https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 03:08:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-708374 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 14:52:57 +0000 Rescuemom10 708374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This women is not right in the head! Wow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-708309 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 14:41:17 +0000 ShootingStar 708309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I truly think there's something psychologically wrong with that woman. Who leaves a baby somewhere and doesn't have an ounce of panic when they realize it? It sounds like she has some kind of emotional detachment disorder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-708209 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 14:13:14 +0000 Cherrybee 708209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG! This woman lives in the same city as me! *shudder* </p> <p>But I agree with PPs who have pointed out which newspaper this is in.... they print this kind of stuff to get a reaction. I do feel sorry for her children though - fancy picking up the paper and reading about how unwanted you were and still are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-707906 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:33:16 +0000 vnvdvci 707906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know what, I think she put way too much pressure and expectation upon herself, and that pushed her over from ambivalence about motherhood to downright resentment. Even though she says she didn't have postpartum depression, her description of how she reacted to each child as a baby really sounds a lot like it. I wonder if she'd given birth nowadays whether her diagnosis might be different.</p> <p>She nonetheless loves her children and has had this talk with them before. I really think she's quite brave (especially considering the backlash she's faced) admitting that children were not for her. There are probably many other mothers who feel the same way, but are too ashamed to admit it because "YOUR LIFE PURPOSE IS FULFILLED NOW WHY ARE YOU NOT HAPPY?!"....etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-707847 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:14:06 +0000 Modern Daisy 707847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like how she speaks all high and mighty of her decision to stay home with the kids as being the 'only right one' and calls working moms selfish, but then goes on to say that she hated every moment of it and wishes she never had kids. Um.. I think if there were ever a case for the mom to go back to work this would be it. If you don't want to be a mom in the first place, why would you torture yourself with being a SAHM? I feel like you might go a little nutty, which def happened in this case.</p> <p>Also, I don't think she considered the fact that she got married super young then had kids shortly after instead of waiting until she was 'ready'. I also didn't want to have kids when DH and I first got married, but over time and when I hit the right age my views changed and I'm so glad that we waited until we were ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-707331 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:57:24 +0000 jennylynn 707331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This lady absolutely disgusts me. And the fact that someone acutally published this article like this heartless woman should be admired for it, is even more disgusting. Those poor babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-707324 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:54:38 +0000 JoJoGirl 707324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sea_bass: Sigh, that makes total sense. More clicks = more ad revenue so posting something this controversial is the fastest money maker on the web. How dirty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life/page/2#post-707286 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:46:10 +0000 meredithNYC 707286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sea_bass: Yep, pretty much my exact reaction to 99% of the trash published by the Daily Mail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-707211 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:23:10 +0000 swurlygurl 707211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This makes me sad - I can't imagine not feeling a bond with your baby. I can understand not wanting children, and your life is now different than what you wanted, but to not bond? :(</p> <p>Her statements about moms who go back to work really hurt - that's something I (and I'm sure lots of other moms) really struggle with </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-707088 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 08:52:52 +0000 2PeasinaPod 707088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sera_87: I was thinking exactly this. She acts as if she was such a martyr having her kids. I feel terrible for her daughter with MS who she is taking care of right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-707009 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 08:37:20 +0000 pui 707009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IMO, it looks like she was fully expecting having a baby to be a horrible experience, and so it WAS. You reap what you sow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706731 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 04:15:18 +0000 sea_bass 706731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take it with a grain of salt really. </p> <p>This newspaper is just a comment generator. They print outlandish "mother confessions" all the time because they know women on both sides of the argument will get so rilled up, re-post the story on countless forums and comment about it. I am sure the author would have consulted her children about it and in most cases they are in on it. </p> <p>Just wait till next week when her children have their "rebuttal" article. Its all completely staged to up this papers comments/shares/clicks. The Daily Mail does it ALL THE TIME. </p> <p>*rant over* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706728 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 03:56:22 +0000 jetsettermomma 706728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: MIL is the same! Kept ranting that you don't need children and also kept telling SO that he shouldn't have children because he would not be a fit father! Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706721 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 02:52:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 706721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"I did everything a good mother was supposed to." Ehhh, except for providing real comfort, love and care. She says it's irrponsible and selfish for women to hire people to raise thier kids, but nannies, day care workers, and teachers would provide more warmth and love than she's able to provide.</p> <p>But I understand people like her, as I've dealt with a few of them. What's written down in "in the books" is more important than anything else. Without her serious concept of "responsibility", her serious lack of empathy could have truly been scary. It doesn't surprise me that she used her name with actual pictures because she just doesn't get it. Aside from milk, clothing, and a warm bed, children need WARMTH - especially from their mothers. </p> <p>Anyone else notice she's holding her crotch in the first picture?! Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706716 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 02:36:47 +0000 loveisstrange 706716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont necessarily think her saying she regrets having kids means she doesnt love them. </p> <p>I called my pregnancy an "unwanted" pregnancy. I didnt want to be pregnant, didnt plan to get pregnant, and thats the honest truth. Do I regret C? No. Do I wish things had played out differently? Yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706650 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 00:06:31 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 706650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, that was hard to get through. I really didn't want to hear her go on and on anymore. We get it.