https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 22:05:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1284334 Mon, 16 Dec 2013 13:25:55 +0000 Boheme 1284334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I will post on your wall! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1283336 Mon, 16 Dec 2013 06:53:19 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1283336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! It will pass. Babies grow so fast and next thing you know your LO's routine will change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1283291 Mon, 16 Dec 2013 02:26:46 +0000 erinpye 1283291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Ok perfect--doing so now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1283266 Mon, 16 Dec 2013 00:39:48 +0000 daniellemybelle 1283266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Another with the ties! I want to hear your experience too since I really think that could be the culprit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1283265 Mon, 16 Dec 2013 00:38:30 +0000 Boheme 1283265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: *hugs* My baby was extremely high needs until about 4-ish months old. We had a tongue tie and lip tie revised, which made a WORLD of difference in the early days. Babywearing also helped me get through it... That, and loud white noise. I thought it would never end, and then one day it just did! I promise it gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1283263 Mon, 16 Dec 2013 00:35:02 +0000 daniellemybelle 1283263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: I'm not - I've been too cheap! But since you are, you can private wall me yours if you want! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1283245 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 23:52:46 +0000 erinpye 1283245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: yes! Are you gold? If you post your email address- I'll forward you the email I sent my fam when we did DD's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1282632 Sun, 15 Dec 2013 14:44:07 +0000 daniellemybelle 1282632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: @Kemma: Could you post on my wall about your tie experiences? I am very apprehensive about revision! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1281241 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 23:41:42 +0000 Kemma 1281241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: get somebody to check for an upper lip tie, my LO always had trouble maintaining suction before she had her ties cut at 6-7 weeks!! You can also Google for stretching exercises which could help in the meantime :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement/page/2#post-1281240 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 23:40:57 +0000 erinpye 1281240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Wonderful! (Not wonderful you're suffering, but great you're seeing a specialist.) I hope no matter what is going on, it gets sorted soon and you and baby both feel much better soon :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1281234 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 23:26:37 +0000 daniellemybelle 1281234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: Wow, I just read your thread &amp; I am really convinced LO has some sort of tie, even though an IBCLC &amp; my pediatrician have told me differently. She always slides off a good latch &amp; my nipples come out pinched which I think has contributed to my supply issue. I am going to see a pediatric dentist now - thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1281122 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 21:46:52 +0000 irene 1281122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Hugs, my baby was crazy when he was very young (0-3 months?). He was colic and he couldn't put himself to sleep at night, and I was pretty clueless. Anyhoo, he also cried and cried and sometimes nothing I do could help him. we would be burping him forever and he still couldn't burp and would cry. Nothing helped. One time I had to leave him in his crib, close the door, went to the corridor and bang my head on the wall and cried. Sigh. It didn't help when my friends' babies (all of the same age) were such angels... while mine just cried and cried.</p> <p>But let me tell you. He ended up to be such an angel. He is now 22 months and I am so thankful everyday that he turns out to be such a good and sweet boy. Tantrums sometimes but I am able to deal with it. Those 0-3 months were inhumane! Maybe those 3 months in the beginning was a test run to let us know how hard it can get. If we could get through this, we could get through almost anything. haha!</p> <p>So you are not alone, hugs!!! Light is at the end of the tunnel so hang in there dear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1281034 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 20:56:17 +0000 looch 1281034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My view is different than the majority of posters, because my sons high needs didn't go away with time, they changed. I learned to adjust my expectations and now, I am better able to cope. It became my new normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1281028 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 20:52:40 +0000 regberadaisy 1281028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs mama!!!</p> <p>This was us!! I was so desperate I literally tried everything. I cut a whole bunch of gassy foods from my diet. Used gripe water religiously, etc. Bicycling, etc. It helped for about 2 weeks then it was back.</p> <p>I knew it wasnt' acid reflux because she wasn't spitting up a ton.