kind of at a loss as to how to proceed. Everything was working so well until now. DH is in there now and there are intermittent cries. She is usually a pretty good sleeper....sigh....</p> <p>Any advice?? </p>