https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 04:42:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1491470 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:33:43 +0000 JennyD 1491470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: That's too bad. I don't feel like I ask for much in our relationships, but it seems that every request I make is such a "big deal". </p> <p>Thanks for the support :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1490791 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 08:44:38 +0000 LulaBee 1490791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family is the same way... had dinner with them last weekend and just got so fed up with the passive agressiveness... just know that YOU don't have to participate! Be the bigger person. :happy: </p> <p>I don't think I'll ever have a decent grown up relationship with my sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1490711 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 08:24:05 +0000 snowjewelz 1490711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: I was def kinda like that too; I think we all have tendencies to be martyrs, people pleasers, etc. I hope she is able to get out of that mentality soon b/c it's really not healthy! And in this case her mentality ends up dragging everyone else down with her :sad: Cheer up! I hope you can stay positive and focus on your own life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1490462 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 22:54:01 +0000 JennyD 1490462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: thanks. My family is so complicated. They're not AWFUL, but there are a LOT of things I would rather do than deal with them. Everything has to be so complicated. I don't think I'm being cold or ridiculous, but it still feel a bit bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1490461 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 22:52:10 +0000 JennyD 1490461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I used to take on everything like she does. I used to feel that if I didn't do it, the world would end. But I worked through it, and life goes on. She just hasn't learned that yet. It is hard. Hard on her and hard on everyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1490459 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 22:50:29 +0000 JennyD 1490459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yep. My family is so like that. It gets so complicated and exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1490458 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 22:48:08 +0000 JennyD 1490458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@singingbee: she didn't SAY she was mad but she was so .... Just blasé when I was asking her how it went, and a little hostile. I'm sure she is mad, but today I'm having trouble caring ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1488457 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 08:23:37 +0000 psw27 1488457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a martyr in our family too, we have all learned to basically ignore her drama about all of the tasks she chooses to take on. Easier said than done, of course. Hang in there, you did nothing wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1488444 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 08:21:34 +0000 snowjewelz 1488444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard if they have this martyr syndrome; it'll always make you feel like you're not doing enough. It's a tough lesson for her to have to learn to have better balance in life and that she doesn't have to take on everything! Taking on all those things are her choice and you did offer to help before she changed the date! Your priority is your LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1488269 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 06:32:24 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1488269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not too much to ask. I don't understand why people just don't say what's on their mind. If the big move was Saturday and not Sunday then say you would like help on that day. People are not mind readers. There were probably things that could have been done on Sunday, but sounds like the message you heard was "no need to come over at all." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1488249 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 06:06:49 +0000 singingbee 1488249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuck! I'm sorry! Is she mad that you didn't come over Saturday? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-maintenance-family-bah#post-1488113 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 22:36:03 +0000 JennyD 1488113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I were supposed to help move my mom into my sister's house on Sunday, but Friday night my sister texted to say that our brother was going to help on Saturday, instead. We already had plans for Saturday, and didn't have a sitter lined up for our LO, so I didn't offer to do anything. </p> <p>I texted her tonight to ask her how the move went, and she seems to be quite put off with me. </p> <p>I'm just so over all the drama. She lets people walk all over her and takes on waaaaay more than she can handle so that she can act like a martyr. It makes me crazy most of the time, but then I feel guilty that she's doing all this (letting our mom move in, finding renters for our mom's place, etc, etc) and I'm not really contributing. But I also feel a lot of this is unnecessary and over exaggerated. </p> <p>I just want to have decent, grown up relationships with my family. Is that too much to ask!?! </p>