https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 18:36:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2425508 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 08:54:04 +0000 Rockies11 2425508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"I won't let you hurt baby", " I won't let you hurt me", "if you hit, your friends won't want to play with you" and then leaving for a bit, naming feelings, and close supervision. Mine are 2.5 and 9 months and it is still happens, so I don't think there is a miracle cure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2425412 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 00:29:56 +0000 birdofafeather 2425412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>man, i need these phrases. i get so frustrated with DD1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423474 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 14:01:36 +0000 MrsSRS 2423474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You may feel X, but you may not do Y. Y is not kind. When you feel X we can... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423455 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:35:01 +0000 Charm54 2423455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: yes, me stopping our play time and leaving the room really helped too! She hated that , but it was a natural consequence of hitting (or in our case, scratching). If you scratch, others won't want to play with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423452 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:26:10 +0000 catomd00 2423452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hitting hurts, please use gentle hands. can you show me gentle hands like this and model for her. Or mommy won't let You hit her, so I am going to move away. Would you like to give a high five instead of hitting? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423439 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:19:50 +0000 Charm54 2423439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The "Hands are not for Hitting" book helped a lot. My DD would scratch to get a reaction. I became good at predicting when she was going to do it (if she wanted attention or was overtired) and would redirect redirect redirect. "What else can your hands do? How can you use your hands to help?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423436 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 13:16:10 +0000 Maysprout 2423436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was 2.5 when my 2nd was born and it made her very sad to have to share her mom and dad. We found she was most receptive to talking about it around story time in the evenings. I think it's good for them to hear you acknowledge their feelings and still have some one on one time. But they also need to hear the positives of having a sibling too so they get more excited. </p> <p>As for hitting and kicking, I think keeping a hawkeye out for it now that you know it's happening and cut it off quickly once you see it's going to happen or as soon as it starts. Eye contact works well too while talking to them. I usually said something like I know you're mad, frustrated, etc but that hurts me, someone else, toy. Usually that ended in crying but when they're that worked up they're going to need to let out the emotions. I didn't say much about crying but if we were out somewhere we left so LO could take a break and calm down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423344 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 11:53:24 +0000 jedeve 2423344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use "hands are not for hitting" and "please use nice touches." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-amp-kicking-and-positive-discipline#post-2423313 Fri, 15 Jan 2016 11:23:23 +0000 Finfan 2423313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you practice positive parenting, how do you handle your LO hitting and kicking? I'm looking for some phrases DH and I can memorize to hopefully be consistent. DD has been more aggressive since her sister was born and we want to help her work through her feelings.</p> <p>ETA: She is 3.5 and baby is 10 weeks old. It seems to be an issue mostly at home but there was one day at home where it was bad enough that the teachers mentioned it at pickup. They said it was out of character for her to be so aggressive there and I think she was just extra tired that day (fell asleep after midnight the night before). </p>