https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 18 Jun 2026 19:10:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2610116 Wed, 24 Aug 2016 16:11:23 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2610116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JLC53: check out the book the no cry sleep solution. I really like her methods. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2609118 Tue, 23 Aug 2016 11:59:53 +0000 JLC53 2609118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, thank you all for your response...</p> <p>DH is not on board with sleep training with any sort of CIO method... I don't feel that way, but I do feel we both need to be on board or in the thick of it I feel I will give up without DH's support. I need that sounding board telling me I am doing the correct thing. DS is just 6 months...</p> <p>After our long talk last night this is our plan for the next few weeks until after vacation the first week in October and at that time we will re address sleep training. This weekend we will transition him to sleep sack, keep everything else the same at bed time. After vacation we will move bottle to the beginning of bedtime. Then he will be around 8 months we will readdress sleep training.</p> <p>I want to do it now, to just get it over with, but without DH on board, he feels he is just too little to let CIO, I feel I will fail and that is the last thing I want to do.</p> <p>Any sleep methods with that are not CIO??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608644 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 18:29:08 +0000 AnnabelleG 2608644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the hardest thing, I'm sorry you're dealing with this! Our baby was a horrible sleeper from day one, so at 6m we hired a sleep doula to get us all in shape.<br /> First, we got him on a strict nap/feeding schedule to dissociate eating and sleeping and make sure his naps were totally protected and he wasn't getting overtired. Darkened his room completely, no more coming into our bed. we ended up with a kind of "check and console" method because 100% CIO didn't feel good to me. The research shows any of the methods work as long as you're doing it and not flip flopping. It also helped me to see crying as giving him a chance to work it out on his own, rather than letting him "give up" or pass out from exhaustion. We also didn't let him cry for naps, so that he could get as much day sleep as possible. That way he wouldn't be super overtired at night.</p> <p>You didn't create a monster, sleep is just super hard. It gets better, and there will be hiccups along the way, and so much you can't control! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608576 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 15:39:19 +0000 jape14 2608576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Trying to condense a novel from previous posts here --</p> <p>What sleep method worked best for you? We did Ferber basically by the book, right at 4 months. </p> <p>How did you implement? We also noticed (on a long overnight car trip) that he was starting to use a lovey to self-soothe, so it seemed like a good time to try. Basically, he was crying even through our attempts to soothe, so we figured we might as well try Ferber. For us, it worked in about 3 nights - the first night there was about 10-15 minutes of crying during the first hour of the night, but otherwise he never got past the first "interval" for checks. DH was really strict about it - if he calmed down, we restarted the timer. I have to say that DS is generally pretty easy-going and not much of a crier, so it wasn't too challenging. The first three nights I went out and walked the dog while DH manned the checks and monitor. If you have any anxiety I definitely recommend having your DH take over for a bit while you get out of the house or take a bath or something.</p> <p>How did you stop baby from falling asleep on bottle to actually fall asleep on own? The key for us was moving the feeding portion of the bedtime routine just slightly earlier - so, I would nurse him, then we'd put him in his sleep sack (enough to wake him up even if he'd dozed off), then sing a song (same song every night to create routine), turn on white noise and put in crib. We also gave him a lovey which really worked for soothing. The technical way we did it is we started pairing a song (we picked Sweet Baby James by James Taylor - definitely doesn't have to be a lullaby) with the bedtime feeding - just singing the same song over and over while I nursed him, toward the end of the session when he was getting drowsy. Over time, he started associating the song with sleep, and we were able to shift the song back so that our routine ended up being: change diaper, feed, sleep sack, down in crib, give him his lovey, sing song, go to sleep. We sing it before naps, too, and also have played it in the car on long car rides to get him to fall asleep. The key is to pair the cue you want to associate with sleep (e.g., a song) with the existing sleep cue (i.e., feeding) and then gradually separate them. It's basically classical conditioning if you remember that from intro psych! (I have a phd in psychology so this was the way that made the most sense to me...)