https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Jul 2026 04:05:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1951330 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 18:47:50 +0000 cait 1951330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that it's instinctive. When there's a lot of anger in a little body, it just spills out! We got a book called "When I Feel Angry" for DD when she was about that age. It talks about things that make children mad, how anger makes you want to yell or hit, and then gives examples of other things you can do instead. We read it (even now, because refreshers are necessary), and sometimes role play the suggestions in the book. I think it's a phase most kids go through and as long as you're consistent in not reinforcing the behavior and offering alternatives, it will pass with time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1951315 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 18:22:51 +0000 cheert16 1951315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: We are in the same boat. DS never hits DH- only me!!</p> <p>LO is 19 months- and we are in the middle of a huge hitting spree. He hits me, daycare teacher, kids at daycare. Its bad, and I feel like a jerk because I have the kid that hits everyone.... We have been saying "no hitting" "we don't hit" all those things... but nothing has helped! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1951307 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 18:18:31 +0000 delight 1951307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following! My 15 month is hitting herself in the face/head and us a lot. She's so young I don't know what to do. I try ignoring but she just keeps doing it. She thinks it's funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1951246 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 17:28:58 +0000 LuLu Mom 1951246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've tried everything, it's usually when I tell her "no" that she gets "the look" and she hits me. I started to say "that hurts mommy" "we dont' hit" "we use our hands for waving not hitting" but it didn't work so I did automatic timeout in her room. This worked for us (for the most part) &amp; she's slowed down on her hitting. This is also the approach they do at daycare, she has to be separated and she hates that. </p> <p>I've noticed she doesn't hit DH just me, so I don't know why I get the brunt of it! She has kicked him, and he does the same approach. I do my best to stay calm, but haha it's not always easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1951181 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 16:30:52 +0000 aegie 1951181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i definitely thinks its instinctive to lash out when they're tired. Because they don't REALIZE they're tired and sleeping is the last thing on their mind, so the frustration + fatigue leads to hitting. I grab her hands before she gets a swipe (not hard) and tell her, no hitting. I give her a hug, ask if she's frustrated because she's tired but doesn't want to sleep and cuddle with her. That works for me 90% of the time. She never tries to hit otherwise, so I'm convinced it's because she turns into a caveman when she's tired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1950862 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 14:09:15 +0000 yellowbird 1950862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are going through this and I have found that showing her appropriate actions helps. If she's mad because someone is mean to her, I'll say we do not hit, we say "be nice to me" and rub arms or something. She even hits objects and I've nipped that by the same technique. </p> <p>If she's mad because she's just a toddler and throwing a tantrum I usually have to try to calm her down and then talk calmly to her and tell her she hurt me and made me very sad. She usually gets it, but it hasn't completely stopped the bad behavior. It's tough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-1#post-1950851 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 14:01:34 +0000 sorrycharlie 1950851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>well. I've been ignoring it, or saying "we don't hit" but man did this come out of nowhere.</p> <p>my two year old has been swatting at me when she's mad (if I pick her up to go to nap time, for example). not just randomly. and she'll announce, "hit! mama!" and if I say, "we do not hit" she will hit herself and say, "hit Livy arm!"</p> <p>again, I have been ignoring for the most part. time outs do not work with her. she didn't learn this from anyone, I SAH with her..agh! </p> <p>any other tips? hoping this will pass quickly..particularly before the baby comes in Jan! </p>