https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 04:05:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618769 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 18:45:57 +0000 duckduckkristen 618769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and I have a babysitter that comes for 5 hours one day a week. While LO is awake she plays with him and I get things done around the house. When LO naps I run errands and she folds laundry and cleans the high hair and toys while I'm gone. </p> <p>I wouldn't feel guilty if I were you! You have two and a lot on your plate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618759 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 18:42:45 +0000 WALLAROO 618759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You shouldn't feel guilty. An extra set of hands is definitely helpful with twins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618691 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 18:11:09 +0000 archivedbee 618691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you go about finding a mother's helper ?! I need one ! Are there websites ? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618512 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 16:58:42 +0000 googly-eyes 618512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely want one if I were in your shoes. At one point (a few weeks when PPD was at itis worst) I had a nanny helping three days a week, plus family help, and I only have a singleton and am a SAHM. Now I'm on my own besides hubby's off days and our date days, but I can only imagine with work and twins! You're wonderwoman, don't feel guilty!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618432 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 16:33:05 +0000 twoofeverything 618432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurpleUnicorn: Haha, that makes me feel better! I was trying to justify it to myself, realizing that I am only ever "off duty" from 2-6am (when DH is in charge of the monitor...thank God for him!). Other than that -- at least during the week -- I am either solely responsible for the babies or working (tutoring young children). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618397 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 16:24:29 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 618397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lol, before i realized you had twins i was going to say that it makes sense to need extra help, i want to look into so i can finish my dissertation.....now that i know you have TWO babies! oh my, i can't imagine doing that alone, kudos to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618376 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 16:16:57 +0000 twoofeverything 618376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: That's a really good point! I will definitely keep that in mind. I really hope she's as awesome as she seemed during her interview! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618106 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 15:13:10 +0000 anbanan15 618106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that sounds like an awesome idea! Every mom can use an extra set of hands now and again :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-618054 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 15:00:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 618054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom's need help. Good for you hiring a helper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617984 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 14:45:11 +0000 T.H.O.U. 617984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twoofeverything: I think one of the things that made me enjoy the job so much is that she truly treated me as a mothers helper/baby sitter. Meaning, I got to play with the babies and she would cook/clean. I was never given house keeping tasks except to maybe rinse out a bottle or bowl after feedings. </p> <p>Just make sure you guys have clear expectations as to what she will be doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617920 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 14:29:20 +0000 twoofeverything 617920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok you guys are making me feel so much better!<br /> I was going to start by just using her as an extra pair of hands to help with feeding/napping babies, scrub/prep bottles, and maybe throw in a load of baby laundry now and then. Once I'm more comfortable, I may take a short nap or (gasp!) go for a workout or something.<br /> Thank you, guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617779 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:56:42 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 617779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twoofeverything: I haven't hired one (I have a singleton) but I would if I were you, also! You should not feel guilty at all!<br /> I would probably use her to be my right-hand man! And even get a short nap in after work. If you trust her and she is good with your children, then you should consider yourself extremely lucky:) Don't feel guilty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617773 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:54:36 +0000 DillonLion 617773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good for you! I could not even imagine how hard it must be to take care of two babies solo during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617763 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:52:09 +0000 T.H.O.U. 617763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: We are currently using our 12 year old neighbor to come babysit for an hour once a week. We are paying her $5/hr (baby is asleep). Her parents are home next door. Its a great opportunity for us and her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617721 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:40:44 +0000 Smurfette 617721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good for you getting help!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617709 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:37:35 +0000 blackbird 617709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dude, you have twins. YOU NEED HELP. A sign of weakness is never thinking you need help :)</p> <p>Shit, my mom was a SAHM and had a nanny 5 days/week, ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617670 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:31:43 +0000 Mrs. Chalk 617670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a great idea! I work full-time, so we had to use daycare/nannies, but if I were a SAHM, I would definitely consider hiring a mother's helper. Especially with two babies, I think having someone there a few hours a week could make a huge difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617652 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:28:07 +0000 twinmama 617652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of did this in high school. I would watch my coworkers son a few times a week after school so she could go run the trails or hit the gym. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617627 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:22:02 +0000 T-Mom 617627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Oooh you just gave me an idea to seek out younger people like high schoolers or maybe my home schooled, middle school age, next door neighbors' kids! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617612 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:18:30 +0000 T.H.O.U. 617612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds great! I was a mothers helper to a mom with twins when I was in middle school. I went over from like 4-7pm twice a week. I would play with the babies while she did dinner/dishes/whatever for a bout an hour. Then we would feed the babies, give them a bath, and then put them to bed together. It worked out great for me and her! I learned a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617550 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 13:01:31 +0000 mrsjazz 617550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twoofeverything: Do not feel guilty! Babies are hard work...and you have double! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617544 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:59:53 +0000 atolley22 617544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is great and totally fine and helpful to have a mommy's helper. I would love to do the same. I would have her play with F while I was trying to make dinner, laundry, etc. May I ask what you do in the evenings for work? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617509 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:48:55 +0000 T-Mom 617509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good for you for getting some help! I have looked into hiring a mother's helper but haven't been able to find one I liked. It seemed most people in my area who want to be mothers' helpers are college students and are only available during the summer, and everyone else who is available for the rest of the year just wants to be a full time nanny. I had planned to have her supervise the kids and do some light house work while I cooked dinner after work. Now, the TV is my mother's helper ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hired-a-mothers-helper-today#post-617463 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:36:44 +0000 twoofeverything 617463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I hired a mother's helper today to come two days a week for 2-3 hours each time. I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand, I feel guilty for needing the help -- I'm a SAHM from 6:30am-5pm, then I work from 5-8pm each evening. I feel so lucky that I've been able to figure out a way to stay home but still bring in income! On the other hand, I am ELATED that there will be an extra pair of hands around to help with the babies (almost 14 weeks old) during the day. I have been getting pretty strung out/exhausted, especially since naptimes have been such a battle with DS.<br /> Has anyone else hired a mother's helper? How did you utilize her (or him)? Was it helpful/worth it? </p>