</p> <p>Did you tackle nap and nighttime at the same time? We never trained for naps, but as soon as he was able to fall asleep on his own for nighttime, he was able to fall asleep on his own for naps. (Like, within the same week.) His naps didn't lengthen out until he was solidly on two naps around 8-9 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608563 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 15:22:16 +0000 gingerbebe 2608563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your son is getting plenty to eat. I would do bottle first and then PJs and lullaby and then I would pick a sleep training method based on his personality. My first is super emotional and stubborn so gentle methods where we went back in just made him pissed and hysterical. So we did extinction CIO with him after we tried all the shush pat or pick up put down methods. We did naps and night sleep at the same time. </p> <p>I would just make sure he's not teething or something. We introduced a lovey at 4 months so he could self soothe and by 6 months when he was teething he started gnawing on his lovey to ease his gums. Between that and Motrin he did pretty well at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608527 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 14:41:55 +0000 JLC53 2608527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: He hasn't had a bottle in about 1 1/2 months at night... Honestly what made me stop was he wasn't finishing them if I tried to give him one. Also, he was sleeping so well through the entire night more time then not, until about 2 weeks ago. I really don't want to go backwards and start bottles in the middle of the night again... I honestly don't think he needs them. He is eating 30oz of formula during the day and 2 meals of solids... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608520 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 14:37:32 +0000 Kemma 2608520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JLC53: is it possible that your LO is waking from hunger in the night? Both my babies needed a night feed till at least twelve months old and there is a whole lots of growth and development that goes on in the first year!</p> <p>And you haven't created a monster and don't let anybody make you feel bad about how your baby sleeps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608503 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 14:22:28 +0000 BabyTsMom 2608503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What sleep method worked best for you? We did a modified Ferber, with extended periods between checks. So we checked at something like 3, 5, 10, 15 minutes.</p> <p>How did you implement? see above.</p> <p>How did you stop baby from falling asleep on bottle to actually fall asleep on own. I would definitely move the bottle up in your bedtime routine. So I'd do bottle, bath, books/songs, etc. This will also help when you start brushing LO's teeth before bedtime (no point in brushing before if he's going to fall asleep on the bottle later).</p> <p>Did you tackle nap and nighttime at the same time? We did nighttime, then naps about two weeks later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608457 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 13:24:21 +0000 erinbaderin 2608457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained my son at 5 months. I had been nursing him to sleep so we moved his dinner earlier - I would nurse him and then we'd do bath/jammies/stories, then put him in his crib awake. The method we used was basically CIO. One of us stayed in the room the whole night for 3 nights. On night 1 we could talk to him, saying "it's ok, it's time to go to sleep, I love you", etc. We were supposed to talk for as long as he was crying. Repeat during any wake ups. Night 2 no talking, just shushing - whenever he was crying we were shushing him at the same volume as the crying. Night 3 intermittent shushing. We also weren't ready to stop feeding him in the night so we did a dream feed at 10pm and I nursed him at 4 if he woke up. It worked amazingly well, but it was really really hard. We didn't do naps - the sleep doula told us that nighttime sleep and nap sleep weren't connected for a baby and we couldn't deal with it so we kept rocking him to sleep for naps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-sleep-training#post-2608447 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 13:12:35 +0000 JLC53 2608447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I have created a monster. My guy has been a very good sleeper until about 2 weeks ago. He is 6 months old. I have decided that we are going to sleep train over labor day weekend. I just can't decided what method or how to go about it. </p> <p>We have a good night time routine now since about 3 months old. Never have a problem getting my guy to sleep. We head up to bed at 7pm change to PJs, put lullabies on, give bottle. On bath nights we start the routine at 6:45 and in the bath tub. 9 out of 10 times he falls asleep on bottle. I lay him down in crib asleep. He was sleeping great since he was 4 months old, with 1 night wake up maybe once a week. Now we are up every night, I was getting him to fall back asleep by just popping the pacifier in. That was working for a few weeks. Now the past 2 weeks that isn't working anymore. I have to pick him back up and it take about an hour for him to get back to sleep. Some nights that will be it, but others he will continuously wake up...</p> <p>A few questions... </p> <p>What sleep method worked best for you?<br /> How did you implement?<br /> How did you stop baby from falling asleep on bottle to actually fall asleep on own.<br /> Did you tackle nap and nighttime at the same time?</p> <p>Naps are another story because I work full time and my guy goes to daycare, so I think naps are just going to be what they are...</p> <p>I </p>