https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Jul 2026 00:42:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1106700 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 23:29:21 +0000 sweet_p 1106700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 20 months and we're going through the same thing over here. She will pinch or hit me or DH, usually when she's frustrated and doesn't get her way. It's hard at this age because although she is talking, she doesn't know enough words to effectively communicate what she wants. I'm hoping it's a phase too...she can pinch and hit pretty hard sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105390 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 12:02:55 +0000 pinkcupcake 1105390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO (19 months) sometimes hits me or DH (no one else yet, thank goodness). Usually it's if she's frustrated or tired. We always say NO very firmly and usually she will pout but stop. This is such a tough age :(</p> <p>@irene: yikes, can't believe he said that! We have a sweet big dog - a golden retriever - and i would be so upset if someone kicked my dog for approaching them (or said that they would). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105317 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 11:34:11 +0000 irene 1105317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: Yep. I hate to be disrespectful, but I seriously don't know how someone can be so wrong in so many things (I even told DH about that). And that's just one example of them. But anyways. Thank God they don't live anywhere close to us and we only see them a few days every few months. Don't get me wrong. Grandpa and grandma loves LO to pieces. That I truly appreciate.... just don't know why the values are off.</p> <p>ETA: In his defense, in a way he said it *as if* that was one crazy mad dog that attacks everybody. But no it is a cute big dog that you see in a park. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105307 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 11:30:26 +0000 littlek 1105307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: was he serious? I would never condone "kicking" a dog because it approached me or LO. Actually, I don't think kicking is ever a correct response.</p> <p>Our LO does not hit but he bites. It's a stage. A rough and difficult stage. We use redirection and encouraging our LO to use his words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105258 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 11:13:34 +0000 irene 1105258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh Lord.... this is what I am fearing the most. We are 20 months and fortunately we still hasn't experienced it yet *knocking on all wood I can find*. I hope we sail through this possible phase without experiencing it...!</p> <p>With that said, I was pretty upset when my in-laws were in town this weekend. LO is in a "loving Dogs yet so afraid of them" phase. He loves to watch them, he would point out a dog and scream "DOGGGGGG" in excitement but he is so afraid of them when the dogs come check him out. So grandpa and LO were sitting on a big swing and looking at the dogs while me and DH were sitting on another. There were 2 dogs in quite a distance, and LO seemed intimidated and snuggled up to grandpa. Grandpa started saying something like, "don't worry, I'll protect you and kick them if they approach!" I tolerated it the first time he said it, but I was furious when he said it another time and I said loudly, that is wrong! Please don't teach my son about violence, and you should not attack animals or anything for that matter! I 've been so thankful that LO is not exhibiting any violent or hitting /biting behavior, I would be so mad if someone undoes this for us. Grrrr.</p> <p>I hope it is a phase for you and it passes soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105244 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 11:08:47 +0000 autumnlove 1105244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I could use some tips too. LO doesn't slap other kids but she is soooooooo rough with the baby. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105217 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 11:00:36 +0000 Lindsay05 1105217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD had this phase. She would come up to DH and I and slap us repeatedly in the face and laugh. We would grab her hands and tell her no and she would just laugh. So we ignored the behaviour. Anytime we knew she was going to do it we would redirect or just move and do something else. Anything mischievious she does she always looks at us for a response. So no response almost always equaled end of behaviour. Lots of times instead of hitting she would kiss us and we made that a HUGE deal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105171 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:51:24 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1105171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD thinks it's hilarious to hit and kick us right now (20 months). I'm assuming it's just a phase, but it's definitely a crappy one. I think it just takes a lot of talking to her and distractions to keep her from using that as crutch when she's not happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105116 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:40:13 +0000 bpcmarj 1105116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: Yeah, that seems tough. We ended the playdate when she hit her friend ("Ok, well, we don't hit our friends and since you are we can't play together anymore today"), and the second time we were at a playground, so I brought her over to the bench and told her that she had to have a break because she was hitting her friend. It's so tough....ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1105034 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:25:34 +0000 Lozza 1105034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that's hard. 16 months is a tough age, I think- I feel like their physical development and emotions are kind of beyond their ability to reason and be reasoned with, so in a way I feel like it's easier when they're older and you can talk to them about why hitting is bad, how it makes people feel, etc.<br /> I think LOTS of kids hit occasionally, and as another parent I'm pretty unfazed by it - as long as I feel like the parents take it seriously. I know every parent and every child handles discipline differently, but I will say that we have friends whose daughter hits sometimes, and DH and I find it really frustrating that when she does so, her parents will say "[child's name]! We do NOT hit people!" and then she'll cry for 15 seconds, but nothing else happens. She's not removed from the situation, there's no more discussion... there are essentially no consequences. It barely interrupts her playtime. And when she was younger, it might have been genuine, but she's almost three, and it totally feels like she's playing them. She knows she can misbehave essentially with impunity, so she does- moreso than the other kids in our group of friends who know that hitting means you lose whatever toy you were playing with, or that you automatically get removed from the situation for a break or a time out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hittingslapping#post-1104951 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:11:26 +0000 bpcmarj 1104951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I guess I have the child that hits other kids.</p> <p>For the past week or so, I have been told that P (16 months) has been hitting kids at daycare. Not hard and not necessarily in a mean way, but still she is hitting. Then we were playing the the neighbor and she just hit her in the face out of the blue. And she slapped both me and her Dad in the face this weekend.</p> <p>I would love to give excuses on why she is doing this, and sometimes I can. When she hit me and her Dad, it was because she asked us to do something (put her down or get up) and we didn't. So it was obviously out of frustration. When we were having the playdate, it was dinner/bedtime and she was teething...so I think it may have just been overtired, hungry, and in pain. The next time we saw the same little girl, P looked at me, wagged her finger and said "no no no" and then slapped her. So, she obviously knows she is not supposed to do it.</p> <p>She doesn't respond when I say no. DH told her no once this weekend and she cried sad tears and hugged us both. She will say sorry. I guess I am just wondering if this is a phase? Does every kid go through a hitting thing or do I have the kid that other Mom's won't want theirs playing with? ;) How do I address this? </p>