https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 21 Jun 2026 21:51:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815554 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 23:33:40 +0000 crazydoglady 2815554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I didn't read your other posts, but do you make it a point to first dote on your daughter before addressing your son? That way, she is getting the bulk of the attention for being hit ad opposed to the one hitting getting attention? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815545 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 20:26:03 +0000 DesertDreams88 2815545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: my son just thinks it's funny to get a reaction. So he will hit, scratch, AND bite until he gets a reaction. :( :( :( So the motivation is attention and also sometimes sibling jealousy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815536 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 19:45:41 +0000 Anagram 2815536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: different for every kiddo. My oldest has never been a hitter. My youngest just tried to hit me today (she's 2.5). It's been going on a few months. One thing I've noticed is she seems really out of control emotionally when she hits, and when I pick her up, I just say I won't let you hit me and I hold down her arm that she's trying to hit me with, and then she'll just collapse on me and sob. It's almost like she's so relieved I'm not mad and I still love her. My oldest is less of an emotional tempest, so it's been an interesting ride with kiddo 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815331 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 19:19:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2815331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 4yo punched his dad in the head this weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815251 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 14:10:08 +0000 LBee 2815251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It started at 18 months on the nose (we got an email from school he was being aggressive in an unprovoked manner) and it was gone within 2 months. </p> <p>I think the stage was so short for us because we discovered that it was directly related to him not being ready to drop to 1 nap (high sleep needs). We only had the issue at school and he was never aggressive with us. They actually started to be able to pinpoint the exact time he would start being aggressive and redirected him about 30 minutes prior and would have him do something independent / restful (like read). Time remedied it for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815238 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 13:47:29 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2815238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son started hitting last January or so. He was almost 3. His main victim was our then 7 month old. It's still happening. He hits her many times a day. He doesn't hit anyone else (other kids) and pre school basically describes him as an angel. </p> <p>We've tried a LOT of things and clearly nothing has worked. The minor success we've seen is when we praise *every* behaviour that isn't hurting his sister. So if he walks by her without touching her "wow good job walking by so nicely!" Etc. It's exhausting but we've seen some success with that. We'd been in a bit of a downward lately though where we've just been yelling at him to STOP NOW and putting him in time out. It's not working at all. So I think we need to refocus on the praising good behaviour and trying to prevent the bad from happening. It's just hard because I'm home with them all day, and they can be playing so nicely in the toy room while I cook or clean or pee, and then all of a sudden my dd is crying because he hit her. </p> <p>I'm currently reading how to listen so little kids will talk. Hoping that has some good suggestions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815235 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 13:40:25 +0000 crazydoglady 2815235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: Sorry you are dealing with this! It sucks. DS started hitting a bit over a year and a half. At nearly 3, he's much more manageable now. His physical aggression (and our caregivers lack of familiarity with how to deal with it) has been the primary reason in moving him from two different daycares (he's never been formally kicked out.)<br /> I have learned that redirection, showing him how to touch gently etc doesn't work with him. I get down to his level and tell him in a firm voice "I don't want you hitting me. It makes me really sad. " I keep on with this until I see this flash of recognition in his eyes. When I know he "gets it," I tell him to give a hug and say "sorry" and he does that. Then we can go a whole day without an incident. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815234 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 13:38:42 +0000 Hypatia 2815234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It started at age two. We spanked each time, calmly explaining why the behavior was unacceptable. It stopped about two months later. I can't remember the last time it happened (she's four). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length#post-2815232 Mon, 09 Apr 2018 13:31:39 +0000 DesertDreams88 2815232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your child experienced a hitting stage, when did it start, when did it end, how long did it last, and any unique tips on helping it stop ASAP? </p> <p>It's been going on since 17m and he is 26m now so I am losing hope. LO2 was born 2 months ago and he hits her in the FACE 1-2x a day despite our best efforts. He hits us too and other kids sometimes.</p> <p>I've posted about this twice so far but I'm more focused on numbers now, rather than behavioral managment. </p>