https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 04:11:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192938 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 19:29:36 +0000 BananaPancakes 1192938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I've asked for friends' help in moving since I left college. And I've never been asked by friends to help them move. Everyone hires people around here, at least for furniture. Family sometimes helps with the smaller items. I'd be annoyed if I were you, @oliviaoblivia. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192892 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 18:51:36 +0000 Ree723 1192892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, if this guy is 45 years old, able to purchase a million dollar house, and hasn't even made time yet to meet your daughter, then he would definitely be getting the boot from me! Family time is far too precious to sacrifice it for someone who is clearly not that close to your family. If it was a sibling, that's one thing, an acquaintance, no. </p> <p>Why does this guy even want to move himself?! Our last few moves have been with professional movers packing, moving, and unpacking for us - there is no way in the world I would ever want to do it again myself at this stage in my life. Your DH definitely needs to tell this guy sorry but no. The back injury alone is a good enough reason to say no, factor that in with encroaching upon valuable family time and there is more than sufficient justification to not help out. If this guy gets angry, so be it. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192870 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 18:39:46 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1192870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: I think it's a stage of life thing too. I helped tons of people move in college and grad school but now I feel like we're too old for that sort of thing. Our last move only cost $500 for two guys and the truck for an entire day. Worth it to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192847 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 18:28:48 +0000 chopsuey 1192847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tell them no! He can hire movers :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192735 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 16:59:20 +0000 LovelyPlum 1192735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've helped friends move before. I do wonder if it's regional, because everyone I know asks friends for help for most of the stuff, even if they hire movers to handle the really heavy stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192715 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 16:27:07 +0000 ElbieKay 1192715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that he should hire movers. I hate moving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192672 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 15:20:46 +0000 Sammyfab 1192672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um ya....he can afford to hire movers.</p> <p>I don't think asking friends to help you move is a regional thing but more of an age/stage of life thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192667 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 15:16:08 +0000 StbHisMrs 1192667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nevermind, already stated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192666 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 15:16:00 +0000 lamariniere 1192666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the situation. If you are a student/young adult with limited income, ask friends and reward them well with beer and pizza. However, if you can afford to pay for movers, do it. Last year my BIL, who is over 30 and very financially secure, asked my husband, 65-yr-old FIL and a few of his friends to help move. I was annoyed by it. I don't know anyone who likes helping other people move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192661 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 15:13:56 +0000 ShootingStar 1192661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I live in Boston. Well, outside of it now. It cost me $700 to move a 2 bedroom apartment in the city to a 4 floor townhouse an hour away. And I felt like I got ripped off. The friend in question probably could've spent more like $300-$500 on her move. And she can definitely afford it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192660 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 15:13:42 +0000 sunny 1192660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Holy moly! I live in the Seattle area and I've always paid about $90/hr for 2 men and a big moving truck (17' I want to say). The company is licensed, bonded and insured. We packed up everything ourselves so when we moved a 2bdrm apartment to our house, it cost around $400. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192622 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 14:51:36 +0000 Anagram 1192622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: just curious, where do you live? Here, moving from a 1 bedroom to a 2 bedroom about a mile away was going to cost us 2000 dollars. Needless to say, we had a friend help and moved ourselves. I was 9 months pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192606 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 14:42:38 +0000 ShootingStar 1192606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, I got annoyed with someone a few weeks ago who asked DH to help them move. I feel like unless you're a poor college, or shortly post-college student then you should be hiring real movers. Not asking friends to give up their weekend time to carry around your heavy furniture because you're too cheap. The cost of moving should be factored into the decision. If you can't spend a few hundred dollars on movers, then maybe you should be waiting to move. (In my opinion) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192442 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 12:54:22 +0000 Smurfette 1192442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he can afford that house then hire movers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192441 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 12:53:20 +0000 looch 1192441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have used movers the last 15 years, I can not fathom asking people to carry my heavy furniture carefully. Plus, I have a gajillion things to do on the weekend and its our time, even if I want to just chill and do nothing.