https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 02:28:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708673 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 21:57:16 +0000 Andrea 2708673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like more sleep/rest would take care of a lot. He seems very overworked! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708671 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 21:55:52 +0000 Greentea 2708671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Start with the basics. Help him get sleep and eat healthy meals! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708660 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 21:33:38 +0000 jhd 2708660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my DH I would send him texts, write him notes, and tell him just how much I appreciate all his hard work and how much I love him. But his love language is words. I would also try to cook him some of his favorite meals, pick up some of his favorite snacks, and straight up ask him what he needs to relax and destress. Sometimes he already has something in mind like taking a Saturday to just be lazy at home or going out for dinner. Also it can help to just talk out all the craziness of the particularly busy seasons of our life and remind ourselves that things won't be this crazy forever! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708605 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 19:56:35 +0000 snowjewelz 2708605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends what his love language is. Mine needs me to verbally encourage him and also physical affection. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708519 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 15:13:53 +0000 mrskansas 2708519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: such a great idea! I don't know why I didn't think of that. Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708508 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 15:05:40 +0000 gingerbebe 2708508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you reach out to some relatives or bros of his who can come help out for a weekend? Maybe text or email some friends of his to tell them the situation. Like make it fun with beer and music and make some kick ass food and make it like a guy's day. Then tell them to go out for dinner or catch a movie or something. They should be able to knock out the fence and it will be fun for him. If they have wives and kids invite them too and throw a movie on and have snacks and mimosas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708439 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:32:28 +0000 mrskansas 2708439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@RonjaL7: Yes, that is always my go to, but lately it just frustrates him since he is tired &amp; stressed. I think it makes it worse when he can't "perform" the way he wants to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708438 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:30:32 +0000 RonjaL7 2708438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it TMI to say try to have "romantic time" together? That is the best way I found to relax my husband if he is high stress... :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708435 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:27:46 +0000 travelingnanny 2708435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskansas- Don't feel horrible. It isn't your fault. You're both trying to do what is best for your family.</p> <p>Oh and try to make time to do a date night/ spend some quality time together. It doesn't have to involve going out. You could do one at home after the kiddo is in bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708433 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:25:18 +0000 travelingnanny 2708433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds miserable. Poor guy. Could you look into hiring someone to watch the child for a few hours every morning? I know childcare can be super expensive but maybe you should find a PT home daycare. I would also encourage him to take a break and go do something with a friend.</p> <p>Edit- The same goes for you. As in he should be encouraging you to go out and do something for yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708432 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:23:26 +0000 mrskansas 2708432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Typing this all out is making me feel horrible. Granted, I work full time and then go home and solo parent at night, but I do have downtime where he doesn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708430 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:21:03 +0000 mrskansas 2708430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do have sitter that my LO goes to in the afternoons while I'm still at work. I'm going to talk to her about taking my daughter there for a full day for maybe a day or two next week, that way he can sleep in and get some of the renovation work done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708428 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:19:17 +0000 sarac 2708428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I would try to reduce his workload. That is an insane amount of the day to spend working - where is his downtime? Can you get a helper or a nanny for a few hours a day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708423 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:14:50 +0000 PinkElephant 2708423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If doing the fence/renovations is something enjoyable for him, what about letting him work on that and instead relieving him from childcare duties a bit? Could you hire a sitter for a few mornings per week for awhile to take some of the burden off of him? Not sure about your area, but in mine it is relatively easy to find college students who have daytime availability and ask a reasonable hourly rate - try care.com or urbansitter.com (if you're in a big city). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708422 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:14:05 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2708422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband also works nights (not permanently but that's his current shift) and the main thing here is trying to make sure he gets enough sleep, which it sounds like your husband needs. I work pt due to his schedule. But whatever your hours are just trying to schedule time for him to get more sleep would be my goal, even if it required some outside help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/helping-husband-with-stress#post-2708418 Fri, 10 Mar 2017 13:09:21 +0000 mrskansas 2708418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is basically superman. He takes care of our daughter all day until he goes to work from 3:30 until midnight. He gets up with her between 6:30 and 7 each morning since I'm already at work, so he functions on little sleep.<br /> We've been doing renovations for the past 2 months and he is doing all the work, so his weekends have been consumed with that. Parts of our fence also blew over with high winds we've had this week so that needs to be fixed too.</p> <p>I can tell he's starting to get really stressed out because he's irritable, short with me and my daughter and just grumpy.<br /> I need help with coming up with ideas on how to help him relax a little. I thought about hiring someone to come out &amp; fix the fence, but I know he would get mad since he can do it for free. </p> <p>So how do you guys help your husband when is he tired, overworked and stressed? I need help! </p>