</p> <p>So the next thing I tried was cutting major dairy. OMG. Huge difference. Different baby within 10 days. Have you considered she might be MSPI or even just dairy intolerant?</p> <p>I think my biggest fear was a colicky baby. Because then there is just nothing you can do. But interesting enough after all that I actually read a couple articles that some doctors believe the term "colic" was used back in the day because they just could not figure out why babies were so fussy! LOL And we know now that a lot of them quite possibly could have had a dairy allergy. </p> <p>Best of luck! There is a light at the end of the tunnel. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1281021 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 20:48:30 +0000 Crisark 1281021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anna was like this until we realized she had reflux. Once she was taking a small amount of meds for it she was a totally different baby.<br /> You aren't alone though. Hang in there. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280961 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 20:00:38 +0000 erinpye 1280961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I'm so sorry. Mine SCREAMED for 6 months straight. I thought I was going to lose my mind. I posted about it and what caused it here: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-colicky-acid-reflux-babies" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-colicky-acid-reflux-babies</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280672 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 16:53:13 +0000 illumina 1280672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I hear you on the not wanting to take LO out of the house...we stopped going to our baby groups when S was between 6-10wks as she just melted down as soon as I took her anywhere and it was so hard to soothe her. I hated being the mum with the crying baby whilst everyone else's LOs just lay there quietly or sleeping! At 10wks we turned a huge corner...she is still a major fussypants but she is much calmer when we're out. I took her to 3 social groups this week at 12wks and people commented on how content she was. The problem she has is that she is too smart for her little body...she gets frustrated. She wants to be where the action is...she won't lay quietly on the floor like the other babies, she needs to be sat on my lap, facing the World and trying to join in conversations! Hopefully your LO is similar and will get better really soon :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280653 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 16:48:21 +0000 Cherrybee 1280653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: No, no, don't feel bad! I was only tying myself in knots trying to soothe her because I couldn't stand one more minute of the crying.... and to be honest, nothing really worked - only the passage of time. It does get better. I know everyone says that but it really does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280636 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 16:38:31 +0000 LuLu Mom 1280636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an acid reflux baby, I could do nothing to make her happy, until I discovered the swing &amp; bouncy chair...both of which wished her into a nice sleep. I hated that I had to resort to "things" to calm my baby but after hours of straight crying I didn't care! The slight elevation did wonders for her &amp; allowed me to get things done aroudn the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280494 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 15:42:23 +0000 avivoca 1280494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I feel a lot of guilt over using the swing since it's a baby container, but I was going insane having her on me 24/7. I am a much better mom now that she is sleeping in her crib and every nap isn't happening on me (though, I do like at least one nap a day on me). And the fact that she is sleeping helps me to put the guilt aside. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280481 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 15:37:43 +0000 daniellemybelle 1280481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all so, so much. Just knowing that others have experienced this - that I'm not a bad mom, and that LO won't be a terror forever - gives me so much hope. I am very lucky that I have my mom around to help. She took her for two hours and I slept. Then I got her nice &amp; full, swaddled her &amp; put her in her swing with some insanely loud white noise. She fell asleep without crying, thank goodness.</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: LO does have gas. It has gotten a lot worse in the past week - she passes audible gas 2 or 3 times an hour - but I thought it was the herbs I'm taking to try to increase my milk. I've stopped taking them so we'll see if it clears up. We use gas drops religiously &amp; they seem to help. I've also tried gripe water with no noticeable difference.</p> <p>She doesn't like pacifiers though she will sometimes take one if I hold it in her mouth. She likes to comfort nurse but only to a point, and I admit I don't always offer it because I'm afraid I won't have enough milk at the next feeding because of my low supply. (I know the supply &amp; demand concept with nursing, but because of my issues my LC has recommended only nursing every 2-3 hours.) </p> <p>@NurseMommy: @Dagny: @evansjamie: @knittylady: The exercise ball was a lifesaver until a few weeks ago. Now she doesn't want to have anything to do with it! I feel bad for my husband, because bouncing her on the ball was his "thing" and now she screams :( The swing is really working these days but I feel guilty because she's in a contraption instead of our arms.