</p> <p>Pizza and beer for a day of my time? No thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192430 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 12:42:36 +0000 Foodnerd81 1192430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think once you reach a certain age and financial status, you should just pay the movers. For some things, I can see wanting to move yourself and ask a really close friend for help. Or if someone is struggling, sure. But in general I feel we are at an age where you should hire someone. They are so much faster anyway! </p> <p>However I think a bad back means you should automatically get out of it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192425 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 12:38:33 +0000 birdofafeather 1192425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, yeah, he can get movers. We totally help friends move (some are moving today and everyone is pitching in) but we're talking about a small apartment to a townhome and the wife is pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192365 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 11:36:21 +0000 Corduroy 1192365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're moving in a few weeks and trying to decide if we should hire movers. It never occurred to me that my friends would take he price of our home into consideration. It's over half a million dollars but everything is here. That doesn't mean we're sitting on money after closing costs, pest repairs, etc. </p> <p>We have been the couple that helped everyone move the last several years. We always said we were building our moving karma for when we got a house. Now that LO is here and all our friends have LOs I think we're just going to pay for movers. We'll still need to rally some friends to move things from my grandma's house though. They will get pizza &amp; beer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192357 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 11:27:08 +0000 sunny 1192357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed too. I think I'd be worried he would injure his back again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192334 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 11:09:01 +0000 StbHisMrs 1192334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: @MrsMcD: I'm with you guys, we rent a u-haul and have a few big trailers and trucks, then we have food and drinks afterwards last time we grilled. </p> <p>We moved every 5 years or so while growing up, and only once did my parents hire a moving company and that's because we moved to Alaska...</p> <p>If he's well off I'd just expect better food and drinks ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192327 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 11:06:49 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1192327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's up to your husband to say "nope can't help, I have a back injury". There *shouldn't* be further pressure.</p> <p>Help with movibg post a years out of college for people gainfully employed does seem a tad weird. Moving companies are not that expensive. Heck, U-Haul and some labor pool guys would be cheap as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192310 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:56:14 +0000 autumnlove 1192310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get annoyed when my BIL asks DH to help...he never helps us and he can afford movers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192309 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:54:35 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1192309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: I'd want him to get movers.</p> <p>BIL is SUPER cheap and asked DH to take a day off from work and drive three hours to help him move into his half million dollar house. DH did it. I couldn't believe it. I feel your pain, girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192304 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:48:37 +0000 nana87 1192304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we're all about professional movers! we haven't even had friends that asked for a long time though. help putting together Ikea stuff or whatever is different--we still will help/ask for help with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192297 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:43:47 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1192297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to be the guys with the truck so we always got tapped to help. We sold the truck last year and that helped change the dynamic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192287 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:38:59 +0000 BlueWolverine 1192287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, no. He's got enough money to hire movers. If he were a really good friend, I might consider it, but if he can't even make time to meet your baby, it's ridiculous to think your DH should make time to help him move.</p> <p>In any case, I LOVE movers. They're fast and they can get furniture into rooms that we could never maneuver. I have movers to thank for the gigantic couch in the nursery that I use all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192272 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:25:50 +0000 Rubies 1192272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, friends ALWAYS ask DH to help them with stuff and he always says yes! DH believes friends help friends and that if we ever needed help, these friends would come. I pointed out that when we moved to our house not one of these friends were there on moving day. Psh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192267 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:21:03 +0000 Andrea 1192267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Errr yeah. Sounds like he can afford packers and movers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192261 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:15:25 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1192261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my twenties I wouldn't think twice about helping friends, I just think now we have more resources and better things to do.<br /> If it makes any difference, the house he bought is $1M +. And he hasn't met our daughter yet, she's ten months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-friends-move#post-1192256 Sat, 02 Nov 2013 10:12:06 +0000 deactivated_account 1192256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: ditto. Even if you use a moving company, there may be things you just want to move yourself. True friends help friends move. Hahaha. </p>