</p> <p>I don't have a problem with her admitting that she wasn't "meant to be a mother" or that she never developed those maternal instincts that seem to come so naturally for others, but I think it's HOW it was said that rubs me the wrong way. She sounds so cruel, cold, heartless, and callous.... and she's putting down others' life choices in the process (like what she said about those who go back to work right away). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706648 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 00:03:06 +0000 Sweet T 706648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is just so sad and mean. Can you imagine reading this from your own mother? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706615 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 23:01:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 706615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honesty is the best policy. This was one mother's recount of her journey. Every woman had a different journey. Not all women are meant to be mothers. She recognized that in herself. Her children were not abused and at least had one doting parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706606 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 22:48:15 +0000 Grace 706606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you guys are right. She's probably been depressed for a long time and doesn't want to admit it. So she blames it on her children. And so much of what she says is delusion. For example, thinking that her children didn't know. Of course they knew - that's why they gravitated towards Dad. Or thinking that she was a better mom than others simply because she did her "duty". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706593 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 22:30:08 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 706593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I agree. I was disgusted by this article not by her honesty...but by the fact that her honesty will hurt her kids.<br /> ...&amp; why do they deserve that? And another thing: I am sure they picked up on her lack of love and I imagine that must have been hard for them to live their lives with a small doubt that their moms loves them. I'm just thinking that if you didn't adjust as a parent...can't you at least respect your kids enough not to share this price of your life with the world?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706590 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 22:25:18 +0000 Mrs. Pen 706590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the contrary here... but I don't think she's a bitch for being honest about how she felt. </p> <p>In most instances in life you can't necessarily change how you feel about something, your feelings are a natural response to a situation. In this case she had to choose to love her children because she didn't feel it for them. Is that her fault? Not necessarily. She didn't abandon them like many mothers do. I'm not saying this makes her mother of the year, but I guess my point is I indentify with her to a point.</p> <p>I do love my son and yes I felt that bond in the beginning. But I would never pretend to say the transition to being a parent is an easy one, and I will admit there are days I wished I had waited or hadn't had a child because it's so difficult. </p> <p>I totally agree with what she said about people seeing her as cold because she is being honest, but like she said, I do think more moms feel this way but bottle it up inside because they can't admit it to anyone.</p> <p>So I do feel sorry for her... that she never adjusted and that her doing the best she could was forcing herself to love her children and care the best she could... but I moreso feel for her children because if my mother ever said I was the biggest regret of her life, my heart would be shattered. </p> <p>So that is why it is not encouraged to be so brutally honest. </p> <p>It's one thing to say "I never fully adjusted to parenthood and had a difficult time.", but to say your children are your biggest regrets - I do think that IS cold. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706571 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 22:06:10 +0000 Emsmems 706571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, just wow. She hated being a mother but also thinks she was the best one and knows all. How nice. She sounds like she was/is depressed her whole life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706554 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 21:52:00 +0000 lomom 706554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of my parents have said if they thought they could've not had kids, they would've chosen not to. But they both felt like it was expected and so they had kids. My mom has always been doting and present and loving. I know she does NOT regret us, but she never had baby fever or felt the biological clock ticking type of thing, so I can kind of understand this woman's feelings of that she had to have kids, that it was expected. I don't really understand how you could be so blatantly cold to your kids though. That's a bit startling. I agree with PPs that she probably suffered from PPD. </p> <p>It does make me thankful though, to live in a time where being child free by choice is more societally acceptable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706485 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 21:07:14 +0000 Raindrop 706485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought this very honest. Even though I don't agree with her I do like this read so thank you for sharing. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706463 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:53:28 +0000 photojane 706463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes. Saddest thing I've ever read. Sadie gives so much back to me already &amp; she can't even talk yet. I just don't understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706461 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:52:03 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 706461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>horrified. Wow....at least leave your kids some dignity and respect. Saying you regret them is leaves them nothing.</p> <p>I'm all for being CBC, but don't have kids and then make them feel regretted and don't think that kids can't feel the absence of love just because your are providing their other needs. Love is a need. Acceptance and a feeling of welcomeness is a need. And most of all: there is a difference between being honest (I do love honesty) and saying something that hurts many people (your kids..your DH) so deepy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706455 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:46:53 +0000 runsyellowlites 706455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I may be the only one but I'm just as mad toward her husband as I am her! He *knew* she didn't want children, and sadly I understand her compromise although it's saddening that even after having her children she still felt like she did. I agree that it's likely she *did* suffer from some kind of ppd that could've lingered and turned into depression in &amp; of itself. I feel terrible for her children &amp; couldn't imagine hearing something like this from my mom... or anyone that was supposed to love and WANT me. So sad. =( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706453 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:45:09 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 706453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What I don't get about this lady is that she snarks on working mothers, but maybe if she'd maintained some sort of identity outside of motherhood instead of taking on such a martyr role, perhaps she wouldn't resent her kids as much. </p> <p>Big ol' eye roll. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706452 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:44:51 +0000 honeybear 706452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't help but think that a lot of this is about her daughter's illness. Her premise is illogical, after all: you can't really love someone but also wish they never existed. It sounds to me like she's trying to find a way to cope with what has to be a devastating event--watching your child die slowly and painfully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/her-children-biggest-regrets-of-her-life#post-706443 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 20:37:41 +0000 lovehoneybee 706443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That just...made my heart hurt. </p>