https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 23:30:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262590 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:26:49 +0000 tlcbaby 2262590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: A little bit, but to be honest I don't know how to talk to a two year old about his behavior. This is new territory for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262587 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:26:21 +0000 tlcbaby 2262587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: It's just that it is a small home and even if he doesn't sleep she can't get him to stay quiet so he isn't disrupting the other kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262583 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:25:31 +0000 tlcbaby 2262583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Thanks, I am going to read these! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262582 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:24:47 +0000 tlcbaby 2262582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: She already had to do this. :) At first he was on a mat in the living room with everyone else and now he goes in his pack n play in a separate room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262570 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:19:04 +0000 MamaCate 2262570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Interesting reading! I use behavior charts only to reward positive behavior rather than the kind of color chart described in the first link. I can see how the positive/negative issue is a problem, but I wonder about only earning stars/stickers toward a goal. Once you earn a star, you can't lose it. A lot of the way we implement them is similar to how she describes the goal sheets as a an alternative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262566 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:15:09 +0000 BandDmommy 2262566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like he is testing his limits. Have you talked to him about his behavior? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262561 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:11:14 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2262561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been reading more and more about the negative emotional impacts of a behavior chart. </p> <p><a href="http://teachinginprogress.blogspot.com/2012/10/why-i-will-never-use-behavior-chart.html?m=1" rel="nofollow">http://teachinginprogress.blogspot.com/2012/10/why-i-will-never-use-behavior-chart.html?m=1</a></p> <p><a href="http://beyondthestoplight.com/2013/08/31/a-letter-to-teachers-on-the-use-of-stoplights-in-the-classroom/" rel="nofollow">http://beyondthestoplight.com/2013/08/31/a-letter-to-teachers-on-the-use-of-stoplights-in-the-classroom/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262555 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:04:02 +0000 Mamaof2 2262555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: is it ONLY at nap time? If so, can you just have her forgo the nap and let him do something else? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262543 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:55:08 +0000 brownie 2262543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting have you discussed how you put him down so she can mimic it?</p> <p>Otherwise in my experience when my son was drastically different at daycare than at home, it was a daycare issue. I believe he was being bullied and believed that's what you do at that school. We had none of the issues at another school. So we did move him as soon as we could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262541 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:52:26 +0000 kiddosc 2262541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: Is he in a room with all the other kids? Would it be possible for her to put his pack and play in another room? It may be more similar to his home situation then, where he's goes to a separate location, alone to nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262528 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:35:25 +0000 tlcbaby 2262528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: I think it is only at nap time. At home he always naps so it isn't really an issue. She doesn't force him to nap, but she does have "quite time" where they can lay down and watch am movie if they don't want to nap, but he won't be quiet. I think the behavior chart might be the way to go. I'll talk with her this afternoon about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262527 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:33:45 +0000 tlcbaby 2262527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I think she just finally gets him out of the pack n play and then has to get all the other kids back to sleep when he wakes them up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262523 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:30:00 +0000 MamaCate 2262523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: Not all kids respond well to timeout and it might be that your son is one of those or it might be a result of how they implement timeout. If he recently started daycare, he may be testing limits or responding to differences between how you and the caregiver handle things. The discipline approach should be a collaboration between you and your provider. </p> <p>Is the problem just nap time or are there other behavior issues? What would you do if he did refuse to nap at home? You want to come up with a strategy you are comfortable with for consistency.</p> <p>For that age, my two ideas would be using a behavior chart to promote the desired behavior (nap or lie quietly during nap) with something special he can earn, or losing privileges. At that age, my daughter did well with a behavior chart for teeth brushing (and earned an extra book at bedtime) and the idea that she would lose TV if she could not stay in her room until her toddler clock told her to get up in the morning. Just some examples... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262518 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:26:52 +0000 Truth Bombs 2262518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tlcbaby: my LO turned two last fall so she's a bit older but there are younger kids in her class and they all seem to understand the concept. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262517 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:26:34 +0000 regberadaisy 2262517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you can talk with her about what you do at nap time and leading up to calm him down for nap time?</p> <p>What does she do when he's screaming? She just lets him?! LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262515 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:25:48 +0000 tlcbaby 2262515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: How old is she? I like this idea and I think his babysitter would be open to it. He just turned two in June. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262513 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:25:09 +0000 tlcbaby 2262513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: It seems like it is mostly just nap time. He doesn't want to nap and wants to wake the other kids up so he screams until they all wake up, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262512 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:24:10 +0000 Truth Bombs 2262512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about a behavior chart? Our day care has one in my daughters class and the kids each have a little clothes pin with their name on it. If they are naughty during the week they move down the chart (but they can move back up with especially good behavior). On Friday whoever was good all week gets to pick something from the treasure box. This seems to be a pretty good motivator for my daughter. Though I will caution it doesn't seem to work as well for the couple "problem children" in her class. They don't seem to care about behaving well/rewards, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262510 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:23:25 +0000 regberadaisy 2262510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it just nap time when he's disruptive? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-with-daycare-discipline#post-2262487 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 11:50:45 +0000 tlcbaby 2262487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HELLLP! </p> <p>First of all, I haven't been here in FOREVER, but my two year old son is now in part-time daycare so I have a little time to be with my Hellobee mamas again. :) Hence the reason for my question, though...</p> <p>At home, he is pretty well behaved and naps like a champ. At daycare, he seems to be the problem child. It is an in-home daycare with only a few other kids. When nap time rolls around he screams and tries to wake the other kids up. He doesn't care about going to timeout, he just does what he wants to do and then tells his babysitter "Now I go to timeout."</p> <p>She is asking for other discipline options and I honestly don't know what to tell her. I hate that he is so disruptive, but I don't see that from him at home so we don't usually have a lot of discipline issues.</p> <p>Any suggestions??? </p>