</p> <p>@Cherrybee: Thanks for sharing that thread! Lots of good tips. I'll admit I've kind of given up on "techniques" to try to soothe her, which makes me feel like a bad mom for not trying hard enough. </p> <p>@Bluebonnet: She's 7.5 weeks, so probably too little to sleep train. I try really hard to keep her on a schedule because it seems to help but on days like today, it's totally shot. She sleeps probably 12-14 hours a day on a good day? I know she needs more sleep but she fights it tooth &amp; nail.</p> <p>@OpinionsLikeKittens: Happiest Baby on the Block hasn't really worked for us... at least not all the S's. She hates getting swaddled but will stay asleep longer so I do try to swaddle for every nap. White noise sometimes helps. When she's in a fit, nothing really does the trick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280352 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 15:00:32 +0000 Greentea 1280352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: I know exactly what you mean. I had visitors when lo was 2 months and they wanted to go out to eat for every meal! What.the.heck?! Dh ended up pacing outside the restaurant with her in a tummy pack while I golfed down a burger. Nightmare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280249 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 14:39:55 +0000 meganmp 1280249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can sympathize. DS was BRUTAL when he was a newborn. I was lucky, though, and had the added benefit of knowing that it wasn't me, it was him, because DD was an angel, and they were receiving precisely the same care. Babywearing, while swinging back and forth fairly violently, because the only way I could function. This too, shall pass! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280177 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 14:17:51 +0000 brownie 1280177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We call my child demon child from his infant days. He screamed 12-14 hours a day every day for 4 months. Ultimately for him it was MSPI issues and now at 2 1/2 he is an amazing little dude. I don't know how we got through it but we did. One thing that helped was sending him to other people . Seriously those hours where my godsend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280147 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 14:07:30 +0000 bushelandapeck 1280147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! LO was also very challenging due to reflux/colic and needing a ton of movement to fall asleep. We used to get comments all the time about him being so difficult and it was hard to hear. He's 16 mos now and still has his moments but now we hear comments all the time about how sweet and playful he is. I think he was easier once he started sleeping longer stretches and then again when he learned to crawl. I hope you are getting a lot of support form your family and DH. It certainly can be very trying at times but I'm sure you are doing the best you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280047 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:30:54 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1280047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was my LO for the first 3-3.5 months. Many times I just didn't want to go anywhere because I knew she would eventually cry. Her awake window was so short, and she was so hard to put down for naps (plus, I had to hold her for her to sleep during the day!). Now she is the coolest baby, and people remark about how happy and pleasant she is. The newborn months are tough, and it will get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280044 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:29:24 +0000 Corduroy 1280044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!! You're not doing anything wrong. It gets better!</p> <p>I hear you on taking the baby out is nerve wracking. I got ambitious one day and went to Costco. We both ended up crying in the bathroom. </p> <p>It didn't help that my friend with a baby 3 weeks younger couldn't understand why we couldn't go take the babies to Cheesecake Factory for a 7pm dinner. Obviously the babies would just sit there. That was so far from my reality I was upset for a week. Our evenings involved hours of walking, bouncing and vacuuming (sorry downstairs neighbors).</p> <p>The newborn phase can be incredibly hard but just like everything else in this incredible journey you somehow make it through and you end up stronger for it (and you may even eventually look back on it fondly). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1280019 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 13:21:29 +0000 Greentea 1280019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our ped nurse told me she tells people to just survive/ get through the first couple months. It really does get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1279931 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:54:05 +0000 avivoca 1279931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: I'm scared that I'll be tempting fate by deflating it. It was the ONLY thing that calmed her down after her shots. I would stop bouncing to give my core a break, and her eyes would snap open and she'd start shreking until I bounced more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-needs-baby-needing-some-encouragement#post-1279912 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:50:08 +0000 ladybee 1279912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm there with you at 8 weeks. Taking him places is very anxiety provoking. </p>